What would you do in this situation?

Two years ago my coworker and i drove 1,200 mi down to florida and stayed with some family i have there. I used my vehicle, and did all the driving. Once there, i quickly realized how immature/idiotic he was. He would do things such as leave dirty underwear on my relatives bathroom floor, and then when they said something, he would lie and say "wasnt me". Who the hell else would it be? We also did a trolley tour of saint augustine. My relative just used his card to pay for everybody at once, and then we just gave him the money. Everybody paid him except my coworker, who swiftly walked away. I had to say "dude, you gotta pay him back, hes not paying for you". On the trip, i had more money than he did and he said im worried i may run out. I told him i could lend him some if need be, as we get paid right when we get home anyway. He did end up running out of money. A sensible person borrowing money from somebody else would be using as little as possible. But he was getting expensive drinks etc whenever we were out, on my dime. On the drive home, of course i had to pay for all the gas. Heres what really burns my ass. When we got back to work and paid, he started making excuses for why he couldnt pay me back. I tried for months to get money out of him, and he said no every time. He also started ignoring/avoiding me. My coworkers actually Started helping me, and telling me when he was picking up his paycheck. He started sneaking in a sidedoor to get his check so i wouldnt see him. One time i saw him getting his check, and said dude im sick of this shit, were going to the bank and your paying me back. Well he only gave me 20% of the money. The thing that makes me sick is that all along, he is bragging to everybody how he just spent money on this or that , and it was for more money than he owes me. After chasing him for over a year i finally just told him you know what, keep my money. Your nothing but a damn thief, everybody knows it, and i learned my lesson. The problem is, im not one to just shy away when i have been fucked over by someone. It bothers me when i see him going out to lunch etc. I want to say must be nice being able to afford going out when you've owed someone money for years. But i've kept my mouth shut because i dont need my truck getting keyed or something. Sorry about the complaining, i've just never been royally fucked over by somebody who was suppose to be a friend.

 

Let it go.

 

Never give money unless you can afford to lose it. IMHO you're still worried about this two years later when you could be focused on more important shit. Money's gone new money's been made oh well.

 

Or........ Punch him in the dick and when he's holding himself punch him in the face. Your choice

 

oh believe me there's a lot of people like that around. its like what you said just cut all ties and ignore that fella. try to forget it about it aint gonna do you any good to get heated over the same situation. ive been there done that...

 

It sucks that a 'friend' would behave that way towards you. Learn the lesson and don't ever let it happen to you again.

 

I could never rip somebody off like that. For example i went to visit my friend at his job a while back. I wanted to buy a soda in there but was a dollar short. His coworker was nice enough to slip me a dollar. Well a few months later i again visited him at work, saw the girl and promptly gave her a dollar and thanked her once again. I know she wasn't expecting the money back and did it out of generosity, it just seemed like the right thing to do. Maybe its just how i was raised

 

You can always make more money. Eventually, he won't be able to make more friends.
You were generous, which is probably your nature, to someone undeserving.
I can understand hanging on, as shit can irk me for longer than I should let it, but it is time to let go.
You're only hurting yourself at this point. Good luck, man.

 

I'm with the guys above, gotta let it go man. I know easier said than done, if I was in your shoes I'd be in the same boat. But short of legal action, depending on the amount, its obvious after 2 years you're not getting the money back. I'm with on being worried about my stuff getting messed up, but if everyone at work knows he's a dick, I doubt he'll be there very long. He'll get his at some point in time, just have to move on and focus on other stuff.

 

Expensive drinks etc. That sums it up. This Dude is the kiss of Death. He's not your Brother. Stay clear from "Mr. Flypaper" Good luck; He'll need it more than you.

 

What goes around comes around....he will get his one day

 

Went through this with a friend 3 yrs ago. His car got repo'ed and I loaned him $1000 to buy a used car from my brother in law. I knew him for 12 yrs and had loaned him $$ before which had never been an issue.

Week after week when we were playing Tuesday night darts he'd toss $40-$50 on the bar and then was too broke to throw me $20. Of course 8 months later he gets laid off and that's his excuse, plus he was getting unemployment. I could understand that were it not that it had been the same excuse all along. Even when he took the car off the road he refused to sell it and pay me.

I ended up in small claims court and won after another round of excuses, which I made him look stupid all the while. Even though he got another job he still never paid. I actually spoke to his mother (he lives at home) and asked if she would be able to help us as my only other option was having an arrest warrant issued.

She's forcing him to give her $10 a week haha..once a month I get a check from her. Down to about $200 owed.

Believe me I almost didn't for a few reasons, such as how money ruins friendships. Knowing him all that time I thought it wouldn't happen, clearly I was wrong. I guess at least I got him out of my life before wasting more time on him though

 

sorry about your shitty experience. I guess when it comes to money, you'll find out who your true friends are. How old is this guy? Sounds like hes not ready for the big boy world. Mommy had to spank him and make him pay huh? Also, regarding what it says under your name. You should probably see a doctor

 

Truth

 

I've been there. Loaned money to a friend. He's not a friend anymore! You just have to let it go. Lesson learned, don't loan money to a friend.
I had one friend give me his benchmade knive in exchange for some financial help. Worked out good for both of us.
Loaning money to a friend is like going to Vegas.

 

Very true..this guy is in his early 40's. Clearly old enough to know better, plus don't sit there and smash down beers all night over and over right in front of me, if you're gonna act like that at least do it behind my back.

I figure we reap what we sow..next time he needs help he may or may not get it, either way he'll know he can't call upon me and if he could I'd be there.

 

When your the better,knowledgable person its very unfortunate to sink some common knowledge,respect into some individual that knows they our embarrasing themselves and it doesn't bother that person at all.Forget about it,move on and be proud of yourself that your not like that and you gave it a understanding effort to help someone that may never mature!Feel bad for you and definetly don't feel bad for your co-worker who sooner or later will have this catch up with him and will be ashamed of himself!May not be now but sometime in life something such as this will haunt him in the future!

 

It sucks this coworker did this and he knows he did it, he proves he knows by his actions avoiding you and sneaking around to get his pay. Imo you should be wary of who you refer to as friend. My co-workers are not my friends.
If you can forgive and forget you are and will be the better for it.

 

It's been 2 years, there is no situation anymore. You're like a woman dredging up the past.