Well looks like it's over

thebigk · 02-07-2009, 02:40 PM

Been married 12 yrs, 9 months & 7 days...........but looks like that's it.

We haven't been getting along for a while.......a few months I guess. She's been the biggest bitch I have ever seen in that time. I quit telling her I love her, have had sex maybe 3 times in 2 months. I pretty much quit having anything to do with her.

Today we went grocery shopping and she noticed my shoe was untied on the way in. I popped off with one of my comedic acts and said....well if you noticed it why didn't you just go ahead and tie it.

My son chuckled and I kind of snickered (I crack these little gems alot so it's not like it's anything new) and she goes off

I told her hey..I'm just playing.....and she continues to bitch at me all the way into the store. I ignore her the rest of the time in WalMart, I don't empty the cart at the checout like I usually do, I got in the Nitro without loading the groceries, we came home & I didn't unload the groceries.

No talking at all the whole time in the store or when we get home.

I finally get the nerve to ask about lunch. WOOPS! Big mistake. She goes off again.

I finally tell her....have you not fucking noticed how I don't call you, tell you I love you, have sex with you, or have anything to do with you and that I want a divorce!

She snapped. I told her I hadn't been in love with her in a while and this was the last argument my son would see between us.

She started accusing me of sleeping around (I don't) and all kinds of crap.

Well to make a looooooonnnnngggg story short, she pretty much packed up 90% of everyhting she owns & left. I told her to pull $1500 out of the checking for now and we would work on splitting up the assets later.

I'm sad....but feel this sensation of relief! I could not take her 1 more day.

My 9yr old son is pretty upset but not mad at either one of us so that's a good thing.

Just trying to figure out where to go from here.......we lived together before we married so I ain't been single in 14yrs

Ok I'm done ranting.....I need a beer

chris4x4 · 02-07-2009, 02:44 PM

Sorry to hear, Buddy.

DanGer · 02-07-2009, 02:49 PM

definitely sorry to hear! once your ready to open up your options use the taco to pick up some ladies! haha jk best of luck to you and i'll crack open a longdistance beer with ya tonight

hoosiertaco · 02-07-2009, 03:10 PM

I wish I could help........so sorry for the pain

oldtacomaguy · 02-07-2009, 04:20 PM

Sorry to hear this man. I really don't know what to say except I hope things work out for the best, whatever direction you decide to go.

Don G · 02-07-2009, 04:34 PM

A sad, sad story indeed. There are no winners in this story! ! Especially your son. God bless you all!!

paintdiddy · 02-07-2009, 04:37 PM

kill her, bury her in the yard and tell your son she ran away.....only kidding...i think. sucks man.your not alone and some of us feel your pain. maybe things will work out for the best.

RoyB · 02-07-2009, 04:42 PM

sorry to hear man, thats a long time. have you guys talked about this before? maybe just a misunderstanding that has built up over time?

rick · 02-07-2009, 04:42 PM

sorry to hear that big. me and my girl split a few months ago. i guess i shouldn't have told her f you and fuck off, she's still not over it.

Women you can't live without them and you can't kill em

JC870 · 02-07-2009, 04:43 PM

Sorry to hear man.... life's too short to be miserable though. Hope all goes as well as these things possibly could.

AK27 · 02-07-2009, 04:46 PM

sorry to hear man.

Canada · 02-07-2009, 04:51 PM

I will say "that sucks" because no one wins in a situation like that, but I will say good for you, because life's too short to be so miserable, regardless of the situation. Keep your stick on the ice.

HighPlains · 02-07-2009, 04:55 PM

Sorry to hear man. Sometimes, I think I am somewhere in between myself....it's just that she has such a good job and a nice ass. I need her more than she needs me. I'm screwed if she figures it out.

pat's taco · 02-07-2009, 04:57 PM

sorry to hear about this big. i hope everything works out for ya

squad314 · 02-07-2009, 04:59 PM

I'm really sorry bigK,I hope you're able to work through this as painlessly as possible.....I was 8 when my folks packed it in and if I may offer any advice it's this:

No matter how upset you get with your wife remember she's the most important woman in your boys life.If you're able to remain civil,calm and respectful whatever comes down....He will remember it and appreciate it always.

All the best my man.

ILove2Drive · 02-07-2009, 05:00 PM

Sorry to hear that

I'll keep yall in my prayers, hope everything works out!

thebigk · 02-15-2009, 06:24 PM

Well it's been a week.
We've talked ALOT. She actually came by for a few hours earlier.
I don't know what the future holds for us but it has been an eye opener for us both. Maybe some time apart is what we needed. Neither of us has mentioned getting back together.....just talking more than we ever have. Pretty weird LOL

I ain't gonna complain though. Together or apart from here on out......I think we'll get along ALOT better.

Panda Jerk · 02-15-2009, 06:27 PM

at least youre getting along!

tacomaman06 · 02-15-2009, 06:32 PM

sorry to hear man. if it all works out.....great, if not....ya'll both know it wasnt meant to be, and it makes things alot easier. good luck to ya man!

fletch aka · 02-15-2009, 06:33 PM

Just my .02 cents.
Try to make it work, for your son. Don't put him through a break up unless there is danger to him, you or your wife. He doesn't care what your problems are, he just loves his mom and dad.

02-07-2009, 02:40 PM	#1
thebigk Sock it to me! Name: Ken.... Joined: Aug 2008, #8770 Location: Carlsbad.....no not California Age: 34 Gender: Male Posts: 2,338 08 Speedway Blue DC TRD Off Road 4x4 2008 Double Cab Automatic 6cyl	Well looks like it's over Been married 12 yrs, 9 months & 7 days...........but looks like that's it. We haven't been getting along for a while.......a few months I guess. She's been the biggest bitch I have ever seen in that time. I quit telling her I love her, have had sex maybe 3 times in 2 months. I pretty much quit having anything to do with her. Today we went grocery shopping and she noticed my shoe was untied on the way in. I popped off with one of my comedic acts and said....well if you noticed it why didn't you just go ahead and tie it. My son chuckled and I kind of snickered (I crack these little gems alot so it's not like it's anything new) and she goes off I told her hey..I'm just playing.....and she continues to bitch at me all the way into the store. I ignore her the rest of the time in WalMart, I don't empty the cart at the checout like I usually do, I got in the Nitro without loading the groceries, we came home & I didn't unload the groceries. No talking at all the whole time in the store or when we get home. I finally get the nerve to ask about lunch. WOOPS! Big mistake. She goes off again. I finally tell her....have you not fucking noticed how I don't call you, tell you I love you, have sex with you, or have anything to do with you and that I want a divorce! She snapped. I told her I hadn't been in love with her in a while and this was the last argument my son would see between us. She started accusing me of sleeping around (I don't) and all kinds of crap. Well to make a looooooonnnnngggg story short, she pretty much packed up 90% of everyhting she owns & left. I told her to pull $1500 out of the checking for now and we would work on splitting up the assets later. I'm sad....but feel this sensation of relief! I could not take her 1 more day. My 9yr old son is pretty upset but not mad at either one of us so that's a good thing. Just trying to figure out where to go from here.......we lived together before we married so I ain't been single in 14yrs Ok I'm done ranting.....I need a beer __________________ Just when I think you've said the stupidest thing ever, you keep talking. - Hank Hill

02-07-2009, 02:44 PM	#2
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02-07-2009, 03:10 PM	#4
hoosiertaco V..My daughters first deer..V Name: Ben Joined: Sep 2008, #9084 Location: SouthCentral Indiana Age: 39 Gender: Dude Posts: 4,030 08 Doublecab TRD OR Whitetail 4x4 SR5 V6 Auto 2008 Double Cab Automatic 4.0 Seat belt chime mod, Rear spring TSB, Xzilon paint and fabric protector, front tint 15% too dark, redo to 30%, Weathertech Liners frt&bck,foglights on anytime mod,use defrost w/o A/C mod. Powdercoat black TRD skid plate. Sockmonkey custom 'Whitetail' decals. OEM bedmat. A.R.E. V series shell with some goodies.	I wish I could help........so sorry for the pain __________________ Christian Bowhunters of America Those who dance, appear insane to those who do not hear the music. Those who believe, appear ignorant to those who do not know God.

02-07-2009, 04:20 PM	#5
oldtacomaguy four forty four Name: Dave Joined: Dec 2006, #444 Location: SE Conn. Age: 54 Gender: Male Posts: 3,534 08 SR-5 4WD Impulse Red Pearl 2008 Access Cab Automatic V-6 Alpine deck and amp, Polk speakers front and rear, Kenwood subwoofer, windows tinted to 20%, Weathertech rain guards, debadged, Sockmonkey custom decals, Grillcraft upper and lower Grill, Suspension TSB, Color matched grill. Fog light anytime mod.	Sorry to hear this man. I really don't know what to say except I hope things work out for the best, whatever direction you decide to go. __________________

02-07-2009, 04:34 PM	#6
Don G Old Goat Joined: Oct 2007, #3110 Location: Southern Tier New York Age: 74 Posts: 1,210 "08" Tacoma Access Cab TRD Sport 4X4 2008 Access Cab Automatic V6	A sad, sad story indeed. There are no winners in this story! ! Especially your son. God bless you all!! __________________ Don G ______________________________________________

02-07-2009, 02:49 PM	#3
DanGer Avatar approved by 98tacomav6 Joined: Jun 2008, #7155 Location: Northern Virginia & Blacksburg Age: 20 Gender: Male Posts: 5,844 07 Base 4Cyl 4x4 Manual 2007 Access Cab Manual 2.7 5 speed White Head Light mod, White shorty antennae, Doug Thorley Long Tube headers, AFE Drop in air filter, Secondary Air Filter Removed,	definitely sorry to hear! once your ready to open up your options use the taco to pick up some ladies! haha jk best of luck to you and i'll crack open a longdistance beer with ya tonight

02-07-2009, 04:37 PM	#7
paintdiddy Senior Member Name: grand master b Joined: Oct 2008, #9924 Location: nj cuz its better than yours Gender: Male Posts: 3,590 08 d/c l/b 4wd rusted pile of crap 2008 Double Cab Automatic 6 baby seat mod, cap, remote start,factory seat covesr. custom rusted frame	kill her, bury her in the yard and tell your son she ran away.....only kidding...i think. sucks man.your not alone and some of us feel your pain. maybe things will work out for the best.

02-07-2009, 04:42 PM	#8
RoyB Senior Member Joined: Oct 2008, #9708 Location: Chicago burbs Age: 27 Gender: Dude Posts: 1,497 '09 TRD DC Sport 2009 Double Cab Automatic 4.0	sorry to hear man, thats a long time. have you guys talked about this before? maybe just a misunderstanding that has built up over time? __________________ '99 Corvette FRC Nassau Blue '07 Honda Shadow Sabre '09 Tacoma DC TRD sport

02-07-2009, 04:42 PM	#9
rick ` Joined: Mar 2007, #993 Location: 33767 Gender: Male Posts: 2,110 another lifted taco w/ big ass wheels Automatic V6 louder horn mod	sorry to hear that big. me and my girl split a few months ago. i guess i shouldn't have told her f you and fuck off, she's still not over it. Women you can't live without them and you can't kill em

02-07-2009, 04:43 PM	#10
JC870 Member Joined: Aug 2008, #8354 Location: Alabama Age: 27 Gender: Male Posts: 91 07 PreRunner SR5 TRD Sport Longbed 2007 Double Cab Automatic 4.0L Blitz Safe aux. audio input	Sorry to hear man.... life's too short to be miserable though. Hope all goes as well as these things possibly could.

02-07-2009, 04:46 PM	#11
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02-07-2009, 04:51 PM	#12
Canada cookie kingpin Name: Jon Joined: Dec 2007, #3695 Location: aiken county, south carolina Age: 33 Gender: Male Posts: 1,228 06 silver double cab 4x4 2006 Double Cab Automatic 4.0 V6 seconday air filter removal, tw sticker afe pro dry s filter , black rims , cb radio with four foot firestik antenna,black nasta nerf bars,5100's in the rear,mp3 player hookup,led overhead light,5100's up front soon, rear AAL,custom dent package,blacked out rear bumper, blacking out front grille	I will say "that sucks" because no one wins in a situation like that, but I will say good for you, because life's too short to be so miserable, regardless of the situation. Keep your stick on the ice. __________________ an ordinary life is good enough

02-07-2009, 04:55 PM	#13
HighPlains Senior Member Joined: Nov 2008, #10954 Location: KLBL Age: 35 Gender: Guy Posts: 130 2009 TRD Off Road 4X4 2009 Double Cab Automatic 4.0 OEM XM installed, TRD CAI, Fog light anytime mod, 6000K HID Fogs, Bilstein 5100's, ToyTec Coilovers, OEM Running Boards.	Sorry to hear man. Sometimes, I think I am somewhere in between myself....it's just that she has such a good job and a nice ass. I need her more than she needs me. I'm screwed if she figures it out. __________________ 2009 Tacoma Double Cab TRD Off Road

02-07-2009, 04:57 PM	#14
pat's taco Senior Member Joined: Feb 2008, #4704 Location: ALABAMA Age: 29 Gender: Dude Posts: 1,168 2006 TACOMA PRERUNNER DC, debadged 2006 Double Cab Automatic v6	sorry to hear about this big. i hope everything works out for ya __________________

02-07-2009, 04:59 PM	#15
squad314 Hockey Dad Name: Marc Joined: Dec 2007, #3665 Location: A highway jammed with broken heroes on a last chance power drive.(Saint John NB) Gender: Male Posts: 1,904 TRD Sport 4x4,badass black 2007 Double Cab Automatic 4.0 Leer 100R with Thule Tracker II system,Nasta tubes,Factory cargo bars,Sirius Starmate,Ventshades,GoodYear Duratrac 265/70/17's,All weather mats,K&N Air filter,factory roof rack,Pop&Lock,2.5" lift~front,5100's set at 2.5,rear-5125's and AAL,WetOkole's,Axxess ipod adapter.	I'm really sorry bigK,I hope you're able to work through this as painlessly as possible.....I was 8 when my folks packed it in and if I may offer any advice it's this: No matter how upset you get with your wife remember she's the most important woman in your boys life.If you're able to remain civil,calm and respectful whatever comes down....He will remember it and appreciate it always. All the best my man. __________________ TacomaWorld Hockey Team #14 LW Sine Macula

02-15-2009, 06:32 PM	#19
tacomaman06 Carolina Alliance: Redneck Division Name: Will Joined: May 2007, #1475 Location: York,South Carolina Age: 30 Gender: Male Posts: 24,124 04 trd tacoma 4x4 v6 double cab 2004 Double Cab Automatic 3.4 v6 vent visors,deck plate mod, gray wire mod, black steelies and emblems, mag-lite mod, wheelers/ome suspension, stainless brake lines,blacked out bumpers(bedliner),dynomax super turbo muffler,cabelas mossy oak seat covers ans camo steering wheel cover,brush guard, hella 500(x4)custom built(by me) hitch hauler),budbuilt skids,revenge-fab sliders,inchworm locker skid,cobra cb,wilson 3 ft antenna,hi-lift jack(tool box mounted) painted stock wheels, afe pro dry s filter..........still to come...trd headers and redline tuning hood struts	sorry to hear man. if it all works out.....great, if not....ya'll both know it wasnt meant to be, and it makes things alot easier. good luck to ya man! __________________ i am WILL--my ride=04 tacoma trd 4x4 double cab, v6, auto,deck plate mod, grey wire mod, billy 5100's all the way around,black low-pro uws toolbox, black steelies,blacked out emblems, mag light mod,wheelers/alcan springs, ome 881 coils, braided stainless brake lines, polyurethane bushings,dynomax super turbo/slash cut tip-blacked out,chrome deleted bumpers via herculiner bed liner,color matched bedlinered tailgate, camo seat covers,sockmonkey decals,husky floor liners, hunter brush guard, 4 hella 500's(2 spotlight/2fog light),budbuilt skid plates,inchworm e-locker skid,revenge-fab sliders,cobra cb/loudspeaker PA, pioneer headunit/infinity reference components/2ways......plenty more still to come!!! http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa269/tacomaman06/ signature by piercedtiger www.myspace.com/goodolboy1979

02-15-2009, 06:33 PM	#20
fletch aka "Taco! Taco for the win bitch!" by blackwatertaco Name: Gary Joined: Jan 2009, #12223 Location: Left Coast Gender: Male Posts: 4,145 09 Magnetic Gray TRD OffRoad 2009 Double Cab Automatic 4.0 tick-tick-tick-tick... TRD cat back exhaust, vintage Hurst T-handle shifter from the 60's, Sock's bedside decals, 20% front tinted windows, Auto Page alarm, ScanGauge II, Luminics JDM Yellow Krypton fog lights, Laminex yellow tint on fogs, de-mud flapped, de-badged, extra D-rings under bed bolts, WeatherTech ED floor mats, Toyota bed mat, tailgate theft deterrent device.	Just my .02 cents. Try to make it work, for your son. Don't put him through a break up unless there is danger to him, you or your wife. He doesn't care what your problems are, he just loves his mom and dad.

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02-07-2009, 05:00 PM	#16
ILove2Drive Senior Member Joined: Feb 2008, #4993 Location: WV Posts: 415 00 Tacoma 3.4L 4X4 SR5 5 spd 2000 Access Cab Manual	Sorry to hear that I'll keep yall in my prayers, hope everything works out!

02-15-2009, 06:24 PM	#17
thebigk Sock it to me! Name: Ken.... Joined: Aug 2008, #8770 Location: Carlsbad.....no not California Age: 34 Gender: Male Posts: 2,338 08 Speedway Blue DC TRD Off Road 4x4 2008 Double Cab Automatic 6cyl	Well it's been a week. We've talked ALOT. She actually came by for a few hours earlier. I don't know what the future holds for us but it has been an eye opener for us both. Maybe some time apart is what we needed. Neither of us has mentioned getting back together.....just talking more than we ever have. Pretty weird LOL I ain't gonna complain though. Together or apart from here on out......I think we'll get along ALOT better. __________________ Just when I think you've said the stupidest thing ever, you keep talking. - Hank Hill

02-15-2009, 06:27 PM	#18
Panda Jerk WatchingChrisWatchEd Live vicariously through mjp2 Name: get to know me and you'll find im physically straight but im mentally gay cuz ill blow your mind! Joined: Dec 2008, #11614 Location: A place where beer flows like wine Where beautiful women flock like the salmon of Capistrano! Age: 18 Gender: Male Posts: 6,942 07 Radiant Red TRD 2007 Access Cab Automatic V6 4.0 a <69 sticker	at least youre getting along! __________________ ^^Click for my build^^