The Official Gym & Fitness Thread

I think people tell us but you have a tendency not to listen or appreciate the true impact until you let it get out of control a little bit.

I think all athletes need a break yearly to not lose their mind (or enjoyment of the sport).

Glad shes getting back to it and has a supportive partner.

I was watching an ultra documentary and spouses were talking about how frustrating it is to be with someone who is basically addicted to running and how they may leave for a whole Saturday to train or are too tired to help around the house after runs. They don’t get the appeal of trying to kill yourself training for a 100 miler.
I just looked at my husband and told him I didn’t appreciate his support fully until just then. He does not bitch or moan about my training at all. He doesn’t think I’m crazy or obsessed or act like I’m neglecting him.
My brother can’t go for a 1.5 hour run after work without his wife being like “wheres my 1.5 hours off from the kids?”.
That shit would not fly with me.

You guys are lucky you both enjoy your sport and support each other.

 

Not the same, but similar;

My girlfriend complains all the time about how she eats like shit or just hates her body and wants to workout, but “I just have no motivation” and any time I try to help she gets aggravated and gives me the whole “you just don’t understand”

There’s days when I want nothing more than to go home and not workout. But I do the shit anyways. Days with no motivation but I’m still there. Or days (every day) where I’m eating any and everything and fucking hating it. But I think she lacks the ability to visualize the end goal and put in the work whether she has the motivation or not.

Rant for the day that she’ll never see and I’m sure some of y’all have encountered too.

 

That is very true and you're absolutely right. Throughout our time together I've been told several times the story of either wife or husband that doesn't live the same lifestyle and the one who doesn't live that way - "complain or take shots" so to speak.

-Why can't you eat my food, it must not be good enough
-Oh don't worry just leave me and the kids again, we will enjoy our time here alone
-It's ok to eat what we do you're fine I love you anyway


I guess when does one stop doing what their doing and just follow suit - weather it be quitting the gym or having the other partner join in. I feel for those people, it can't be easy.

Glad you've also found someone so supportive! That is a very powerful trait in a relationship IMO. I seriously wouldn't be where I am today without my other half.

 

Sounds like the issue is she has no discipline.

Her motivation is she hates her body and wants to workout; however, she has no discipline to do it.

 

That’s a good point. Didn’t really think of it that way.

 

Its very tough. I try carefully with her and diligently, it takes ALOT of patience. Once she finally trusted me, we took her to comp and she destroyed it. Now I think she trusts me more in that aspect, but if she can't find it in herself, it does us no good.

I feel ya, I have experienced it with a few girls, and even with my current one. It's such a battle. You aren't alone, know that!

It's a tough battle, and I have seen it so much, even been guilty of it myself. My fiance is the same way at times. She's put in more work (since she competed) however, I am more consistent. She has her waves.. and just talks about x y z, but never fully commits to the change until finally one day she just breaks down and does it. (Like 1 week ago)

 

That sounds a little exhausting.

Its a very powerful trait, because I realized if I had a spouse that refused to understand and accept those activities that make me happy I’d be divorced pretty quick.

When we were walking out of the doctors office last week and I knew my race was a no go, he was like “lets sign up to crew runners for that race to get to know the area and race directors so we know what to expect for next year”

At least someone in the world actually gets me!

 

Exact same situation with my wife. She wants to get in a little bit better shape but has not been able to stick to it yet.

My wife is extremely disciplined when it comes to her school/work. She has a plan for everything and executes it to the letter. I think the problem she has is an intense aversion to being uncomfortable.

I just got done watching 85 dollars per month of yoga studio auto bill out of my account for the last 6 months. She went twice.

 

Sounds like we have identical partners.

 

First of all, my wife is a badass. She was overweight, lost weight, joined the navy and went through a deployment.

however, during her endeavors, she went back to her old routine that most of us suffer from which is eating for comfort. Being away from home and shit was definitely hard on her.

she has the same complaint yalls wife’s do. She wants to lose the weight again and get back in shape like she was pre-Navy.

I finally got her in the gym again last night and I didn’t do it cause I want her to lose weight. I did it cause I can see it in her eyes that she isn’t happy with herself and that she wants to do it but she just couldn’t find that motivation.

At first she was nervous and uncomfortable going to the gym. We went on a Sunday at 8pm. Place was empty but to her, it was crowded.

I let her do cardio while I was doing shoulders and like 40 minutes later she walked over to me and took some interest in lifting and did some sets with me. Now she wants to go again after work today.

with women, I think the main problem they have is that they just feel bad and uncomfortable getting into the gym because in their own head, they are judging themselves.

realistically nobody looks at big or small people in the gym and judges. Only the idiots get judged.

So my only advice would just be to work with em and ease into it slowly. The battle is in their head. Nothing you can do but be there for em and try to help them become the person they want to be.

 

You can't be the one to help her. Most women (really anyone) isn't going to take advice from their b/f, husband, partner, whatever you are to each other. For one (and most important), you're bias. How many times have you told her she is beautiful or perfect when she has complained about her body? And if you don't say that and instead said 'You know what babe, you're right - you look weird as hell' then that goes down a completely different path you definitely want to avoid. So you've already taken yourself out of the equation as someone who can look at her and see what she sees. It's the same reason people pay for trainers or coaches because it's their job to tell you that you look like shit and need to do better

 

You guys may have see this, but I thought it was really impressive

https://toofab.com/2020/01/10/ethan-suplee-weight-loss-my-name-is-earl/

 

I think its more a woman thing.

At least I don’t deal with that. I can get honest critical feed back from my partner and give it. It doesn’t turn into feelings being hurt.

 

My woman is hot as fuck. Skinny and shaped like an hour glass, tiny waist, big booty... She NEVER works out and I am fine with it. I don't think I would like a girl who was into fitness or competition the way I am. We like all the same things and are alike in pretty much all areas, but working out is the one thing where we differ. I like that there is something I can do on my own that's just my thing.

 

I almost feel the same way. I encourage my husband to run more and more (we are up to 7-8 mile runs together now). I really think it would be fun to race together but on the other hand its also really nice to run in solitude and it may get to be excessive us both being super dedicated.
We’d probably go broke supporting two habits anyways lol.

 

I’m a sucker for thicc women so I actually don’t mind my woman the way she is at allll but she doesn’t like herself so it’s for her. Gonna sabotage her though if she starts loosing too much.

 

Anyone else going to the gym instead of watching the game tonight?

 

What game?

 

Very similar story with my sister, she doesn’t only do it when working out though.. it can be frustrating but I’ve learned I can push it a little bit and if it doesn’t work then just walk away and listen to her complain.
I used to point out “hey, I tried to motivate you to do “x” and you said no.” but I found that wasn’t helpful.

 

My girl is 5’7 maybe 130lbs and it’s all ass. Physically, she’s your stereotypical hot blonde SEC sorority girl. I’m not complaining in the least bit if she doesn’t workout. I just hate that she’s unhappy and says she wants to workout but then won’t let me help her attempt to get started.