Are you afraid of dying?

X however many on this, and not so much afraid of death , but afraid of what I would leave behind, wife, kids, etc... I especially always want to be there for my kids. I would almost feel like I let them down, dying before they could take care of themselves. So that part of it, I'm afraid of.

 

Live your life so that when you die, you fill up the church!
A big funeral says something about how much you were loved, or at least respected.

 

Yes, same here. I am terrified of leaving my wife behind. Even though I am only 29 i have the life insurance and everything set up so that if I go she could pay everything off, including the house and have some money left over.

My closest near death is when we were scuba diving on our honeymoon in Cancun. We were on a booze cruise with a tour operator and the offered us four different excusrions and one was scuba diving. being 25 and not knowing any better we said yes. Needless to say they gave us 10 minutes of instructions and then we went 30M down to the reef.

I started taking on water and bolted for the surface. My swim seemed like a lifetime and was very scary.

 

I'm more affraid of what there is after life.

As I get older I beleive less in Heaven and Hell, yet I beleive that what makes me never goes away(matter is neither created nor destroyed type thing) so the 'spark' that makes me me, where does it go?

But then I realize that I was technically dead (absent of life) before I was born, and it didn't bother me then so I should be ok.

 

I was dead for millions of years before I was born and it never inconvenienced me a bit.
- Mark Twain

 

The secret to not fearing death is to live each day as if today were your last. No regrets. No words unsaid.

 

Nope! I wonder what Chris4x4's answer would be...he has probably come close to death many times...

 

You know, as soo as I read the part above an old memory came back.

Back in 2008 while on leave visiting my family I had a stroke, and was paralyzed from my entire right side for a while. Went through physical, occupational and speech therapy. Pretty much have recovered 90-95% since then. But as I type, the slow dexterity of my right hand is always a reminder.

I distinctly remember being put into the back of an ambulance and they let my mom sit in the passenger seat. I was in the gym when it happened and they called an ambulance for me, I managed to call my mom, she arrived when the ambulance did. I will also never forget the look on her face as she looked at my laying down in the back of that ambulance not even being able to move.

The pain and fear I heard in my moms voice over then phone as I told her somebody had just called an ambulance for me (and that I didn't know what was happening to me at the time) will always be with me.

So the only thing I fear about death is going out before my parents do. No one can be as deeply scarred by the death of a child than a parent, especially a mother. The one person who carried you inside them for 9 months of their lives. I can't even imagine what it feels like to lose a child and pray to god I never do.

God bless y'all!

 

I dont have to worry about it im gonna live forever.

 

Damn man....how old were you? Any family history or reason for this, or just a freak thing?

I'm glad you're ok man. I bet that was scary shit!

 

Hell yes!

Pretty much everyone states the obvious that it's inevitable...well no shit.

We fought long (years) & hard (gave up jobs, homes, even the state we lived in) to save our sons life. I would have done the same for any of my loved ones or myself. It's not the actual death part (unless it's going to hurt ) but, lets face it...there is, at the very least, a certain finality to death. That part of that finality I won't willingly give up are those that I care for....something (depending on ones belief) that may be permanent.

And, for many reasons, I'm just not done living yet.

 

WOW................If I thought I would just be worm dirt then I would be very afaird. I know went I die that God has a place for me. So am I afaird, No I don't want my family to go throught the pain of me passing. I just cannot believe so many people on one forum can have no clue. God bless you all and enjoy your life now for some it want it no better than this.

 

Interesting question, I was diagnosed with cancer in June and have spent the last six months undergoing chemo and radiation. While the treatments made me sick enough that I thought I might die and had to go eight weeks with no food or liquid by mouth my faith and fear of my wife helped me through it. I'm now waiting for the final scan to determine tumor status. You learn to apprieciate the small things and you loved ones. Been back to work for one week and even enjoy getting up in the morning to go to work. God is good. Bottom line answer FEAR NO, LOOK FORWARD TO NO WAY!

 

Glad to see you are doing better, may your positive progress continue.

 

Hang in there brother. I start Chemo on the 20th. (Stage 1 Hodgkin in my neck) Not looking forward to it, know it's a battle that is necessary. Good luck on the next scan! Feel free to PM me if you ever just want to talk.

 

Oh my...good luck to you, Nick.

 

I was 20, it actually happend 2 days before my b-day and turned 21 sometime when I was in and out of consciousness in the ICU.

BUT I thank god (oh and all the therapists too!!! ) that I'm still suckin in air and and kicking. It was a "freak thang", drank a monster before the gym. That caused a spike in the blood pressure, and the exertion in the gym didn't help either, which caused the blood vessel to pop in "ma brain". At leasts that was the doctors explanation.

What really opened my eyes though was when they finally told me it was a stroke that I had. Only a few months before my incident an aunt (married to my mother's brother, so no actual relation) died of a stroke. She was taking a shower when it happened. My niece got home from school and found her mom, already passed away, on the shower floor. May she R.I.P.

Haven't had a monster or N.O. Xplode since then. I used to drink monsters like it was cool before then too. What could ever happen to me, I was younger and invincible, right?!?!

And thanks for your words. It was scary when it was happening, cuz I didn't know what the f*ck was happening at the time. The scary part was knowing that you're "telling" your limbs to move but they won't phucking move for sh*t, and feeling like there was a ton of bricks on my chest making it impossible to breath. So I was just laying half in and half out of the truck when a guy in scrubs passed by. Managed to call out to him and he called the ambulance.

I was in the gym workign out when I started feeling fatigued. Then woozy, then I decided to leave and made it to the truck feeling like crap, and managed to raise the right leg into the truck and then I just kinda slumped onto my right side and couldn't move any more. Got put into the ambulance after a few calls, and remember on and off the next few days after that.

Finally woke up to some chocolate cake waiting for me. Best cake I've ever had!!!!!!!

I remember the first time they tried to walk me to the shitter. My dad under one arm, and a nurse under the other. They sat me down on the toilet, and walked out. I proceeded to take a sh*t, but that wasn't happening! I slipped off the toilet and onto the floor like a sack of potatoes.

A few weeks pass and my sis comes to visit. They put me on a wheel chair and they let me go to the mall. My sis is pushing me around. We buy some burgers. Man I almost started crying when I couldn't even hold the burger up with both hands. But I held that sh*t in and just used my left.

I know I know I type way too much, but it's good for my dexterity.

I should write a book!

 

Not afraid to die. Just afraid of being sick and not being able to take care of myself. My mom is in a nursing home, most depressing place. It's horrible seeing all those people in there depending on nurses and nurses aids for their existance. You have to be thankful for just being able to feed and dress yourself and your able to get around.

 

This. ^^
Thanks for writing it for me

 

Oh my. Thats is unbelievable. Glad you're hear to tell the story!

I've never been a fan of those energy drinks. I drank one once and felt like my heart was going to explode, never again!