Having hard time moving on...

So my gf and I broke up about 3 months ago... It wasn't mutual at all, she broke up with me. Now I am figuring out why she really broke up with me. I can go to work and not thinking about her, I can go to school and not think about her. When I am at home I think about her a lot.
Lots of you are going to say there are a lot of fish out there. I have dated a few of them as well, but none of them even compare to her. I took a girl out on a date to see a movie and treated her to some dinner. You know I had a fun time in all.
This new guy my ex is going out with is not good. Him and I were kinda friends back when I was dating my gf but I don't look at him as a friend. Not trying to be rude or anything but he is being a butt hole. I don't even know why the heck she find him attractive... We don't ever talk... I want to talk to her but I know it is going to go down hill even more. I want to build a friendship but I know that we can't have a friendship now. Now I sorta wish we had never went out because when we were just friends I had a good time. I didn't need her to be my gf. We just naturally liked each other before we became gf or bf. I was friends with her for about 1 year before we dated.
I had probably the best memories with her of all the girls I dated. She is the one who introduced me to snowboarding. I love snowboarding and I am glad she took me to the mountain to learn. She would come by the shop while I was working on the truck. She went wheeling with me a few time. I got to know her family pretty well, now they don't want to do anything with me.
The less I see her the more I can move on with my life and I forget about her. When she comes talk to me it bugs me so much. She is so beautiful. Not trying to be rude but I am going to have to blow her off everytime she tries to talk to me.
Say what you guys want to say. I don't care

 

Yeah man, you need some time apart... I'm only friends with one of my ex's and it took a year of not talking at all before we spoke and another 6 months after that to be friends. You're young, let her go, completely and things will fall into place. May not seem like it now but you'll get there.

 

well, any reason you can't go to another city for a few months? stay with some family or friends. your only 20, there can't be that much holding you back...

 

I will say this slowly

Grow...a...pair...and...go...get...laid

 

Here you go.........

 

You're 20! it sucks but damn man... don't be her friend... waste of time.

thats just a straw you are grasping at... just forget her and keep searching for the next one

 

LMFAO!

 

You will move on. It will take time but you will, there are better people out there. I've been where you are at and it's tough, but things will get better.

 

And I completely agree with this, all nice guys just get f@cked in the end. It sucks, haha.

 

The last time I saw her was a few days ago. I have been staying away from her for sometime. I don't want to see her for a good year or two, I don't want her to know what is going on in my life. I had a facebook but I deleted it because I didn't even want to know what is going on in her life.

 

all kidding aside, if it has been three months and she's the one that dropped you, you need to NOT see her. AT ALL!
Total separation is the best bet.
Move on, as hard as it is to do - you have to. I was in a +5 yr relationship that went sour, so I know how it feels.
FWIW - I did not meet my wife until I was 27.
I wish you the best.

 

That is what I figure what I will have to do to get her off my mind.

 

i feel u man...back in march my ex gf broke up with me cuz just out of the blue she was acting so different with me...n didnt wanna hang out...so we talked and argued n she broke it off...(during that whole time i noticed her texting this other dude) 2 weeks later i see her with him and i was like wtf?? so i tried to get the truth bout why she left me n then...her parents block my #, she deletes me from facebook and her life n tells me to never speak to her again...around may she tries to say hi on facebook (she got with that guy bout a month after we broke up) and shes all telling me stuff that has happened to her & blah blah blah...i tell her to not bug me cuz shes with that other guy. months go by n i start to let her go...then we talked, saw eachother and she seemed like she wanted me back (and shes still with that guy) but i told her to just leave me alone...
3years: i loved the time i spend with her...but after all this happened i cant go back.

what u gotta do is chill with ur friends, go out with girls. dont do nething crazy man. trust me. enjoy life man. ur young like me and u gotta get her out of ur system...its a bitch at first but later on u'll be fine...

 

Talk about self control. You did good by doing that, now stop thinking about her and go do things that will take your mind off of her. Get some new hobbies and go out and meet other girls.

 

Why does the nice guy get screwed at the end??? What the heck? Whatever I feel like I am taking this a lot better than her if I had broken up with her...

 

you know that saying "give her the cold shoulder"?

well as corny as it is, do that.

cut all text, email, talk, skype, page, telegraph, letters, any typ of communication off. for i would say a solid 4-6 months...by that time i guarantee she will have texted you saying "im sorry" of some sorts. believe me i have been through the same thing. within 6 months the girl texted me and i had already moved on to bigger and better things. and now i could care less about her. just tough it out for a while. you will get over it man

 

Thanks for your input

 

She won't be txt me back until her relationship with her new bf turns sour. After we broke up, she told me she was having hard time moving on. We were pretty good friend after we broke up. I saw small hints and signs that she still was interested in me. Until her new bf jumped in. She doesn't love him, I know she still has feelings for me. I don't exactly know where I stand emotinoally for her...

 

work on ur truck...thats what i did. lol...it was either think bout her and mess something up, or concentrate and finish the job right

 

Yeah working on the tacoma really keeps my mind of her so does wheeling the truck. I have list of projects for my truck this fall so that should keep my mind preoccupied.