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You are doing good for yourself "talking" about it, I think it helps the healing process.

I lost both parents in my 20's, my brother a couple years later and to many friends since. I felt I dealt with those experiences well; but lately I think I could have done better. I spend more time than I think I should missing those folks as I get on in age.

Best of luck to you

 

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Did you actually find your parents' bodies, or your brother's? I do no worse dealing with the death of someone I care about than anybody else. The fact that we found her body is what's dragging this out. I've had a very easy life in my 36 years on this earth, with zero trauma whatsoever. I was bullied in grade school, but compared to what other people went through, even my experiences with bullies wasn't particularly traumatic.

We all die. Death is just a fact of life. and I am prepared for the fact that I could be at the bedside of a loved one as they pass away. However, the difference there is they will likely have a terminal illness and I will be expecting it; I can remember the day I met Emily, in high school back in 2006. Emily was a physically fit horseback rider then, and I never would have guessed that I'd find her dead from a blood clot in less than twenty years.

The other part that is getting to me is that I'm alive and well, and free to do as I please; Emily was born in November 1988 and I was born in March 1989. Emily and I were the same age, 36.

Emily will never again be able to watch TV, eat a hot meal, drive a car, go on a date, have sex, earn a paycheck - those are all things I take for granted. Emily will never have a baby, own a home, finish college (she had recently gone back to college), or see her nieces and nephews grow up. Today, Amanda (my girlfriend) and I were at a car show, and I felt guilt just based on the fact that I was enjoying myself at a car show and Emily essentially no longer exists (she was cremated).

 

Find the body, no watched my brother take his last breath in the hospital as I held his hand and told him it was ok to go....he was 33 yrs old

 

What did he die of, if you don't mind me asking? Our friend Emily was overweight and supremely unhealthy. She did not drink alcohol, smoke, or do drugs. Her toxicology report turned up nothing suspicious.

The other really sad part is that she died alone. Well, her dog was with her, but you know what I mean...

Your brother had the comfort of knowing that you were with him to the very end. We are pretty sure that Emily went peacefully in her sleep, but it goes without saying that this could have ended much differently if Amanda hadn't gotten the premonition that something wasn't right. She could have been in the condo for three days or more, which would have caused even more problems. We know she died somewhere between 10PM on Friday and 8AM on Saturday, but because she wasn't dead for very long and the A/C was on, she was still in good condition.

 

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So, this evening, we met the paramedic who kicked in Emily's door and thanked him for his efforts. I called the fire department's non-emergency number while transporting a Silverado from Pipersville back to Doylestown. The guy who answered was unable to give any names, but knew exactly who I was talking about based on the date and time of the 911 call, and said that he was working tonight and we could stop by the firehouse.

Amanda did not want to go at first, but she changed her mind. Contrary to what was said by the firefighter I sold the window A/C to, the larger guy in the reflective jacket is the paramedic, and the smaller guy carrying the equipment is the EMT. The paramedic's name is Kevin, and he is a very nice guy. We shook his hand, and he was able to answer some previously unanswered questions about Emily's death. Kevin has been doing what he does for twenty years, and he has seen enough over the years that he has a pretty good idea of how long a person has been deceased...

He believes that Emily had been gone for roughly 6 to 12 hours at the time we found her. Emily's mom told us the coroner told her that Emily had been gone for about 8 hours, so this makes sense. This means that Emily survived the night and slept in her bed Saturday into Sunday, since her phone was charging in her bedroom. Also, I previous said that one of the EMS guys had told Amanda that Emily was in full rigor. There was a misunderstanding; Emily was going into rigor, but not fully stiff. She really hadn't been gone for long by the time we found her.

I also sent an email to Horsham PD on Sunday, requesting to thank the responding officer for his response and possibly meet him (Amanda was on board with this), and got a response from a Lieutenant with the department within a day. He is currently on vacation for a week, but will look up the case files and let the officer know that I reached out.

We talked to Emily's mom today and filled her in on what we'd learned. So, we know Emily's cause of death and some basic info about the autopsy results, but the county wants $500 for the full autopsy report. They also want an additional $100 for the toxicology report, and will only allow the tox report to be purchased if the autopsy results are purchased; Emily's mom is not poor, but she doesn't want to spend $600. Does anybody else think that it is cruel to make a dead person's mother pay for their full autopsy report?!?!

 

Glad you got to meet the paramedic, sure it helps with the healing process.

 

Next week, we get to meet the cop who was first on the scene. Also, Hannah was the one who stole the show on that otherwise tragic night. All of the first responders absolutely loved her! Kevin the paramedic was feeding her treats to keep her occupied, and when it became obvious that she needed to potty, the cop put on her leash and brought her out to me.