Originally Posted by j83soldier
really come on at what point did I label this thread "let me be a sissy and whine thread" no I dont have ptsd. I am a person who misses the simplicity of a strickly black and white world.
We never labeled this as a "whine" thread. Agent475, the other posters, and I were agreeing with you that combat is a much simpler existence. Life/Death. Doesn't get much simpler than that. We know somewhat what you're going through and we are offering our own experiences up to try to help a fellow warrior.
Our musings were an attempt to help you out, since you started the thread out "I feel like a bitter, judgmental asshole." That is not a normal thing for people to feel, but it is normal for returning combat vets to feel that. Label it "touchy-feely" if you want, but how can you lead your soldiers if you yourself are off from what was normal for you pre-deployment? That's the point of leadership, you man up and do it first. If you make getting a DUI equal with combat, then there's the disconnect. A soldier/Marine/Coast Guard/whoever deploys, and then has a pattern of misconduct afterwards, there is a root cause, and if you look inwards, then you can find the trigger somewhere on the deployment.
I'm not saying you're wrong in what you feel, but if you care about your soldiers or family, then you'll eventually see our wisdom and make an attempt to change the "bitterness" as you put it. Like it or not, the world has no idea what to do with us who have deployed. They would like to stick us in a glass box that says "Please do not poke with a stick."
If you would rather continue this via PM, then I'm all for it. I'm not trying to air any dirty laundry here or embarrass you in any fashion. I was seriously hurt while on my deployment, and it has haunted me nearly every night for almost 7 years. I've buried close friends and done my share of door kicking. I know what I speak of, and if any of my experiences can help someone like me, then it will have been worth it.
That is not internet posturing, I really believe we can help each other out.