Do antidepressants help anger?

Over the past few months, I have been pretty down and ill-tempered. It has been a slow progression and I recognize it. Things just piss me off and I haven't kept it in like I used to. I let my wife know what is bothering me and she ignores it. Just the same shit everyday. I don't really want to talk about my job.

Here is background info on me:

My school life wasn't anti-social, but I kept quiet. Let people make the high school jokes and never retaliated.

Fast forward. Over a year ago, my house was broken into and my wife was assaulted while I was at a hardware store. To this day, I still have not asked in depth everything that occurred and I am unsure if not knowing is better than knowing. We moved and I still have the house under rent and my renter never pays on time. Money is OK, but I cannot afford both houses if something happens. Pretty stressful.

Moving forward to present. I am a neat and clean person. My wife was spoiled as a child and doesn't do much around the house. I do the house work, yard work, and side jobs. I need the house to be clean. It is just how I was raised. Why let things pile up when you can do it now in 5 minutes instead of spending a whole day once a week. My mother was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent a double mastectomy.

So here I am. I am stressed to hell, pretty down, and pissed all the time.

I have no resorted to alcohol or drugs. I have good friends. I do not have suicidal thoughts. I am just unhappy.

Are anti depressants what I need? I have always been against them, but I don't know anymore.

 

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Anti Depressants are not what you need, personally I have issues with people who can't take care of themselves aka spoiled people. Caring for someone who doesn't appreciate it in the slightest is stressful, Dump the wife, there really is plenty of fish in the sea

 

The right antidepressant at the right dose can do wonders for anger, anxiety, motivation, etc. There are some pretty mild ones out there like Zoloft, which I took small doses of for a period of time a long time ago when I was going through a divorce. I went from holed up in my apartment moping around, to completely changing my outlook on life into a positive one and totally turning things around. I only took it for 3 months but it sure snapped me out of a funk.

Not everyone reacts the same to these drugs, though. Definitely work with a psychiatrist (they are the true MDs that are allowed to prescribe antidepressants, not psychologists who can only give advice).

Regardless, you have some other issues here that you need to deal with first. Sounds like your wife needs to come clean and also pull her weight.

 

You need to talk to someone bro. A Dr or counselor. Meds may be part of the treatment but sounds like there's a lot going on

 

X1 - You really need to see a local physician , all of that stress is not good for anything....have seen people have results of stroke or heart attack. Good Luck with everything

 

Regular MD might be a place to start (what if you just have shortage of some vitamin or mineral).
If religious, talk to your religious advisor.
Talk to wife, she might actulay be glad to talk and listen (girls are good at that and for some reason think we should be too!)

 

Jared, I applaud you for even asking this question. Most people, especially men(no offense) are heavily resist to taking any kind of medication, especially antidepressants. I think it is a good idea to try something. There are lots and lots of different kinds of drugs out there. Finding the right combo is the key. Also remind yourself that taking something never means it has to be permanent. You can be on something while you're having a tough time, and then ween yourself off... Sometimes we just need a lil bit of help and asking for it is the hardest part. And it definitely sounds like you and your wife needs to have a serious sit about some issues...

 

It sounds like she needs to get off her ass and start cleaning as a wife should. Your wife should be helping you, not making things worse.

 

This is what I was going to say. You need to get it out with a pro and your wife needs to be there with you and for you. I take Lexa-pro and it helps in that my fuse has gotten longer, but talk to someone.

 

Usually meds are used when your brain isn't producing a certain chemical, serotonin for example.

It's not uncommon for people to develop issues as adults. Many people have been diagnosed with BPD, bipolar, schizophrenia, etc later in life

BUT- in your case I personally feel your issues are situational in nature. Start with a good psychologist (therapist). They will usually tell you if you need a psychiatrist (medication), too.

Maybe you can work it into some couples sessions so you and your wife can talk about your expectations of things around the house and also possibly speak about the attack on her.

 

I too wanted to give you major credit for posting this. I suffer from depression and anxiety and I tried just about everything before starting antidepressants. The very first thing you should do is talk to you doctor, just that alone will be a relief. Next it sounds like you need to sit down with your wife and tell her what's going on, how frustrating it is for you that she doesn't pick up after herself and how much stress your under. Tell her what you need and ask her what you could do to help her work on it. Things will get better, if she loves you like she should she can learn to at least clean up after herself to make your life a little easier.

 

she needs to see someone too. after what she went through, it sounds like you eventualy need to both talk about what happened that day. she is short with you, you get mad at her. im sure that it has a lot to do with what happened while you were at the hardware store. she may blame you and is holding that in, you want to know what happened and not knowing is killing you. seek some help bro, both of you

 

This. Talk to someone about your stress.

Talk to your wife about your expections for her.

Talk to your renter about your expections of him, and kick him out if he wont pay.

You're going through a rough patch, but none of your problems are without solutions. Just tackle them one at a time. Make a plan to talk to your wife and make a plan to talk to your tennant. Think of what you want to say (maybe write it down), so you dont get angry while you're talkin to them.

As you address these issues you will start feeling better.

Good luck

 

Wow you and your whole immediate support network (Wife & Mom) have had horrible experiences lately!!
First off I am keeping all of you in my thoughts & prayers and for things to turn around!
I do not know anything about medication & have not taken any but have had counseling on other challenging life experiences.
Are you and your wife want to do something like that either with a professional or clergy? Someone you trust?
Working with a counselor & exercise has been my best medicine. No alcohol either for me for its a depressant as well & didn't solve anything.
For exercise I hike, riding a bike, kick boxing, doing stuff even when I do not want too. My thinking gets clearer and anxiousness reduced when I work out or keep moving.
Best of Luck with your family & keep us posted if you feel like you can & hope you can get past it all soon.

 

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NO. Not at least until you exhaust your options and determine that's what you need. What you need is to quit stuffing your feelings and hurt (which is what turns to anger) - hurt is the primary emotion you need to deal with, not the anger which is the result (speaking in generalities - i've been through similar issues). You need to figure out how to have a voice, and set some boundries and be able to express yourself - quit hiding from the truth. Unfortunately, it sounds like your wife isn't doing anything to try and help you do this - maybe she would if you asked - but sounds like you have. You really need to find a good therapist to sort some of this out, and help you develop in areas where you didn't develop as much as you should have.

 

You need to talk to a doctor-mental health specialist and get started on a treatment plan including counseling and possibly medication. My bf recently started going to a psychologist and it's helped him a lot. He has anger issues, they put him on anxiety medication not antidepressants, but it's going to depend on your individual situation which meds may help you the best. You came here, that's a step in the right direction, now seek professional help there is no shame in that. Your wife should take to someone also, please try to convince her of that, tell her you care and want the best for both of you. Best of luck to you.

 

being pissed all the time is triggered by stress, so is feeling down. You feel guilt for what happened to your wife so thats causing some of the stress. all the smaller events build up even more stress, anger and anxiety. Anything having to do with cancer is extremely stressful.

I would argue that you need to talk about what happened with your wife, you need to let her know you're reaching a breaking point and something needs to change with the house work. boot the renters or put in a 100 dollar fee for late payment, 1st is due and they have til the 5th and after 5pm on the 5th they get charged 100. Thats what my apt complex does, its pretty effective.

I feel like we're pretty similar, let things pile up til you just feel like a time bomb walking around. Talking to people really helps. I went through a stressful time last year around this time and it was pretty hard on me but i was able to go through it.

There is stress we have no control over, such as your wifes incident and your moms health, and there is stress we have control over such as renters and your wife ignoring you trying to tell her about things. Gotta stand up for yourself.

I honestly feel that unless you have an actual imbalance or something that drugs will just modify your mood and not fix the problems that have caused the anger, stress anxiety etc.

disclaimer, i'm not trained nor a professional in this field so this is all my opinion and has the possibility of being wrong. I'm just sharing what i believe i have found from going through similar amounts of prolonged stress. I hope this helps

 

Yea man , stress is a bitch. When my wife got preggo and work was slack i was stressted to the max man. Stress will make you feel many different things. Treatment plans will vary from one person to another. Your first step is talk to a family counselor and he or she can give you a lot of help. Dont be ashamed for going to talk to someone. Everybody needs some help at some point in their life and that is what these people are here for. I did and am glad I did. Take care man and let us know how everything goes.