I need to vent..you all are the only people around

Two things i would highly recommend. One is a counselor to help yourself, AND the kids get through the situation as smoothly as possible. Two, a good Attorney.

 

My sister. One of the only family members who I can still have a relationship with.

 

damn. sorry man. very selfish of her to not talk to you about it and make it work.

 

i wouldnt even know what to say if my mom just walked out like that, how was the kids relationship with their mom?

 

Wow man, I am sorry to hear this...Did you have any idea this could have been coming? Have you talked to her since she left?

 

It was amazing I thought. (which I thought our marriage was too) Our kids are so amazing. Honors students, respectful. all a parent could ask for.

 

The only thing I can think of is some emails I saw a glimpse of a month or so ago. She was very quick to change the screen, and she was quick to convince me of it as nothing. I trusted her so much.

 

We're praying for you, keep your head up and hang in there.

 

damn that really sucks, i hope everything works out for you and your two kids. that was really low what she did to you.

 

x2

 

That sucks man....

Everyone is ganging up on her for leaving when nobody really knows why.

Sure - she left a note. Or did she? God forbid if something really bad happened to her and that's just a cover-up.

What's your GUT feeling tell you?

If I were you, seek some counseling. Then - if you really love this woman, then get out there and FIND HER!!!! In your own heart & mind, you need closure and you need to know WHY. When you do find her - it might not be a happy ending (or could it?), but atleast you stuck your heart and soul out there for yourself and the kids - who ALL deserve answers.

And I'm hoping and praying this has all been a mis-understanding and she just needed some time away....

 

Man, all I can say is wow and that i'm sorry. I agree that time heals all wounds but maybe you'd be better off not knowing what "spice" she was looking for. It may hurt worse ya know? Just keep tight with your friends as you'll need them now more than ever. Just keep your head up man. I'm also sorry to hear thats there's children in the middle of this. The important thing is to let them know how much you love them and to assure them that this wasn't there fault. I've recently come to realize in my own personal life that the lord works in mysterious ways and that everything happens for a reason. I know its hard to see a brighter side in this...but sometimes the night is darkest just before dawn. Prayers sent your way...

 

Im feeling what Janster said

 

You need a really good lawyer man. She is having a mid life crisis. Don't be surprised if the kids vanish next.

You need to protect the family assets for the children. Sucks but happened to my buddy two years ago. Happy married to a total nightmare in one day he said.

 

I'm not. With the emails and crap sounds like she's found something more appealing. Second, if there were no signs of a struggle which I'm sure he would have seen, she's gone on her own accord.

Don't forget to list your credit cards as stolen.

 

Keep ya head up man. You gotta keep trekking for your kids. I bet they are just as confused as you are but you have to look to them and they are looking to you for answers.

 

x2

 

Here is what you need to do INSTANTLY. Cancel all you cards and change your bank accounts. Get a print out of activity on the previous accounts for the last 6 months if you can. Find the damn bank statements or get duplicates from the bank. See a lawyer instantly. You need to get legal custody of your children. Phone who ever has them and tell them the wife is not to see the children under any circumstances. Get that damn paperwork in order as soon as you can. You can petition the courts for a emergency child custody hearing, even if it's only temporary.

Who has the kids wins by default.

The missing money will be a nail in her coffin in front of some future judge. She will have to pay it all back and then some.

As difficult as it will be you must do it for the sake of the children. You can phone the credit card companies 24 hours a day. do it now.

 

X2! As hard as it is emotionally having to deal with what she has done to you and your children, try to get a handle on all of legal/financial stuff ASAP!

I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you.

 

Also, make sure you get the kids. If she ends up with them she may fill their heads with lies and turn them against you. Then you will have nothing. Sorry about your situation.