Married or divorced? Need advice

There are a few things you need to agree on.
Religion
Money
Family values
Children

These are just broad topics but if you can agree and work together on them then you'll be in good shape.
My wife's extended family has about 20 marriages between her grandparents all the way down to her cousins. There is a theme in each one of these marriages. Being on top of these 4 things I mentioned, keeping God a permanent fixture in our family, having strong relationships with people in our church, and keeping my family and my relationship with my wife the most important thing second to God. There's a good reason why there are so many divorces. People are too selfish and pretend that they are God. I would strongly recommend financial peace university for you and your girlfriend. It will cover these topics I've mentioned. It is a great tool for being used as pre marriage counseling.

 

I just realized this post was 2 years old and see that you got married. Congrats. The adventures are just beginning.

 

Awesome thread!!!

 

DON'T DO IT!!!!!! Oh shit....I was too late

 

Odds are he'll be back

 

Pretty nice thing to say.

 

The numbers don't lie.

 

If the numbers were actually broken down and showed Christian homes I think the numbers would surprise you. It is in our selfish nature to forget about others and do what feels good.

 

Oh god, I don't care.

 

Thanks for playing

 

Good luck on everything. I was married once then I got divorced and now my Tacoma is paid off and the mods have finally begun. Good while it lasted still friends. I wish you the best of luck.

 

Yup that's true, it human nature to want more and forget others.

 

Just celebrated our first year. Great advice from the TW family as always.

 

Great update. Congratulations

 

Hope it works out for you. Married 10 before being divorced. Throughout the marriage there were some potential game changers that she never revealed - starting with the ungodly abuse she suffered as a child...I knew nothing of any form of abuse until after she mentioned divorce. Resulting from that were a few suicide attempts. Also discovered hidden conversations. And then there was the affair where she was caught fucking a married man.

You may think you really know someone, but you don't.

 

If we weren't fukin them, we'd be hunting them... OH NO, I mean the institution of marriage is a beautiful and sacred bond! Hahahahahahaha good luck soldier.

 

Sorry to hear what you when through James

 

It was some seriously fucked up stuff. Its a wonder she is a functioning adult after all the abuse, rapes, beatings, etc. But she NEVER told me of any of it. None. That's why I'll never get married again. Never.

 

Never say never man. I'm quite sure someone out there is waiting for you

 

I've been with my wife 10 years we dated 5 and now married little over 5 and have a 9 month old!!! I like be her to death and we get along very well.... now saying that.... a baby CHANGES EVEYTHING!!! It makes even the easiest things stressful!! He is amazing and she's an amazing mom!! But holy moly is it rough when we were so set in our ways!! But if we had a kid any earlier it would have been even worse! You have to totally understand and trust one another! RESPECT HER