Aftermarket upper control arm slop on 1 yr old second rebuild

I installed a 3" lift 5 yrs ago now and have rebuilt it once for the open faced ball joints filling w dirt and getting sloppy, in turn the uca shaft getts some play in it, then before you know it, the wheel bearings can't take the heat and blow out. So back to the drawing board.. again!!
Any one have any experience w this issue want to comment on their rebuild and if they went w a kit better thought out, or what; Bite the bullet and expect to rebuild the front end every 2 yrs... Is it time to get sassy??