5100 lift problems 08 SR5

After searching this forum for weeks I decided the best lift for how I use my truck and my budget was 5100's at 2.5 and toytecs aal for trucks with the TSB.

First problem, all the pics Ive found of this setup are perfectly level but my truck sits alot lower in the front than all the ones Ive seen. Is this because the SR5 has a lower spring rate and 2.5in of lift is only achived on the TRD?? How do I fix this? Ive heard of top plate spacers on the driver side to correct lean what if I did both sides? Do I need new coils?

Also I have vibes from a stop, has anyone fixed this with anything other than a new drive shaft? I tried a 1/4" drop for the carrier bearing and it did nothing so i took it off.

 

I checked aginst my friends SR5 I have 1 1/4in lift in the front over him, and 3in in the rear.