How about you re-enlist? Depending on your MOS, you'll probably get a bonus and if you do it over there it'll be tax free. I'm a little bias on this subject but I think the "living hell" would be a lot worse with no job and no money to support your family. The Marine Corps does have a lot of BS to deal with sometimes but it's about the only way nowadays to get a guaranteed paycheck. I'm sure she doesn't like the deployments but that's what we do.
PS. Marines tend to forget that though we stand by the Marines and Sailors we live. train and fight with when it's all over and the Marine Corps is done with you who will be by your side? I can bet you that it will not be the U.S.M.C.