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Suicide

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by 04LTtacoma, Aug 21, 2014.

  1. Aug 21, 2014 at 5:14 PM
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    04LTtacoma

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    So about a month ago two incidents happened in my life... Don't worry I didn't attempt suicide...


    I had a good friend of mine who took his life at age 20. He took his life right before he goes on this yearly Summer camping trip with his friends and family. The only message he left behind was "sorry". I wasn't really given the details as to why he took his life. I think it could have been a girl he recently broke up with as well suffering from depression...


    I recently got out of a short term relationship with this women who had similar problems as far as suicide goes.

    We met at school one day, she was having relationship problems with a fiancé. He refused to get counseling so she was going about leaving him in the wrong way and I got manipulated and lied to badly.
    While we were friend she tried to take her life... While we were dating she cut her wrist and tried to take her life again... By the way she has a son who is 4 years old... After taking your own life how is her child going to be raised? The son's father doesn't want anything to do with him and his mother is trying to kill herself? I think her fiancé was the reason she was doing these things to herself because he refuse to change until I came into the picture...

    The "venting" part.
    So she ends up going back to him even though he got so violent with her a few times while she had her son in her presence. He sternly told her son right to his face "your mom is a dumb bitch" "a fucken slut" blah blah blah... She also found out he was seeing or about to see someone else. This made me realize she was over the top crazy. She contacts the women who was about to meet with her ex fiancé at the time... What the heck???

    He sent me a few txt msg harassing me, contemplating to come beat my butt even though I didn't do anything to him.

    So when she goes back to him she still txt me that she loves me, still wants to be friends, misses me blah blah... I couldn't take it anymore so I decided to bail.

    I asked her to call me when she got the chance... No call so I sent her this long txt msg as to why I am leaving...

    Her reply: okay goodbye..
    ....
    Her: good luck
    ...
    Her again: Wait, can we talk once more before we go on our separate ways?
    ...
    She calls me... I didn't answer...
    ...
    Then she talks shit about me to this guy who doesn't like me for no apparent reason... Well she was banging me instead of him so that is why he hated me.

    So she txt me a bunch of crap... She finally gets a hold of me. I tell her she is crazy and has problems... She gets all offended, starts to defend the fiancé and attacks me instead!

    A month later she contacts me on facebook, asks me a question about a cover photo... I didn't reply and blocked her...


    Why do people go about killing themselves and undergo so much drama when depressed or having problems? Life is short as it is... Why take your life right away? Personally, I wish her and I never got involved with each other.
     
  2. Aug 21, 2014 at 5:18 PM
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    Justus

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    you will never know until your the one.

    shit happens and sometimes we get tired of dealing with it.

    whats worse is that its a fucking crime and u get locked up.

    land of the free, my ass
     
  3. Aug 21, 2014 at 5:32 PM
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    T-Rex266

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    OP: sorry for your loss. IMO, utilizing suicide is just a selfish permanent solution to a problem that can be resolved with support and guidance from others.

    For the female part....I would just stay away from her. The boyfriend is a coward from the sounds of it.
     
  4. Aug 21, 2014 at 5:36 PM
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    its not always permanent atleast :cheers: I spent 3 days touch and go
    and I agree about the BF being a coward
     
  5. Aug 21, 2014 at 5:53 PM
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    SpeedoJosh

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    I'm not suicidal or depressed, but I disagree that's it's selfish. The brain is a powerful thing. People who say it's selfish usually don't have first hand experience. It's their life, do as they please. If they find it's too painful to live in this world, then that's on them. It's more selfish of the other people to expect someone to live in pain to satisfy someone else.

    Suicide isn't selfish, it's sad. It's sad people have to deal with so much depression and pain that their only escape is suicide. Also, sad for the love ones who have to deal with the loss.
     
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    There are ways to deal with life... How do you get locked up if you are dead? :confused:
     
  7. Aug 21, 2014 at 5:56 PM
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    I think it's somewhat selfish though because it's an easy way out of your problems, not thinking about the people who love you and care about you.

    The parents of the friend who took his life his parents have to deal with the loss of their son for the rest of their lives..

    People can recover from depression if they go about it the right way.
     
  8. Aug 21, 2014 at 6:00 PM
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    Don't care enough to fight for your life, don't expect me to give a shit when you decide to off yourself. That's the way I look at it. When I was in H.S. my guidance counselor killed himself, I thought that was pretty ironic.
     
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    why though?
     
  10. Aug 21, 2014 at 6:02 PM
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    Why did he kill himself? Or why don't I feel bad for people that do?
     
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    its a chemical imbalance in the brain , and has allot to do with depression .they cant help it without help and medication . I am in the medical field .
     
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    Its a way to keep people safe after they have a failed attempt I would guess. So that they can get some help instead of being released from the hospital to go right back home.
     
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    Why he kill himself?
     
  14. Aug 22, 2014 at 1:40 PM
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    So the chick I was with for awhile is psycho?
     
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    Sub'd for when I can sit down and type a full response.
     
  16. Aug 22, 2014 at 1:50 PM
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    I had a co worker do commit suicide. I didn't know what was going on with her life but she had 3 boys, divorced and was dating another coworker who was a hunter. She eventually killed herself with his guns. I felt bad for the kids.

    On the other hand I knew someone who was in a bad motorcycle accident and was left in a wheelchair. He wrote a pretty touching letter on why he was committing suicide. He didn't have much family. Having a drastic change in your life circumstances like that can really affect someone.
     
  17. Aug 22, 2014 at 1:56 PM
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    My friend taking his life took a small toll on me, but this whole crap fest with this chick hit me hard. At this point I am just staying the heck away from her because I can't put up with all the drama she creates.

    I swear I've been lined up with all women who have problems and I can't get a decent one.
     
  18. Aug 22, 2014 at 1:57 PM
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    Hold up I'm a little confused with the suicide part. So your friend was with the same crazy chick you were with? Then took his life. So there's you and 2 other guys in the picture correct? And one crazy chick
     
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    Sorry, two different stories. Buddy who took his life at age 20 is a different story than the chick I was with for a few months.
     
  20. Aug 22, 2014 at 2:30 PM
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    Ok I was about to say...
    Chicks can be crazy though.
     

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