My wife and I have been at odds for a couple months now regarding his eating habits. My son will be two in October. As of late he only eats crap food. His main staples are nuggets with ranch, fries with ranch, goldfish, pretzels, poptarts, and waffles or multi-grain cheerios in the morning. He does like juice and milk, thankfully.
Last night was the straw that broke the camel's back. After refusing to eat some dinner the wife broke out the goldfish and I blew my top. Tactful, yet very heated exchanges ensued (arguing in anger in front of our son is not an option) and we haven't spoken to each other since.
My wife's philosophy is that this is just a phase and getting him to eat anything is better than nothing. She also states that he is learning independence through being picky and most kids go through this phase.
To me, this is unacceptable. My philosophy is that we are enabling our son to choose what to eat. We are also teaching him that by refusing something long enough he will eventually get his way. If he gets hungry enough, he'll eat it. I say don't give him an option unless that other option has some nutritional value. Also, our son learning his independence is great, but not when it comes to nutrition. Sorry, the dinner table is not a democracy. Also, I grew up in poor home and I want him to eat better than I did, so I'm pretty anal about it.
Any of you go though this drama? WTF. Am I going overboard?