relationship question

So long story short, me and girl dated for 9 months.. she asked if I loved her and I said I dont know and we broke up. That was about a month ago. About 2 weeks after being broken up, I realized how much I really did like this girl and enjoy being with her. I love this girl.

No, this isn't because I am just lonely now or like the security of a relationship. We genuinely got along and had fun together. When she asked me that question, I really didn't know what to say.

Well about 2 weeks ago we started talking again and I told her how I felt. She says shes liking being single at the moment. I know she isn't completely over me as so she says. When we talked last week after I told her how I felt (I really do love you and want you back in my life) we hugged and kissed.

We're going to dinner tonight and she tells me today:

I replied with "I don't expect you to, I am just afraid of losing you".

With that said, I am so confused. Part of me thinks she will want to get back together eventually and on the other hand I dont want her to lead me on. What do you guys think just from what I've said?

 

Based on what you have said, it sounds like she is dating someone else at the moment but want's a back up. I am not sure how either of you are so if your on the younger side of 25 then she could be really just trying to get over her hurt feelings from your previous break up she could now have trust issues with you and does want to take it really really slow this trip. Thats a best guess see if you can check around with out her finding out lol if she is seeing someone else.

 

Sounds like she's playing hard to get dude, probably putting up "the wall" because of what happen the first time around.

 

Jesus fucking christ not this shit again.

 

is she good at making sammiches? If she is, I'd say she's a keeper

 

I'm not sure a truck forum is the best place to seek relationship advice due to the fact that most guys on here are more concerned with how their truck looks than how they themselves look...

I won't claim to be an expert, but I'm also not a newb to this game. If you really care about getting this girl back that much, give her as much space and time as she needs. You've let her know how you feel, now let her decide what to do with it. Don't let her take advantage of you though, move on and live your life, don't sit around waiting for her.

 

We don't know her, so we cant say anything for sure-

I'd say give it time. Keep talking to her and whatnot but don't push too hard just yet.

 

She's hurt. She asked you if you love her, you said you didn't know and she felt like a fool.

Two weeks later, you want to get close again.

Back and forth.

She trusted you with her heart and was hurt. Now she's protecting it. Plain and simple.

It's going to take a while before she lets you back in again. But keep in mind that if she is hurt real bad then she won't want to risk that again.

Hope all works out for the best between you two.

 

Sounds to me like you are being setup to be wipped....over and over again. She's moved on buddy, like you should too! Next time, lie your ass off, and tell her you love her too!

PS. Tell me what you think LOVE is, and we can continue this discussion!!!

 

My opinion... damage is done, call it what it was and move on. It sounds like if you keep going the road you're heading down, you'll be having this same conversation in a matter of weeks, you may give her the answer she wants to hear but she won't believe you. You either need to pull off something big to show her you really are sincere or cut ties and move on. If I were you, I'd choose the latter.

 

Either way; you'll live.

 

Well I think best thing i took from this conversation is just give her her space and if she wants back I guess leave her to it. Thanks all for the actual responses and not the flames but of you must no, she is probably terrible at makig sandwiches so I guess I just move on

 

Ahahahahaha!

QFT

 

Bitches...... Fuck 'em

 

My advice after going through something similar is make a clean break. She is obviously dating because of her comment of "I like being single." Best thing you can do for yourself is to tell her how you feel, which you have done then say I won't wait forever. Then get back on that horse and date and lay every girl under the sun and don't talk to her. If she wants you back she will call if not you will find someone else, trust me. The worst thing you can do is continue to talk to her and not move on while she does.

 

Isn't that what all men want partly...?

 

and thats what she said...

sorry i couldn't help it!

 

Your to young to be worried with this. Move on and worry about where you are going to get the money from for your next set of tires for your Tacoma.

 

MOVE ON SON! Too many fishies in the water to mess with a light biter...

 

^^^ YES PLEASE...