annoying... kinda

dud122 · 05-16-2009, 03:01 PM

my gf birthday is may 1... mine is may 23

i've noticed over the last 5 years that i've been with my girl that how much i spend on her for her bday is how much gets spent on my bday

she has always had more bank than i but i guess it will always be that way... this year i treated her right... dinner, spa, concert... and i'm getting a new bumper for my truck

but still... shouldn't it be unconditional??

maybe i'm just cursed that her bday is so close before mine

Brunes · 05-16-2009, 03:07 PM

I'm sure it isn't that she doesn't love you or not to get you more...My wife and I keep our presents pretty well matched value wise- Like this year she got a spa treatment and some craft stuff she has been wanting...and she got my WO seat covers for me-
So next year I'll prolly try to bring my A game and get her something AMAZING...but it's not needed- It's the thought that counts.

The whole "she's got more bank" sounds alot like "She's got more so she should spend more" to me...Are the gift thoughtful or useful or something you asked for in specific?? Then between getting what you want and having her...I'd say you win!!

dud122 · 05-16-2009, 03:14 PM

i guess more explaining should go into the "bank" comment

i've never had a lump sum of money to rest on.... she has... but it seems like she doesn't put thought into my gift until shortly before my bday and it always seems relative to her gift....

my gift is always based on what i can afford at the time... i would go broke on her if i could...nothing is ever good enough

see what i mean?

i would be happy with dinner at home for my bday... but it always seems to match whatever i get

dud122 · 05-16-2009, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Brunes

...but it's not needed- It's the thought that counts.

it just seems like more thought goes into "what can i get him that is worth what he got me... not what can i get him that i really want to get him

dud122 · 05-16-2009, 03:18 PM

and i'm not questioning how much she loves me either... i know we are getting married one day... its just a wierd thing that it seems like she doesn't put as much thought into

Brunes · 05-16-2009, 03:18 PM

::nods:: I see where you are coming from...It's hard to tell man.

Like I said...my wife and I tend to match pretty close what we spend...We are on different sides of the year tho- So maybe that makes some difference. A few times I've asked for something to get paid off/paid for (like our new bed) insted of a gift...All kinda depends I guess...::shrug::

Krazie Sj · 05-17-2009, 12:35 AM

Yeah, that's kinda crap I have to admit. I try to keep a limit, but we've had a few talks about how much we've spent on each other.

BTW - My best friend of 19 years has the same Birthday as you. Rock on.

cleanTRDmachine · 05-17-2009, 12:38 AM

plain and simple...chicks presents to guys suck compared to our presents to them

WNYTACOMA · 05-17-2009, 08:41 AM

While i appreciate anything my girl gets for me, i tell her to not get carried away and to save her money.

That being said, i too feel somewhat obligated to spend at least in the ballpark of what she spends on me, even with the clear understanding that it is not a competition.

SaltySteve · 05-17-2009, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by dud122

this year i treated her right... dinner, spa, concert... and i'm getting a new bumper for my truck

Quote:

Originally Posted by dud122

it just seems like more thought goes into "what can i get him that is worth what he got me... not what can i get him that i really want to get him

No offense dude but although dinner, spa, and a concert is a very nice gift, it's not necessarily a tailor made gift. It's pretty general. You could've replaced the concert with flowers and gave a gift similar to what most unimaginative guys in the world give.

She's getting you a new bumper. Whether you asked for it or she knew you wanted it it's still pretty F'in cool and shows that she knows what you want and what you're in to.

Not trying to poo on your parade. Just giving you a different opinion. And I do think your gift was nice.

Try making her something next year and see what she gets you. I made my girl a sick jewelry box one year and she loved it.

dud122 · 05-17-2009, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by SaltySteve

No offense dude but although dinner, spa, and a concert is a very nice gift, it's not necessarily a tailor made gift. It's pretty general. You could've replaced the concert with flowers and gave a gift similar to what most unimaginative guys in the world give.

She's getting you a new bumper. Whether you asked for it or she knew you wanted it it's still pretty F'in cool and shows that she knows what you want and what you're in to.

Not trying to poo on your parade. Just giving you a different opinion. And I do think your gift was nice.

Try making her something next year and see what she gets you. I made my girl a sick jewelry box one year and she loved it.

homemade gifts always kickass but what i got her isn't as generic as it may seem...

flowers... ok i guess thats generic but she really likes the kind i got her

concert... her favorite band

dinner... i let her go through all my cookbooks and she comes up with a multi course meal which i then prepare for her... this year was french onion soup, cheesy roasted veggie lasagna w/ garlic bread, and key lime pie

spa... something she had never experienced but definately deserved

she asked me what i wanted for my bday, i said bumper, she said ok

i think a lot of this is coming across wrong as i read over it... i am extremely appreciative of whatever she decides to do for my bday, i know she loves me and i love her... like i said before... its just a wierd thing that she doesn't tend to put a lot of thought into

SaltySteve · 05-17-2009, 01:45 PM

Why do you hate your GF soooo much?!?

Just kidding man and i was just playing devil's advocate. I meant no disrespect.

Have you ever brought this up to her? Next time when she asks what you want tell her you want something that she thinks you'd like. Everybody needs more socks anyways.

What's Christmas like?

lifesaflaw123 · 05-17-2009, 01:48 PM

i typically spend about 4x as much for stuff for my gf than my gf spends for me. She said she always wants to get me what i want, but i either buy it first, or she has no idea what to get cause its so specific and she doesn't wanna get me the wrong thing.

05-16-2009, 03:01 PM	#1
dud122 rabble rabble rabble Joined: Nov 2008, #10566 Location: Baltimore, MD Age: 24 Gender: Male Posts: 1,458 02 TRD DC 4x4 SR5 2002 Double Cab Automatic 3.4l V6 Deck Plate'd, Grey Wire'd, AFE Pro Dry S Drop'd, Rockers Herc'd, Tails Tint'd	annoying... kinda my gf birthday is may 1... mine is may 23 i've noticed over the last 5 years that i've been with my girl that how much i spend on her for her bday is how much gets spent on my bday she has always had more bank than i but i guess it will always be that way... this year i treated her right... dinner, spa, concert... and i'm getting a new bumper for my truck but still... shouldn't it be unconditional?? maybe i'm just cursed that her bday is so close before mine

05-16-2009, 03:07 PM	#2
Brunes Pray for CG1705 and the Cobra Crew Name: Mark Joined: May 2008, #7011 Location: Panhandle, Florida Age: 25 Gender: Dude Posts: 5,820 08 Red/Graphite and Black 2008 Access Cab Manual 1GR-FE: 4L V6 Debadge, Tint, LiteRider Tonneau with Locker Handle, 5 Pc Black Billet Grill, Black Rims, IPod Adapter, Red and Black Wet Okole Seats, Black Weathertechs. 885's and TC UCAs and Wheelers 3 pack AAL with OME Shocks and extended brake lines. Revenge Fabrication 82" Kickout sliders	I'm sure it isn't that she doesn't love you or not to get you more...My wife and I keep our presents pretty well matched value wise- Like this year she got a spa treatment and some craft stuff she has been wanting...and she got my WO seat covers for me- So next year I'll prolly try to bring my A game and get her something AMAZING...but it's not needed- It's the thought that counts. The whole "she's got more bank" sounds alot like "She's got more so she should spend more" to me...Are the gift thoughtful or useful or something you asked for in specific?? Then between getting what you want and having her...I'd say you win!! __________________ Namaste Brunes

05-16-2009, 03:18 PM	#6
Brunes Pray for CG1705 and the Cobra Crew Name: Mark Joined: May 2008, #7011 Location: Panhandle, Florida Age: 25 Gender: Dude Posts: 5,820 08 Red/Graphite and Black 2008 Access Cab Manual 1GR-FE: 4L V6 Debadge, Tint, LiteRider Tonneau with Locker Handle, 5 Pc Black Billet Grill, Black Rims, IPod Adapter, Red and Black Wet Okole Seats, Black Weathertechs. 885's and TC UCAs and Wheelers 3 pack AAL with OME Shocks and extended brake lines. Revenge Fabrication 82" Kickout sliders	::nods:: I see where you are coming from...It's hard to tell man. Like I said...my wife and I tend to match pretty close what we spend...We are on different sides of the year tho- So maybe that makes some difference. A few times I've asked for something to get paid off/paid for (like our new bed) insted of a gift...All kinda depends I guess...::shrug:: __________________ Namaste Brunes

05-17-2009, 12:38 AM	#8
cleanTRDmachine =Fight Dirty= Joined: Mar 2008, #5432 Location: Bethlehem, PA Gender: Male Posts: 559 06 dblcab TRD 2006 Double Cab Automatic 4.0 tint, gray camo seat covers, debadged, color matched grille surround off of 06 TRD sport, grillecraft black mesh grille, Hella 500's, Demudflapped	plain and simple...chicks presents to guys suck compared to our presents to them __________________

05-17-2009, 01:48 PM	#13
lifesaflaw123 don't hate me cause i'm a prerunner Name: Paul Joined: Oct 2008, #10334 Location: Huntsville/Auburn, Alabama Age: 20 Gender: Male Posts: 2,937 08 Prerunner DC/SB TRD Sport 2008 Double Cab Automatic 4.0L V6 OME N140s front shocks w/ 885 coils, 2" toytec aal in the rear!!! Satoshi Grill, Lock/unlock chirp (both my writeups) DTRL mod, Alternating turn signal mod, Nav head unit w/ back up camera, tonneau cover, foglight mod, some debadging, 20% tint all around, Locking bed cubby's, 12-volt plug in bed, kc slimlites behind the grill, pa/cb set up, way too much really...	i typically spend about 4x as much for stuff for my gf than my gf spends for me. She said she always wants to get me what i want, but i either buy it first, or she has no idea what to get cause its so specific and she doesn't wanna get me the wrong thing. __________________ My satoshi write up. LOCK/UNLOCK Chirp for DTRL and Alternating turn signal modders My build My Smurf build

05-16-2009, 03:14 PM	#3
dud122 rabble rabble rabble Joined: Nov 2008, #10566 Location: Baltimore, MD Age: 24 Gender: Male Posts: 1,458 02 TRD DC 4x4 SR5 2002 Double Cab Automatic 3.4l V6 Deck Plate'd, Grey Wire'd, AFE Pro Dry S Drop'd, Rockers Herc'd, Tails Tint'd	i guess more explaining should go into the "bank" comment i've never had a lump sum of money to rest on.... she has... but it seems like she doesn't put thought into my gift until shortly before my bday and it always seems relative to her gift.... my gift is always based on what i can afford at the time... i would go broke on her if i could...nothing is ever good enough see what i mean? i would be happy with dinner at home for my bday... but it always seems to match whatever i get

05-17-2009, 08:41 AM	#9
WNYTACOMA Senior Member Joined: Nov 2008, #10961 Location: Clarence, New York Gender: Male Posts: 578 09 Metalic Grey TRD OFF ROAD 2009 Double Cab Automatic Toyota Nerf steps Bugflector 2 Tool box Weathertech floor liners Wet Okole F/R - Bk/Char	While i appreciate anything my girl gets for me, i tell her to not get carried away and to save her money. That being said, i too feel somewhat obligated to spend at least in the ballpark of what she spends on me, even with the clear understanding that it is not a competition.

05-17-2009, 01:45 PM	#12
SaltySteve Moo Name: Steve Joined: Apr 2009, #16293 Location: Denver Age: 33 Gender: Male Posts: 748 hopefully soon to come 2009 Double Cab Automatic	Why do you hate your GF soooo much?!? Just kidding man and i was just playing devil's advocate. I meant no disrespect. Have you ever brought this up to her? Next time when she asks what you want tell her you want something that she thinks you'd like. Everybody needs more socks anyways. What's Christmas like?

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