the things I say these days...

Probably the smartest post I've ever read on any forum, anywhere, ever.

 

Excellent point. Also, post pics of GF.

 

I would tell her that your house is way to small for that many people and animals. And ask her for some more time to think it over.

 

yeah this... but did you know what she had before you offered? dont be a dick/indian giver ya know.. lol ... you could always be like.. "okay so what's your two month plan of GTFO of my house"

 

x2

 

this

 

100% agree with this. Sure, you shouldn't have opened your mouth and even put the thought into her head in the first place but now you really have to put the brakes on it or you're screwed. She has a place to stay so it's not like you'll be throwing her out on her ass with nothing. Yes, this will mean you'll likely be looking for a new girlfriend but, unless you're 100% sure this is the girl you want to marry (which, based on your post, you're not ready for), trust me you'll be better off. She is using you as a meal ticket and taking full advantage of your kindness.

 

OP, what's your plan? Looks like the responses from your Tacoma brethren are 100% abort mission.

 

Sounds like the plan to follow.

I think you're being serious...maybe. If so, you gotta fix that shit before it goes too far and then it's a real pain in the ass (and not in just one way).

Just be staight and say it like it is...you got a big heart, you care for her (though you're not ready for the packaged deal yet from the sounds of it), you're horny and you opened your mouth and now you're overwhelmed. Better now than when you about to jump off a ledge.

I've known people who've put themselves in the same spot you're putting yourself in and waste years of that part their lives being unhappy because for whatever reason they couldn't bring themselves to say anything. Turns out it wasn't fair to the dude or the chick...so I say again, fix it & ASAP.

 

100%% THIS!! cats also HATE ME! they try and get me to pet them, i try and be nice and pet them than BANG they fing bit me or scratch the hell out of my arm. oh and they make me sick if i’m around (like in the same house) more than like 2 or 3hours.

kinda glad i don’t just not like them. because if i’m with someone who dose i have a good reason for not having it around me or in my place!

we have a stupid cat that showed up at the house almost 3 years ago, well the other day we built it a dog house looking thing that like 22”x27” and it’s on the back porch and now it has a heating pad in it for winter. mom use to let it in the house at night and it not even coming in my room would make me sick.

 

Thanks. I've seen this type of situation ruin a buddy of mine. We all agreed he was a sucker for the "wounded puppies", and then he married one (she's batshit crazy), and her two rotten kids, and his life has fallen apart. Now they ALL live back with his parents. What a disaster.

 

Her priorities also don't sound right. She's paying $$$ to construct a WANTED fence for WANTED pets while struggling to put a NEEDED roof over her head.

If you really care for her I believe a lesson or two about finances would do her good.

 

Is she worth it? Is she so wonderful that she's worth putting up with a zoo and two children that may or may not be insufferable? Is she so great that you wouldn't mind sharing your bathroom with not only her but her two kids? Are there any perks? Will she do your laundry, mow your lawn, wash your dishes, prepare your meals, wash your truck, read you bed time stories, do your taxes, balance your check book, clean your house, make you omelets on the daily, etc, ect?

 

Were you initially aware that she owned a zoo?

 

+1

 

No matter what you decide, make sure it is what YOU want. Not what TW says you should do.

 

false. It's all about TW

 

^^^ Truth. The combined wisdom of the pack far outweighs that of the individual.

 

Shush you, we know what's best

That is true though, no matter what we say, we're not in your shoes. End of the day, you're the one who has to live with the decision.

 

I would suggest if he really did want her to move in, this thread wouldn't exist. We're not talking about off road vs. sport or thin lip satoshi vs. deep, I think the fact that EVERY response supports the same course of action, generally speaking, says something.

I can't speak for the OP, but it is more than highly likely he posted up in the first place because he knows exactly what he SHOULD do and is looking for support and encouragement to have a tough discussion with his GF.

Not disagreeing that its his decision to make.......