Another Girl Question

As I sit here studying for finals I keeping getting distracted by this problem I have bugging me.

I have met a girl and have started dating her bf gf for about 2 months now. Shes fun, cute, my family loves her just a great girl for me to date, and I really do like her and care about her but there just something missing in the way I feel about her. She comes from a family where her mom runs the house and is very controlling so naturally she is somewhat controlling and wants to spend all of our time together, wants to drop the "L" bomb all the time and all that stuff. Which I just don't think I'm ready for. But should I just stay in it and see if things get better and just roll with the punches.

I have a girl who I have known for a long time always wanted to date her but she is more of a party and have a good time girl not a girl you take home to mama. I ran into this girl today at school and we talked for a little while and she text me tonight and told me that she really doesn't want to lose me and she wants us to try and date. I really like this girl, we always have a good time together shes very cute just a fun person. Probably a good girl to date during college.

I have no idea what to do. I came to the forum because I know that I can get very honest unbiased opinions here and I know there are alot of guys out there who have been through this something.

I know that I didn't go into great detail but yall get the idea.

Girl A is a great girl all around good girl to date get serious with and marry. But I just don't have the feelings for her I feel like im forcing the whole thing and im just not that happy all the time like I think I should be.

Girl B is a ton of fun always a good time, who knows what it'll turn into probably not much. Parents aren't to fond of her but who cares. Always have a good time with her and im only freakin 21 why in the hell am I even saying the word marriage in this thread haha Im in college I need to have fun and find an old lady after im done and out.

 

if i could only go back in time!

you are 21 years old, have as much fun as possible without getting into trouble with the law. period.

have a nice day,

eddie (i just turned 40)

 

seems like you made your decision in that last part.

 

my advice go with b. you say get serious and marry your 21. you say you dont have feelings for her and your forcing it. have fun now and dont force anything just go with the flow. in the end it turns out the way it should be.

 

you pretty much answered your own question seems like you just want us to tell you to what to do.

 

Ya I understand that I pretty much answered myself haha. But I don't know I know that im just being stupid and for some reason Im hung up on this girl.

But I know that im young and i should be having fun not worrying about if the relationships going to work.

 

Go with girl B of course... Tell girl A to call you in 15 to 20 years.

 

Man your young. Just have fun and be a little selfish.

Personally, I'd stick with the one that swallows the goop!!

 

I think its just the fact that we don't click perfectly. I think thats the big thing that is killing the vib with us. I want to go drink, 4wheel, have fun be 21 and she wants to watch movies and it just be us 2 all the time like we are married. I know that this comes with the relationship thing and I enjoy that stuff but not all the time.

I'm making a big deal out of nothing.

It shouldnt be hard it should come easy and I should enjoy it not worry about it. haha

 

Dude thats gonna be my new modo I do believe haha. It goes hand and hand with swallow or its going in your eye.

 

i'm 45,met my wife when i was 31,she was 19.we have been married now for 14 years,have three children,bills out the ying yang,and to many troubles to list.i hope this helps you with your decision.

 

+1 billion.

 

I'd go with Girl A. She's more dependable and sounds like a keeper.
Don't be disappointed when Girl B cheats on you and leaves you a couple of months later. it seems like she really only wants you because you're in a relationship and dating a girl. i.e. a homewrecker. Some people are mentally off and love breaking people up/causing unnecessary drama.
Also, if you dump Girl A and go out with Girl B later, than Girl A is going to gossip and spread the word around to all her little girlfriends and tell them that you have herpes/the HIV. Therefore, you won't be getting a whole lot around that scene. If you get what I mean?

*sidenote- All girls LOVE to control and be dominant. Every girl is dominant is one way or another. You just got to pick and choose what you don't mind being in control of.

 

I say if you do not feel like there is much of a future with Girl A and she feels like there is then you need to end it (easier said than done). Girl B sounds like she would be fun, but she said wants to date so she is looking at a relationship so you gotta bring family into the equation. Family has always been a huge part with me.

 

You have only been dating the girl for two months!!
My last girl friend was like this too. she would of made a perfect wife but im far from ready to settle down.
I knew i wanted out when wanted us to read some relationship books so we could have a stronger connection. WTF??

You two should still be in the honeymoon phase of the relationship so having problems this early is a bad sign.
I've have great regrets in my life, biggest one being that I went for the prerunner instead of a 4X4, but i know that theres plenty of tacomas in the sea.

 

I'm guessing your gonna eventually have to do this no matter what choice you make.

Yes you are young and you could hit it with the party chick, but travel wise. Many people wake up from that dream in their mid-thirties wishing they had made a different choice. Contrarily, be glad you have a choice.

 

Play your cards right and do both...

 

X2 variety is the spice of life.

 

To the OP:

You are 21 years old. In your wallet you should have three things son, so take inventory.

1. Some cash
2. Condoms
3. Union Pipe Layers card

Now do work

 

c*ntrol=suck

Been there, done that, FTA, go for the fun one! The worst that could happen is you have a great time.