Girlfriend issues

So heres how it goes.

Lately our days have been great but for some reason towards the end of the night, shit kinda goes sour. Sometimes an argument but most of the time, it seems like the vibe isnt there. Very distant. This causes me to back off alittle bc noone wants to give someone attention and feel "fuck seems like we wouldnt have done that if i hadnt initiated it"

baja 500 - shes bitching from the back seat that the roads to bumpy, but claims she used to go to the desert and ride quads and all this bullshit so i know shes into it so why bitch? me and her sister got tired of the backseat driver. so we fought on the way to the spot and on the way back home. get home, me and her sister tell her mom about the trip blah blah blah she gets mad cuz we were "talking shit"

so i spend the night and u know im tryna do the deed and we did it but i could totally tell she was half turned on/half annoyed/tired. Then the next morning i get out of bed, she pulls me back so i start messing with her, tickling, pinching, whatever, she gets pissed. So i leave and i give her her space.days going by and everytime i get near her shes totally on edge. I called her out on it too and left her alone. She gets out the shower and shes in her room with her towel, i walk in to get my clothes to get dressed in the bathroom after my shower, before i leave her room i close the door and try to sneak a kiss and she totally pushes me away. So im like fuck again!, so i distant myself again.

We go shopping .Throughout the whole trip im distant so shes kinda all over me here and there but at the same time, complains about my driving, called me pathetic at one point. We get back to the house, she went half on a wii for the family with her mom. So i connect it for her. She starts playing, complaining that the "s" in stewart should be capitalized, and me and her sister just sigh, so im like whatever here u do it. So she starts playing and complains that she wants to move the wii to the other family room bc the couch in this room is too close to the tv (it was totally fine, everyone thought it was fine except for her)

so she gets all hot and bothered and goes to the room and i follow, lay with her, she tells me my driving sucked, and i told her everything she did wrong. So we gets up leaves. Comes back, asks "r u going to just go to sleep" and im like wtf. No. I thought we were talking but she clearly heard what i had to say and acted like she didnt give a fuck. So i got my shit, and left. I didnt talk to her till she texted me cuz i had posted a status saying "why make someone a priority when your just can option?" and she texts me all this bullshit...

Her - "what the hell is up with your status? I thought u didnt want any of our business out there, ridiculous. I was talking to u until u stayed quiet. Your not an option and never will be. Thats just fucking stupid. But if thats what you think find someone else"

me - doesnt specifically refer to u. And if anyone says anything im not gonna mention it was u, so what does it matter? Uve said alot of shit before and this is not me getting back at u for that so dont get the wrong impression

whatever dude when i read it. It clearly made me feel like shit. But put whatever u want

im not going to argue with you. I said what i had to say and expressed how i felt. U made it clear u didnt give a shit so i left. U want me to find someone else all u have to do is keep acting the way u r and trust me i will find someone that appreciates me. Dont take that as me throwing anything in ur face, its true. Sex might be on my time alot but this relationship is definitely on ur time. And you dont start noticing until im distant, face it

before i post any more of this convo, what do u guys think so far??

 

i need the cliff notes version...

 

Big question here is not whats up with her....its are you happy? dont try to figure out whats going through a woman's mind. You'll never figure that out. All I have to say is dont settle and relationships shouldnt be this hard. Sure there is some work involved but none of this game playing about backing away and yadda yadda yadda.
Just my 2 cents .

 

fuck! pretty long huh maybe i could shorten it

 

No idea what's goin on...

 

I hope you don't talk to her like you type. That would explain a lot of the confusion, though....

 

bickering gets both of you nowhere,

take her out and tell her how u feel. communicate with her. if that doesnt work then at least you tried and will know if she wants to continue

 

x2

 

Come on, he's obviously just flustered and looking for help. Cut him some slack...

It sounds like there is more under the surface that has provoked her to fly back to acting like she was 15. It also sounds like you're acting more mature than she is, but for what it's worth, I'd keep all your relationship business off of the facebook/myspace machine.

If you post more I'll read it and let you know what I think, it's hard to get a real grip on the entire situation from this alone.

Good luck.

 

It's a lot like a tv soap ophra. No really Don't take all her sister Bang her sister she seems to like you

 

well heres the thing, we're both happy, but shit like this happens and we become unhappy, or i become unhappy. so i told her if we keep up at this, i dont see us accomplishing a year. she says im too clingy but only when shes doing something and im tryna kiss or hug her. wtf! email, getting dressed is more important that a minute of kissing or hugging me?

 

man i mean, when it comes to others relationship i always have the best advice and solutions but when it comes to mine, im like stuck on stupid. maybe my situation isnt as worse as a cheating, unattracted, unaffectionate relationship like many of the people i know. but i mean i wouldnt be bitching if i didnt wanna work this out or if i didnt see a future

 

Where's the english translation?

 

I think I'm just getting old, seems harder and harder to read some of these posts.

 

something is bothering her, IMO. Just ask her and let her know (in a nice way) that the things you do bother me. Don't make a fight about it just have an adult conversation. If she wants to make things better she will listen, and youshould listen also becuase we (guys) are never as perfect as we think we are.

 

ass haha fast typing sucks, and so do long stories, but no i dont go on and on with her. its real to the point

thats hard if my communication isnt being met, and 90% of the time it is. and she admitted she fucked up yesterday.

ill be sure to place a bolder infront of ur taco at the baja

her sisters 18, psycho chick, but she was more fun that my gf this weekend haha

 

well yeah, i mean i asked her sister "was she like this before i met her" and she told me that her sister used to be more out going and fun but now she gets mad easily and is quick to get mad. i mean i told her in a cool calm way yesterday and she just got up. acted like nothing until she read what i posted and kinda got the hint, but shes super stubborn

 

walk away while you still can. I hate hearing this kind of bullshit.

 

My advice: Relationships aren't easy, but they aren't hard either. It works, or it doesn't. There are rough spots here and there, but it should be here and there. Keep it simple.