Giving them tomorrow to give me an answer:
I called 4 different Toyota Dealership parts departments and told them the part I needed (not even the fact that where it attaches is bent - just for the part) and all 4 said it was frame replacement, and that they could get a frame if i needed it. I took that data to the body shop along with this, Toyota CRIB #180,
So no junkyard parts, and since you cant get OEM part from Toyota it should be frame swap. The body shop is in full agreement and talked to their Toyota top certified rep?(RTFL/RTLP or something like that) who agrees it should be frame swap so the shop is on my side and I now have some more horsepower behind that notion.
Waiting to find out what their instance company says tomorrow (still thinking about bringing mine in depending on what they say) - Ill call anyway and find out the ramifications of going that route.
exhausted - but not giving up the fight - If it isn't totaled I want it structurally and mechanically and cosmetically the same before the accident.
Keeping up the good fight!