why r women so cruel?

ok to start my love my now ex girlfriend to death she was the one important thing in my life that is why this has bothered me soo much.

now we have been dating for almost a year and a half. now she is stall skinny and just down right beautiful, shes smart loving just all around in my eyes the most prefect women. personally i i consider my self a kinda over weight loser so i should never be able to date some one this good but some how i lucked out. now up till yesterday we never really fought just the normal minor bs. only had 2 real fights first when we first started dating and i told her she had to quick smoking if we were going to be together. it was a bitch but she quite.

the second was about 2 weeks ago apparently me checking in to see if she was done her hw so we could hang was too much with her stress level and i piss her off to the point she wouldn't answer the phone for 2 days and on the second day i swung by her house and caught her outside and got her to talk to me she was going to leave me but once i got her calmed down we made up and everything was good past 2 weeks.

now last night Thursday night i came home from my landscaping business and went to visit her at her job at about 7 she was happy we bs for a while till she had to do something and i went home. about 930 when shes finished closing for the night and prob home or almost home i text her to see if she wants to split a pizza with me and what not. everything seems fine. she even asks if we can stop at acme cuz shes got a random craving for chips and dip.im like no prob I'm on my way to get the pizza and i will be over to get u. while I'm sitting in the pizza shop waiting for the pizza to finish cooking i get a text "not to freak u out but we need to talk seriously" I'm said ok i will be right over and fallowed by a text saying whats up something wrong cuz i have the we need to talk text makes me nervous. this seems to be the shit hitting the fan point after a min i get "Um kyle i kinda changed my mind and i randomly just got sick. i think ima stay home im so sorry"

so i start to think somethings wrong i said back u dont have to eat it just hang with me for a bit an tell me whats wrong. and i start driving over her place when im almost there i got this"I keep thinking about our relationship. Im starting to not feel like i did. and i don't wanna keep going out with u if i dont feel that way bc it will hurt u even more"

at this point i read that and start trying to call her... no answer i text her as i turn the corner to her house tell her to come out side and talk to me. basically just says sry i know its fucked up but i cant do it in person im not coming out.
long story short i stay outside trying to get her out till her dad say i got to go so i end up leaving get home get a few more texts out of her same basic thing then she stops i haven't gotten and answer from text or call in a day and a half.

long story short i lose the love of my life and women of my dreams over text message and i still dont know what happened. worst part was i wanted to marry her i told her lets finish college first then i will marry u. and now im sitting here alone feel like a wreck since i just got blind sided and can think of anyway to get her to talk to me so i can try to get her back

.....just need to tell the story thanks for any who read and sry im sure the spelling and grammar suck but kinda too upset to reread the story

***added later on the ending..
After writing the first part and talking to some people i came up with my last ditch plan to reclaim my love.
The plan
1. head other my now ex's house at just after 9:00
2 park in field across from her house so when she pulls in from work its not a surprise she can see my truck and knows im there
3 get out and ask if we can talk
4 if yes talk and try to get her to give me one last shot at a relationship; if no go home an realize its over and i have no chance

so when i got there i was able to do step 1 and 2 no prob. now i got there shes not going to get home for another 30-45min, just trying to play it safe. about 15 min in to it i see a truck pull up front of her house and realize its a friend of her neighbor which she also friends with don't think much of it then the neighbors show up and they get out of the car and talk to the truck still nothing weird. now im parked in a Field facing my ex's house there a small lot to my left for the VFW where my gf parks. the neighbor pull their car in and the truck in leaving a spot between them still nothing clicking.

no here comes my ex she pulls in and has no choice but to park between them now the neighbor and all there friends pile out and surround the ex's car now it clicks as im getting out the fuckers are trying to make a wall between me and her, now 15 fat bitch aren't stooping me so i push my way to my ex and ask if we can talk with out saying a thing she walk through them over to my truck puts down the tail gait and shits down and we start trying to talk i give my give me a change speech and she tells me theres nothing i can do cuz im not doing anything wrong she just doesnt feel the same i start to feel like she might be leaning my way i got her to smile at the very least i thinking im going to get closure and figure out what made this all happen. as im thinking this the to fat bitch's walk up and say her dad called them and she needs to get inside now and her lights r on. so she gives me back my jacket (since it was cold i wasnt going to make her freeze) but leave her drink on my tail gate so i grab it an wad through the fat bitch wall and give it to my ex and they then encircle he and start taking her to her door she stops like shes going to say something to me and the fat bitches grab her and drag her to the door basic fucking me over. so i was getting some where she was talking to me and now i can't do my little stunt again once its ok anymore and it looks like im a stalker. now im pissed if these were guys even not being a fighter i would have leveled every last one. but i wont hit a girl even a manly one. so i text her now that the fat bitches r happy and leaving and i get "go home" first i ask did u know they would be doing this she says no and i believe her y bother lying. i ask about if her dad really call turns out its true. i got her to text me a little try to talk some but now that its not face to face I'm losing the battle. i ask her to call me when shes done so we can finish talking doesn't answer i ask some other shit she answers until i ask her to call again nothing...let it sit for a bit while i tell a buddy what just happened then like an hr later i say ur not going to call r u ...no answer finally took my buddy advise send the nice long i love u and respect u choice and good bye and if u change ur mind im always and that were it ends i went on facebook to change my status and start removing some stuff and i see "life is sooooo whatever right now its not even funny" idk what that means but i drew the line i wont say anything to her unless she comes to me. its sucks but i can tell myself i did and tried ever thing i could think of i will never wonder what if i tired whatever i already tired it

.....theres the end to my depressing tail, the i must say i have never been walled off by fat asses before that was new couldnt have saw that coming..

 

This sucks and all man, but let me put it to you this way.



You are still young and you will find someone who feels that same way towards you. She obviously didn't. Don't beat yourself up and feel sorry for yourself over a girl. We have all been through this shit and it does get better.

 

i know what u mean it just so fustrating that i can even just talk to her. im thinging of goinf over house around when she should be home from work so i can caught her and hopefully she will talk and not just go inside. i can honestly say i would feel a little better is it was anothe guy or she under too much stress cuz then i have a reason and i can say ok thats y she left me. just the 20 min switch to i dont love u any more from about to hang has me messed up worse on top of losing her u know what i mean?

 

I would let her go man. If she can change that quick now...............just wait a few years. lol.

 

lol and its sad i dump a crazy bitch i was with for 3 yrs on x-mas eve to date this girl and i didnt think twice and this isnt the first girl that dumped me when i still liked her but this is the first that hit me so hard and my mind just doesnt want to grasp that shes gone

 

3.3 billion women in the world.

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_many_women_in_the_world

you'll find another one.

 

Dude, my heart goes out to you, I met my dream girl in afghanistan, prettiest little redhead youve ever seen. We arent together and it still eats at me, but I am seeing a girl now that is jsut awesome and likes me how I am. The way I put it, my ex was perfect for who I am, my current girl is perfect for the man I want to be. Dont beat yourself up too bad. Life suck now, but it WILL get better. Better to keep your options open. Besides, if worse comes to worse, and you get real desperate, theres always Cmack...

 

bro,
I hope you understand that women out number the men...find another one....or find several and have fun

 

She stepped out on you bro.

Move on.

 

Age 20.....looking back that is a great time in life. enjoy it.
You guys are young, she is going to school and working.
And you have your business.

from the description of the situation it sounds like she is living at home and daddy is flipping the bill for school.

How is your relationship with the father?
to me it sounds like her father may be the driving force behind this.

As much as it hurts now, you were 18.5 when you started dating. Young man.
Life is full of adventure. find the one that you wants to share it with you.

In the meanwhile, enjoy your friends, and this time in your life.

good luck.

 

good to know when ur girl isnt there for u ur tw brothers and sisters(incase one of the women would lke to chim in) are there. thanks guys i feel alittle better and ur making my night pass which is the worst part

 

To be on the safe side, just hope she doesnt read this.. Maybe you were more in love with your truck than her.. TW can cause that.. But overall, I say hang out with some friends to get your mind off things.. NO DRINKING THOUGH (and because your underage), because getting drunk after a breakup will be the dumbest thing you could do.. Gotta keep your head up..!

 

actually shes paying pretty much everything but living at home her parents suck but her dad loves me deff feels like something got to here to switch so quick its not like her

 

believe it or not i dont drink i did alittle when i was younger but im not a party person i normally stick to a gf and like on or 2 friends that i actually hang with on prob is my best bud in and hr and a half north and my two buddys by me both at work.

o and she was all in the the taco she loved it like i do and does go on the site unless i was showing her something and even if she did i havnt said anything bad its all true and i lover her to death but so time u just need to talk to some one

 

That sucks. It happens. Move on. Nothing we say will make it better.

I had something similar happen at 22, and probably took 3-4 years, and moving across the country, til I could get back to my "normal" self. I was probably a PITA to work with for at least 4 months after we broke up. I swear, i still think of her nearly every other day (briefly, not dwelling on her! and it's been 9 years)... at some point the pain stops and the ... well, not 'sadness' but something similar, sets in. She might be on your mind for a long time, but eventually you'll learn get to the point where it doesn't bother you.

In fact, she and I even hung out together about 2 years ago for 2 nights, and it was great, and could have gone further, but why go through that a second time? The point is, this will eventually work out, just not the way you thought it would.

 

Try not to seem to desperate, not being mean but just give her time. I've found that trying to contact a girl over and over usually makes them not want to talk to you at all. Give her space, maybe she'll come around and realized she is happy with you. Sorry you're going through this, I was in the same boat once, hurts.

 

Your 20, sorry, but get over it dude. There are MORE women out there. When your 30 you'll look back at this and laugh.

 

me and my old lady just split. Fuck it dude Hot doesnt equal smart or deserving. you'll find someone better.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=efXHO5LMlNE
listen to this song. i know i post it with all of these but its the truth!

 

this too!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rn041uWncU

 

Ok, first off.... texting has ruined your ability to write in clear, legible sentences. Not to put you down any more or anything, it's just... sorta painful at the moment to read what you wrote. (My high school English teacher would kick your ass. )

Now, as to the girl. Couple things. You said you feel yourself an overweight loser who didn't deserve her, which probably means you acted like that at times. That may have had something to do with the breakup. Second, a breakup by text? Personally I would've put a rock through her window, climbed in and been all "Bitch, what the **** is wrong with you? If you want to break up, do it to my face so I can see your reaction when I show you the video of me and three of your girlfriends."

Erm... seriously, she has got some issues if she's breaking up by text. Either she did it to keep from laughing in your face (eh, maybe), she's to immature to deal with a breakup 'face-to-face' (definitely possible, given today's... societal structuring), or she's seeing someone else and is afraid you'd ask and she wouldn't be able to hide it.

Any which way.. problem solver:

Take friends, go out, drink heavily, sleep with new girl.. repeat until tired of it, get into another relationship... repeat heartbreak and drinking.