Originally Posted by Rardigo
Fucking bitches, no wonder I am single.
My cousin's babies momma went into his computer and found a bunch of old emails for some other bitches.
Went all belligerent on him, slapped him 3 times before he grabbed her and threw her off him, she fell into the grass and he left when she said GTFO of the house he pays for.
He came back to pick up his surf boards and she maced him with a full can, called the cops, he got arrested for domestic violence and spent the night in jail.
Now he is facing felony domestic charges. I know my cousin, he would NEVER hit a chic, most mello dude out there. Only reason he threw her was cause she was wailing on him, just to get her off of him.
Not the first time she has done this either, she did it to her ex husband. The laws are so fucked on this, the guy is always the bad guy.
I despise people that beat on their family & significant others, regardless of gender. He may have gone to jail, but that's not the end of it. If he's innocent and works the system, he still has a good chance of being exonerated.
Tell him to have decent photos (not shitty cell phone shots) taken of himself immediately, even of uninjured areas. Face, back, chest, hands (both sides), arms, legs, feet, the works. Same for the clothes he was wearing during the fight, and any damage to his vehicle or other property. Take photos of any text messages, emails, FB crap, etc. Make audio recordings of any voicemails. Whoever takes the photos should be prepared to go to court to testify about their content.
Have him write a detailed account about the event, starting before everything went to shit, and ending with his arrest. Keep a log of anything noteworthy after the arrest, too. My guess is he's subject to some kind of court order to stay away from her, and he definitely needs to leave her be. If she tries to bait him into violating the order, he needs to document that in the log and record her attempts, too. He should also try to recall past fights and log those, too.
He needs an attorney tomorrow. They'll know how his local laws work and should help him navigate through all of this, but only if he stays calm and listens. If he needs to collect some things from their place, the attorney can tell him how to do that without violating a court order or otherwise getting himself in trouble. If they have any joint accounts, an attorney can help sort that out, too. If he has any firearms, he better check that he's not currently prohibited from possessing them.
I hope they don't have any kids together. If not, he needs to move on. Once a history of domestic violence is established, it's very difficult to break it and maintain the relationship. Aside from the above, the best thing you can do is be a solid source of support and guidance. It's very easy to let anger take over and that usually ends badly.
Originally Posted by Rich91710
Tell him to get a GOOD lawyer ASAP, and whatever he does, DO NOT ACCEPT A PLEA BARGAIN TO MISDEMEANOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!
Thanks to Senator Lautenberg, Misdemeanor DV carries a lifetime firearms prohibition on the federal level.
A plea is something to consider with an attorney, but I'd be very reluctant to do it. I'd be curious to know what elevated this to a felony charge. Domestic Battery is usually a misdemeanor offense. It usually takes a severe injury (or threat of one), the use of a weapon, etc. to bump it to a felony.