Girlfriend issues

this story give you the right perspective, but shes interested. There are just times like this that she acts like if shits on her time.

I dont try to comfort her, i give her space, and she hates it. So it leaves me in a weird spot, u want me to give u space or you dont?. <<<thats where the "on her time" comes in

i told her if it was gonna be like this id just find someone else. And she gets all spooked. The relationships great when its great but the moments when its bad, its bad. <<< does that make sense?

Yeah cupcaking sucks, and i try to treat her how she treats me on the bad days but i end up making it too obvious and i distant myself way too much so i need to find a medium, which is tough at first.

Shes looking for a argument, maybe. Thats when i should just walk out and leave for the day. I usually stay but last night im like wtf am i doing here? Id rather be home then be stuck her like a dog

and im not always on her or cupcaking, its hard to explain, again its almost like "on her time" its when she wants it. So it sucks cuz then the days r like "man what kind of bf should i be today?"

u dont sound like a dick, i appreciate it

 

you guys seem young and dont settle becuase it will only get worse. I was married for 11 years and then decided it wasn't working when it wasnt working 6 years ago I just didn't do anything about it. Good luck! You both have got to want it to work out or it wont work.

 

you should just break up with her! i went through the same stuff for almost 2 1/2 years and i finally got fed up with it and broke it off. i felt so free. Then I ran into a girl that i liked a lot in high school but was too scared to say anything to her, but now we hit it off and been with her for almost a year now and my life is awesome. The grass is greener on the other side. life is short, don't spend it being unhappy.

 

Start picturing life without her, and then go live that life. She obviously is not ready for a serious relationship, so let her go and find someone that is.
If it was really meant to be, she will come to her senses and stop flaking out. But don't go into it hoping for that, cuz usually it works the other way.
Believe in yourself and move on.

Just my .02

 

Heres the rest of the convo through text (complete bullshit but i didnt intiate it)

her - what. Now youre threatening me and saying i dont appreciate you. I was talking to you and u ended up staying quiet. This relationship is not on my time. So do not say that. I didnt even know u were mad or distant. That was just me being me. Damn! But i dont wanna discuss this through text. Its stupid. I just gotta get used to u and the things u do. I cant change u so i gotta learn to accept it. Enough said. Bye.


I didnt reply that was around 8pm

10 pm

her - going to sleep. Goodnight

i didnt reply

her - not even a damn goodnight

me - goodnight.

Her - i doubt we'll be over this tomorrow so i dont even know what to do. Youre mad and threatening me with shit lik esomeone else can appreciate you, this really hurt me. If i honestly dont appreciate u enough then seriously find someone who will. Im sure i hurt u also but saying i dont appreciate you is something ive never said and that this relationship is on my time is bullshit. I dont want to resolve this through text so i dont know what we're gonna do. Bye

me - fix your attitude and id love to stay with u. If this can be fixed great if not then i dont see us lasting. This isnt healthy for this relationship if we're going to go day by day. If ur not used to be by now, what can i tell u? If ur gonna come over tomorrow we can talk. My big request is u lighten up. Ur not the person i met when u act all edgy and if its going to be like that i cant do this. I know thers a fun outgoing person in u and it needs to come out.

 

amen to that brother

 

I need to see a picture of her to see if she is worth it!

 

i dont put up with bs anymore the only way i would ever consider is if i put a rock on her finger

 

HALF WHITE HALF MEXICAN, BITCHINESS IS FROM THE MEXICAN HALF I BELIEVE

 

I would call it off dude, I went through the same thing a couple years back, things were great, got to the point I was considering proposing but all of a sudden she turned into a monster much like you described about your girl. HAPPY I called it off when I did cause she went down hill fast after I left.


PLUS: No girlfriend = More money for the truck LOL, priorities man...priorities...

 

gf or no gf all my money goes to ralph lauren and jeans

im horrible

 

Cute girl! However, it sounds like you both should go your seperate ways.

 

you asked for advice, 90% of the people responding have said get out! do what you want brother, but some one said that she is mind fuckin you (sorry cant remember who but props to them) couldnt agree more.
I couldnt walk away fast enough....no need for this BS.

 

BUT WOULD NEVER CONSIDER HER! HHAA

 

Forget her. Have some fun with her sister.

 

haha no way shes 18 my gfs 23

 

Seriously bro. I could write a bunch about what I've been through, but it would be the same advice as the rest. Best thing I ever did was leave the girl who acted the same way. Even though I warned her, she was still shocked. But I had the best few years of single life and met the girl of my dreams. Been married for a year yesterday and I couldn't be happier.

Long story short, tell her you need a break, sample the other goods out there, compare and reflect, and you'll realize that you should be treated better by a better girl. That's what I did and it worked out great. Good luck my man.

 

So, thanks for all the advice guys, this was maybe better than a bar with a bunch of friends haha. I see the direction u guys r sending me. But now its up to me to make my decision when i see her. I do appreciate everything though

 

^ plus its legal!

 

Shes also holding back till shes married haha