Anxiety / Depression

Take a fun ride in your Taco whenever you feel down.

 

My wife has depression. She is on meds and sees a therapist. Sometimes, it is really hard to be around her. I am a naturally upbeat, happy person and when she has a bad spell it's like she resents my personality and does everything she can to bring me down.

I just refuse to fight with her. Now I can tell when she is having a particularly bad time of it and adjust my behavior accordingly. It still sucks for both of us. I don't know how I would deal with having depression. I respect everyone who is going through it.

 

How do you deal with it , I have a very close friend who I was kinda invalved with and she was depressed before but now she is going through menopause whitch really put her in a deep depression and she also kept me distant and it took a huge toll on our frienship and also she pulled me down with her and i got depressed myself . Well in anycase I had to walk away as I tryed everything to help her and I just had to walk away from our friendship as I just couldent take the pain anymore . Her and I before the problems were just the best of friends , could not get enough of eachother when it comes to spending time with eachother . I miss her so much but it just wasnt heathy for me to Watch her give up on everything in her life , including her friends .

 

This is the first forum I've seen that has a dedicated thread openly talking about anxiety/depression. I applaud you folks for being able to discuss this large issue openly. I hope y'all are able to find help in one another and continue to be able to live a healthy life. Great job folks!

 

Thank you

 

Well I found out something about the girl that I was in a relationship with that put me in depression. This girl was very controlling very manipulative and literally had no conscience or remorse of what she was putting me through but yet she would not let me go . But a month-and-a-half ago I did walk away. And I blocked her from all contact with me. I Googled how to get over a toxic relationship and I stumbled across on YouTube sociopath and after watching many many videos everything made total sense and was quite clear. She literally had almost all the symptoms and signs of a sociopath. I'm glad I was strong enough to break free of her and some positive things have been happening in the last month with me to understand and cope on how to move on. I am a lot stronger and I'm starting to get my drive and motivation to reach my goals again. If you are with somebody that's controlling cold-hearted manipulative and completely irresponsible and lack of talking about how they feel and lack of emotions there is a possibility you're with a socialpath. Researcher on YouTube. Oh and they're pathological Liars also. If you're in any sort of relationship whether it is coworker boyfriend and girlfriend for husband and wife then my suggestion to you is get the hell away from them as fast as possible as most times they are very money hungry. I just wanted to let you guys know what's going on with me and it was a very scary episode that only lasted a year fortunately but I am free and I see the light again.. I am back in control of myself

 

^^ Right on, Josh. Right on.

 

Thank you Steve

 

I battled depression from a young age, very small elementary school under 20 kids a grade and I wasn't "cool" Being bullied flat out sucks and I would not wish that Sh*t on anyone. I ended up learning how to do things on my own and never grew out of the whole playing with cars phase. The cars just kept getting bigger. It was in a much larger high school that I found other people who liked cars vs shopping or team sports. I felt like I belonged somewhere. I would still have battles with it on and off after high school but having some really good friends that I made though cars, trucks and jeeps finally helped me get help. I did a year of weekly therapy sessions and it has really helped me manage and learn what triggers my depression. That has been the biggest help you are never "cured" you just get the right tools to manage it.

 

Dr. appt tomorrow to get the results from my 18 month post op/chemo scans. Feeling mixed emotions....survivors guilt is heavy with this one as I've lost 3 from my support group in the last month. Fuck cancer.

 

Fingers crossed for you man! Cared for my mother last year as she overcame a long battle with stage 4. Currently in remission since then. As you said, Fuck cancer.

 

keep you in my thoughts and prayers. My dad has CLL, I know a little bit about the anxious wait for results.

As for the rest of this thread, yeah, I've been there, still doing that sometimes. It's hard, I feel guilty for a lot of things that I know I shouldn't at all. Like if I buy anything for myself that is not needed to literally survive, I feel like shit about it for days. Why would I get extra bike light? That could be $15 closer to paying for the wedding, down payment on a future house, medicine for the dog if he ever needed it.. That's the kind of stuff constantly going through my head.

 

I will say a prayer for good results, with both parents passing away after long battles with cancer, I hope scientist will make a breakthrough in stopping this disease.

 

Appointment was no bueno :/

Sending the results down to UCSD Moores Cancer Center where I had the surgery and chemo...going to have to work to focus on day to day stuff while we put a plan together.

 

crap.


head up and keep your spirits high. take one day at a time. having high spirits does wonders... rootin for you buddy!

 

Good news is I'm a fighter and ready to go a few more rounds with this bitch.

Bad news is that I have a 14 month old and my wife is due with our 2nd in February...we're going to have to rely on family and friends to help out with the little guy and depending on the timing of everything I could be in bad shape when the baby arrives.

 

Ugh- sendin' you miracles by the crates, brother. keep the hope alive


btw cancer!

 

Good! I'm glad your spirits are high. Congrats on another kiddo!

It'll all work out! I can assure you of that. Family, friends and strangers are all folks who are willing to help. I've played all three roles at some point or another personally... Keep fightin man!

 

yeah when I am having a panic attack I immediately pick up my phone and call my wife, it helps a lot

I am not a religious man but I am sending some vibes your way brother ..

 

Fucking fight. Head up, sprits high. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
If you need anything at all you let me know. I'm not between SD and Reno, but if you do go down the 80 or close by the bay I'm here. Also just here to talk