Girlfriend issues

DUDE, get out man quit hurting yourself. She obviously isnt ready to settle down. Shes mind fucking you to make you leave her and make you look like the bad guy, so just leave her ass and find someone better.

 

update this is how it played out today

when she came over, we never really talked about what happened. Part of this being the fact we texted like nothing happened throughout the whole day. When she got here it was kind of weird, i was distant, quiet. We went to the tanning salon so she could go in for a few minutes. Came out got food and headed out to the beach. We walked. We talked normally. She asked if she was still my gf. She actually walked down a steep cliff with me, climbing over rocks and down hills to get to a private part of the beach, we looked at the ocean and surfers, then headed back. We watched the recorded mtv awards she rubbed my arms and neck, affection!. Then we headed to the room laid down, she was being super affectionate, then grabbed me and pulled me over giving me those kisses that give u that feeling, man i feel super gay but they were those i love you/im sorry kisses. Anyways we had sex and i walked her to her car, gave her a kiss and walked away. No type of clingyness

 

Dude this happens once in awhile with me and my girl. i notice she gets like that when i dont pay attention to her or i dont give her "her way" but i always tell her i dont get paid to be nice. then she will get all butt hurt and not talk to me but she will get over it the next day.

 

LOL, win thread, buncha savages...

maybe your girl is preggo?!

 

Sounds like she realized that she could lose you, so she cooled her jets.
My advice (coming from a dude who had a girl just like that, for 3 years), if you are going to end it, don't be rude or a dick, because that will give her something to say "oh, well he was a douche bag to me". Just let her know it isn't working out, you two are going in different directions, etc.
If it does work out great, but make sure the both of you talk. When you have something on your chest, make sure you get it off, or it will just sit there and get bigger and bigger until it boils over, which it sounded like it did do.

Either way. If you want to come hang with a chill, fun, crowd (with or without) your girl.... hit me up and we can go wheelin', or hang with a group.

And what beach and cliff were you talking about?
Sunset Cliffs, or La Jolla?

Cheers

 

That is cool you guys sorta made up and all, but just watch for the seesaw back and forth stuff. One week she is a bitch and the other nice. That could also wear on you.

Also... maybe she reads tacoma world and saw this thread.

 

That's young, but still legal.

 

Sounds good bro, but don't put up with it if she starts again. Don't let her think that she can act all fucked up and then just go to the beach with you to kiss and make up whenever she's done. Stand your ground and stay strong. Hope it works out.

 

WOMEN!

Can't live with them; can't live without them.

They can be really moody at times. You just have to learn how to read her and figure out how to approach her (or not approach her). Ask her to have a serious sit down conversation with her where both of you "put the gloves on". Bring up everything that pisses you off with the relationship and everything that makes you happy about the relationship. At the end of the discussion (now that you both know how the other feels), make a decision if it's worth continuing or not.

 

yeah totally thanks!, it was held in because for the most part 90% of the communication is always met. but that 10% is when she kinda just acts like i didnt just explain to her what bothered me but reacts later on. yeah we climbed down sunset cliffs to the beachy area where the random stop sign is and the broken slab of concrete

 

she sent me a text in the morning and included "i hada good evening with u yesterday. i know we really didnt talk about everything but i didnt think there was much we had to talk about. i just know what i gotta do and im willing too.

i just told her that we both know what we gotta fix, because alot more was said the night before that i didnt post on here. i told her we just gotta take this alittle more serious about changing this time.

 

sounds like her sister is cooler is she any good ? if so then dump your girl and get at her sister.. Haha

no but honestly you need some advice from Tom Leykis, let your nuts hang bro dont let no girl walk all over you

 

I say dump her - fast.

 

drama drama drama.........move on dude

 

sounds like she changed her attitude. im glad its working out for the better.

 

first of all, GET RID OF FACEBOOK!!! do you realize that every single thread that is posted on this forum complaining about relationships at some point mentions facebook as a cause for an argument? what is with you people and that stupid website? i am gonna download a lot of pics then delete my account. anyway, it sounds like she is one of those chicks who just digs drama. i had a girl in college that i was head over heals in love with. i've never felt this way about a girl and probably never will again. but i wouldn't go back to her for all the money in the world. our relationship as just like yours. either fighting or making up, but nothing in between. never just a good fun time. at the time i didn't realize how miserable i was but afterwards i realized i was just constantly unhappy, because unlike her, i do not thrive on drama. you gotta decide if you can deal with constant drama or not

 

People fight in relationships...I tell my wife its healthy to do so all the time.

 

Damn ND, you're just full of good advice lately. Is something wrong?

I'm with you on Facebook or any other social network. You don't have to get rid of it, just stop putting your life info out there for the world to see and misconstrue. I just use it to keep in touch with family or close friends.

 

same here. the problem is i keep getting friend requests and messages and all kinds of shit i dont want to deal with. i only use it to get pics from fun weekends. but i'm on the verge of ditchin it all together.