Relationship issue

so here goes

sunday we go to the fair (me, gf, her sister, sisters friend)

i feel im just too old to really enjoy the fair like i used to. i went on all the rides they wanted to and even told my gf "if theres anything u want to do, ill do it with you, just let me know". anyways we're there for 4 or 5 hours and then we decide to take off.

anyways everythings fine afterwards. i told her i may take my sisters on wednesday to the fair since my mom got hurt on the job got some scrapes on her face and didnt want be out in public.

i get off of work early yesterday and i told my gf "im going to take the girls today" and she goes on asking about how long im going to be there, i told her how long and shes like wow u seem more excited to go today then u did with us.

anyways long story short, shes bitching cuz "i sound more excited to go" and i told her "dude im not going to have fun i just wanna take the girls on rides and watch them have fun" and all night thats what i did, i got no excitement from the rides at all.

anyways today it has carried on still. i even called her knowing i had nothing to do with her being mad. shes like "ill get over it on my own, its not something we have to talk about, ill be normal when im over it bc im hurt and mad"

so lets stay away from the "break up with her" solutions, bc its really not that bad of an issue

but heres what idk what to do....

keep tryna talk to her? or back off and let her come around?

if i do the first solution, isnt that like chasing her around, shouldnt i be ignoring her cuz shes mad not me? i feel chasing her would make me seem like i feel i did something wrong

2nd solution, isnt that "on her time" if shes mad, why should i have to wait?

let me know! thanks

 

pick your battles...some of them aren't worth two seconds. she's right, she'll get over it and eventually realize she was over reacting and being dramatic. whenever something like that happens to me and my gf tells me not to worry about it, i do just that. still act caring, still spoil her or whatever, but if she wants to be all pissy about nothing let her for a while, if she really cares about you she'll come around

 

She's being too 'self centered' about the situation (for a lack of words).

You've done nothing wrong and she's acting like this is your problem.

Just go about your business and let her come to you when she's ready.

Good & strong relationships require both people to have their OWN TIME. You can't be happy in a relationship if you can't be happy 'on your own' (so to speak).

She doesn't understand that.... (yet??)

 

Gotcha, good advice, all day i avoided her from 3pm i told her "u wanna argue, i dont, talk to me when u wanna act right"

so she texts me again at 430, i didnt get it till 730, so we didnt really argue i just bitched her out about being needy and selfish. Anyways so i left her alone and she just texted me tryna act normal. We'll see where this gets us!

 

Very kindly and genuinely ask her what she wants you to do. You know how she feels, now you need to know how she wants you to handle her in situations like this. You can try all sorts of things on your own to try and figure out the best way, or you can flat out ask her what she likes and possibly save a lot of time and frustration.

 

Janster, thanks! I see where ur coming from, ima just back up and let her come to her senses and i think she is

 

nice....make up sex!!!!

 

yeah i told her she was acting super childish, needy, and selfish.

And to top it off shes like "thanks for inviting me"

i didnt invite her cuz she had told me "i wont be seeing u tuesday cuz i have an essay to type"

haha! I told her that and shes like "u could still had tried to invite me"

i tol dher im not anyones babysitter

 

wow, did u just come on to me? Man...

 

Yea - just back off, let her get over her issue and then re-engage when she is ready.

I'd say, "ok, well - you know how to get in touch with me when you are ready to talk"

 

Don't call your girlfriend "dude". That never helps the situation.

 

haha we're from southern cali, the only person who gets mad at me for calling them dude is my mom.

 

they're all crazy! some hide it well, some just let it show."

truer words have never been said.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTvRqwQab3k

 

Oh to be 21 again and have these kinds of things to worry about....


Take Janster's advice

 

lol, she's mad because you "sound more excited to go" than when you went with her?

I wouldn't even waste my time worrying about this shit. Is she 11?

 

sounds like shes on the crimson tide! let her be for a while. of course, then she will think your not paying attention to her. lol if she talks to you, talk back. otherwise, eh, just chill.

 

she's jealous. IMexperience..jealousy is the most venemous of the emotions. cant control it, and it just spreads.

i kept dumping GF after GF, when they acted or became jealous. zero tolerance. i'm not jealous, i'm trustworthy..i looked for the same in my mate.

 

I go through this shit weekly LOL.

Just get used to it now. It'll never get better!