So GF and I decided to take a break....

Okay look. Between you, me and TW...

Drop her.


I know it's hard but drop her. Look what she's doing to you. You are upset, she's treating you like some kind of dog. YES DOG. You come when she wants you to, you back off when she wants you to. What kind of respect is that? If she doesn't like your jokes, if you annoy her then fine. For some reason it was all good before but now suddenly this comes up? What kind of game is this? If she can't be happy that you have free time and not stressed like her then she is not LOVING you. When you love someone you want more good for them than you do for yourself. You never get angry because the one you love is NOT going through ugly times.

So tell me. Is she really loving you?

Don't call her. Take her phone number off of your phone. Block hers from coming to yours. Unfriend her on facebook and change your status to single. You should not feel bad about this because this is what she wants, right? Don't even look at her or say hello to her at school. If she says hi, give her the head bob thing and keep going. Or simply not hear her.

How can she treat you like this? You are worth more than that. You went through so much trying to do the right thing when you first went out and met her parents. I remember that. You are a great person, a TRUE person. And she treats you like this? Don't play that game. Respect yourself and don't let her do this to you.

You are a really good guy, one who cares sincerely. Do you think I'd forget how honorable you are?

You need a woman who can be honest with you and respect you. Not play you for a fool and take advantage of your heart.

Drop her. And love yourself enough to let her go. Because she is not loving you at all. Drop this game. Why keep her around?

 

I think any girl that just broke up with her bf would want them back if they saw him with another girl. That's like girl nature.

I really hope she didn't cheat, she told me she was being completely honest with me yesterday. She in the past has told me EVERYTHING, stuff that doesn't get told to people commonly at all. I hope that her next boy, if this doesn't work out, treats her like sh!t, and all the others after that treat her like that too, so that she realizes how well I treated her and how much I was worht to her.

 

I have heard so many different things... People say that I did the right thing taking a break and to just wait it out and see, some people say dump her. I don't know.

 

She still has my jackets in her dorm, and my condoms are still there too... I wonder what the look on her face will be when I take those with me...

 

Agree 100%. Also I'm pretty sure if she finds another guy she will let you go for him. Don't stick around for that.

 

And babytruck, she said that she is not excited to see anyone, because she is too tired from all the stuff she has to do.

 

I do want help, I am just stating what she told me is all.

 

Denial. The poor boy is heart broken

 

You, man, sound like a fella in denial. The sooner you get over her the better. "tricking" her back into a relationship by having her see you with another broad, not gonna work. As others have said, she either did something and wants to break it off, or the chemistry is gone.

If I were in California I'd take full advantage of the location. You also own a Tacoma. Life could be a helluva a lot worse. Count your blessings man, the world ain't over.

 

This.

Fink

 

Listen to the women that have posted...they are being honest

 

And don't let this one chick make you jaded.

 

Yep, move on, but do it in a mature/classy way. Someday, she and you may cross paths again and if you handle this correctly, both of you may find you fit again. Plus, it doesn't make you look like an immature fool, which she will remember.

There are plenty more where she came from... and if this truly is your first "love," it may be hard and you'll never forget her--but that's a nice thing in the end. However, you'll look back one day and realize you were meant for someone else.

(oh, and see if you can get some breakup sex... you may be in for a long dry spell)

 

Agreed with the poster above. The more mature you are about the whole thing the better off you will be. Showing maturity beyond your years during a break up is a true test of a persons character.

 

So if I were to break up with her this week, how do I do it in a classy way?

 

Hahahaha c'mon after all this you're still trying to save her feelings? Tell her to kick rocks and let it be.

 

x2 ... Good advice and he's right!

 

sell her to the sex slave trade.

prolly could get some Taco mod money...

or, if she's top shelf material...maybe a new Ferrari. white women are worth serious bank in parts of Asia and South America.

you should look into this.

 

Break up with her. Then don't talk to her at all for a few months. Let her go completely. During that time, date every chick you can. If you find one that's interesting, go for it! Do not hold onto hope that you are going to get back together. You will miss out on other opportunities if you try to hold onto her.

I've been through similar things. I've held on, and I've let go. Letting go is the right choice.

She actually sounds like she may be depressed, not just stressed out. If you truly care about her, you might suggest she get some counseling. You didn't post your age or her's, but it sounds like you're both young. If she's going to develop clinical depression, the college years are prime time for it to start. If someone becomes depressed and refuses to get help, it usually will peak in their early 30s. Do a little reading on the subject, it's a definite possibility. If you suggest to her that she needs to get help, it probably will not go over well. When I went through this with my ex-girlfriend, she already had a long history of depression, and she was absolutely convinced that she could take care of herself and did not need help. I loved her, and I still do, but when she looked me in the eye and told me she could take care of herself and would not seek counseling, I knew there was nothing else I could do for her. I had to save myself and my own health.

My father gave me some great advice when I was going through all this with my ex. He told me that the relationship is at it's best when you are dating. It is about you and her, together without any other priorities getting in the way. If you get married, buy a house, have kids, etc, then it becomes hard work. It might be fulfilling work, but it will not be like when you were dating. If you're lucky enough to survive it all and raise your kids into functional adults, then it can be about you and her again. Moral of the story: If you aren't happy now, it's not going to get better. People can change, but not very often. Past performance is the best indicator of what's in store for the future.

Good luck. Enjoy your youth while you still have it. If you cross paths with this girl later in life, maybe things will be different, but don't stop living life to wait for that. Life is happening right now!