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Marriage

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by Sharpish, Jul 13, 2020.

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Would you get married again knowing what you know now?

  1. Yes

    156 vote(s)
    59.8%
  2. No

    105 vote(s)
    40.2%
  1. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:22 PM
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    ABA180

    ABA180 It burns when I pee....

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    We were much younger as well, so things changed there too.

    She was diag'd with depression. I always suspected more, perhaps not diagnosed or just not discussed with me.
     
  2. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:27 PM
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    cubie

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    If I could go back and do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing. All the choices I made in life, led to me to where I am today. The good, the bad, and the ugly, I consider my marriage to be a blessing in my life.
     
  3. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:28 PM
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    joeydurango

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    You're welcome. Give yourself some time to just be, to work through the newness of it all... I didn't go looking, just talked to people I randomly met and let things flow, or not. Most recently ran into someone while hiking and eight months later, things are going extremely well.

    Also, be warned that single women of a certain age - at least in my limited experience - are extremely cynical and distrustful compared to how I remember things when we were all 25. Even if they're capable of trusting, it can take a long time and a lot of hard work to get to the point where you're not "the enemy". This, of course, assumes that you're trustworthy and actually looking to be trusted for the right reasons.

    You've got this.
     
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  4. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:30 PM
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    Toywoodsguy82

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    I’m not looking to “be with” anyone right now. I need to figure my shit out first.
     
  5. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:36 PM
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    ABA180 It burns when I pee....

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    Best way to go, when she and I separated I knew I had my own shit to deal with..not the least of which being a drunk
     
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  6. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:37 PM
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    I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. If it wasn't meant to be, maybe it was for the best.
     
  7. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:47 PM
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    Stash419

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    Figuring my shit out as well through this separation / divorce. Tried everything and still love her and wish her the best but to abandon your family due to drugs is irreconcilable. Addiction is a horrible beast that will destroy everything in its path. Trying to be a dad and mom to our daughter is extremely difficult. I know I’ll be ok and will have an even better father/ daughter relationship throughout this bump in the road.
     
  8. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:48 PM
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    I feel your pain. My first long term relationship ended because of her doing drugs and me being a single dad of two daughters... we were together for 6 but never married
     
  9. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:50 PM
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    It’s a hell of a rollercoaster that we will be on for life since we have sex trophies with them.
     
  10. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:52 PM
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    i dont believe in marriage unless children are involved

    u can love & be happy & Not be married

    otherwise ought to be renewable contract every so many years

    that ' forever ' is a fairy tale
     
  11. Oct 6, 2020 at 6:55 PM
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    Something like that
     
  12. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:00 PM
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    4 better/worse..........................right ??
     
  13. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:06 PM
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    Exactly.
     
  14. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:18 PM
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    let me be clear here

    im a 'cynic ' on certain subjects.....issues.......circumstances

    this IS 1 o em !!!

    as i said b4 ' i dont beleive in marriage ' !!

    5-6 out o 10 fail

    1/2 o those remarry.........odds no better

    couples live together............success NO better than married

    remember what i said about kids

    6-7 out o 10 raised by single parent ( combination o married & live together )
    substantiated by ANY school teacher.....counselor or juvenile court probation officer)

    the issue aint inherent to marriage

    its truly all about 99% arent prepared to deal with someone else
     
  15. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:19 PM
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    To which I will repeat.

    Marriage is an institution of women, for women and by women. Even when it's over men are quite often still indebted, financially, to the woman. Women want equal opportunity and so on and so forth. Fine, lets do away with spousal support entirely. Child support should be based on the financial needs of the child and the mother shouldn't be allowed to touch a single penny for her use.
     
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  16. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:31 PM
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    so uz da b!tch ??
     
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  17. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:33 PM
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    WWE used to call that Pu**y Whipped. To each his own.
     
  18. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:37 PM
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    ' Whipped ' is when she's throwin it on U

    U dont know if U is goin or comin !!!

    OP is takin a beat down & likin it....................
     
  19. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:38 PM
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    BuzzardsGottaEat

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    Most people marry the wrong person for the wrong reason and have the wrong values in order to make a marriage not only "work" but be a genuinely happy and better experience than being single for both people.

    American women and American culture teach the principles that lead directly to American divorce rates and misery.

    Men don't take enough of the blame, even though women are our problem haha, we let them be and don't correct it or stand up for ourselves, generally speaking.
     
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  20. Oct 6, 2020 at 7:42 PM
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    My wife is angry with me because her mom took too long grocery shopping.

    :bananadead:
     
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