Prayer for my Marriage

While I don't want to take up a whole page quoting everyone to thank them I will kepp a couple quote to specifically address them non specifically, lol.

But thanks Mainmoe02, Plannerman99, eaglesfn5402, Bfaxi, firemanjay, 11TRDTX, woodystacoma05, stmpjmpr, 4runnercaged, 45acp, and TheGrayRider for the thoughts and prayers!

We had friends get divorced last year, our marriage isn't swell, and her best friend is having issues in her marriage as well. I pray daily that we can figure this out and be a light and an example to those whose marriages are suffering as well.

We went through this exact scenario last year. I feel that only made things worse in our relationship. Its too easy for either person in a marriage to sit around badmouthing the other when they are all together complaining about there marriages, instead of building up their spouse in front of others. Negativity breeds contempt and that kills marriages.

Sorry to hear about your divorce. Remember God works everything for the good of those who love him. It doesn't always happen on our timeline or how we expect, but its a promise made to us by the only one whom will NEVER let us down!

Thanks Jon. You are aware of more of my situation than most others here, and I appreciate you being there, and being understanding of why I haven't really been able to come up like I want to.

Pride goeth before the fall. I feel this is one of our issues. We are both proud people, opinionated, and hard-headed.

 

Be patient

 

Ten tips --> excellent article,

http://www.kristysinsara.org/1/post...y-marriage-should-live-bygay-or-straight.html

 

Having a good marriage is much like having a vehicle in great condition.... it takes maintenance.

Work on giving yourselves 'periodic maintenance' and your marriage will seemingly repair itself.

Do what you both need to do to get your 'vehicle' in top running condition and performance.

... prayers to you both.

 

Certainly prayers your direction.

I will mention this, and you can take it for what it is worth:

I had a friend years ago who went through the same ting. Everything was great for a while, but about a year after their first child was born they went through a really hard time. The wife was emotional at times, and other times she was ok. They didn't exactly fight, but they disagreed on a lot of things....That is just the general background.

They went to couples groups and everything. Nothing worked. Well they had a friend who was a doctor and recommended she take a few tests. Come to find out that because of the baby, she was low on several chemicals in her brain that kept her in a different psychological state. Short term drugs to help balance her out and the next thing you know, they were just find together, and happy. They are still married today, and their daughter is I think 12 years old now.

I am NOT saying your wife is mental, or that this is even what is going on. I am simply telling you that this is NOT uncommon at ALL in women with young children under the age of 2. Something to consider.

Either way, my prayers and best wishes for you both. While both of you may be hurting through this, the person who will be hurt the most is the child who doesn't even understand yet what is going on. I never suggest to stay married for the child's sake, but I WILL say that for you AND the child's sake, take into consideration ALL possibilities.

 

Praying man! Please don't give up.

 

In the same boat. And the sea is a rough. And my boat is taking on water.

Feel your pain.

 

Well wishes for you and your family. Stay strong and do whatever it takes to work through things. I've seen miracles happen.

 

The Lord has been teaching me patience in a lot of things lately, I am beginning to think this is a group lesson for my wife and I.

Good read. Thanks for sharing. I have read most of those one time or another, and am doing all I can, but one loses momentum when it isn't reciprocated.

Thanks. That's one of the hardest parts of this all. I can literally fix anything. Literally. Well...'cept my marriage it seems.

It is much appreciated. I am not saying the rest is out of the question, but not saying that's whats going on either.

Thanks for the prayer and encouragement!

I will keep you in my prayers Mike. My boat has capsized once already, but we are out in it again, I am looking, praying, and begging the Lord to calm the storm.

Thanks man. I am beginning to think nothing short of a miracle is going to help us. Good thing I know someone for whom a miracle is more than possible.

TO ALL:

I am sorry if some of my responses seem vague. I am trying to be respectful to both myself and my wife, and not play the blame game or point any fingers. I only know one thing for sure, and that's that I am working as hard as I possibly can to meet my wife's needs, and work on the things she says I need to change.

 

Well without going into too much here, I would just like to ask for prayers for my family. My marriage is failing and no matter what we try (Christian marriage counseling, etc.) we just cant seem to get along. There is no certain thing we can pinpoint as the cause of our problems, and its certainly no one persons fault. We are just two imperfect people from different backgrounds, having a hard time growing together to meet each others needs. Things have been especially bad here lately and I am getting pretty discouraged.

I am a firm believer in the power of prayer and ask that you offer up prayers on our behalf that we may be changed by the power of the Holy Spirit to live out our marriage as God intended so we may have a fulfilling marriage to us, and one that honors him in the process.



obviously you two are not friends. prayers big time and good luck!

 

Dude, not cool. And speaking from experience of a separation and long road to rebuilding my marriage, this is horseshit. Most of the strife that modern marriages experience are related to communication, respect, and actively working to keep the relationship healthy. Don't add extra burden to this; its painful enough without judgment.

 

Thank you to both of you guys. I did not take it as disrespectful, and appreciate the prayer regardless. I sort of feel you are right. We aren't friends like we used to be. I am trying to re-visit the things we enjoyed together while dating. It just doesn't seem to work anymore. She would rather spend time with her friends because as she says "they don't argue with her."

And Plannerman99, thanks for jumping to defend me. I hope your long road had an excellent destination at the end. Unfortunately we have already had the separation too, a little over a year ago, before we decided to commit to this. I am discouraged, but not giving up. Until I no longer am afforded the option to try (one way or another) I will continue the course.

 

good luck and i wish you all the divine intervention in the world.

in the end..if you just dont get along and dont love each other..no shame in tapping out. just do it gently with respect for each other.
best of luck.

 

Here is your/our problem: Eph. 6:12
Here is the ANSWER: Eph. 6:13

READ IT! Look for your answers from the Creator....."Blessed is the man that trusts in the Lord, cursed is the man that trusts in man". Satan has come to kill, steal and destroy all things. Do not allow his "spirits", demonic worldly influence, to control what you think, believe or say. Many today dont believe the scriptures, much less read them. Thats ok, it is quoted in the Bible that in last days men will turn away from the TRUTH. Spiritual warfare is not taught in main stream churches today....even though nothing under the sun has changed. PM me if you would like to discuss this further. I can only show you what HE has shown me. DONT LET THE DEVIL LAUGH AT YOU, Get yourself trained up on what your fighting. When you married that girl, you made a pledge to God and to her for life. I will look for your message. By the way, I have been married one time, to the same woman for 34 years. And we have had some rough times, but it is worth the fight.

 

Praying for you guys..Do you all go to church because it does help to get involved together as it gives you a common thread/interest to rebuild on. It gets you out of yourself and your problems for a little while to focus on other people and their needs. Sometimes when we look at others we can see the flaws in our own character makeup. We need to see where we are at fault and change it and not think about our spouse.

 

You both need to read His Needs Her Needs. It's a great book and really focuses on what a marriage should focus on.

 

prayers for you, but sounds like her friends could be a part of your problem.

 

^^^This is not an option in my book. But thanks for the well wishes.

I have been working on myself for a while, a long while. I am far from perfect, we both have things we need to work on. I know I have been tough on hers though and that doesn't help.

Sounds similar to the book Love and Respect: The love she most desires; the respect he desperately needs. Great read, I read it and couldn't get her to. It was recommended by our counselor.

^^^Thanks for the prayers. Please kick them into overdrive. My wife left on Friday with our 21 month old girl. No talk, no discussing things, no clue it was happening. She gave me a kiss and said have a great day at work then called me at work telling me she was gone already.

 

I am trying to contact her and just show her love right now and its not working at all, like at all. She seems so angry, almost like a different person

I will however continue to attempt to show her love, kindness and respect in all things. I know I am to blame for this deep down she doesn't feel loved and cherished as she should and deserves to be.

 

Hey man,
There is a great set of books that I would recommend. For the husband; The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott and for the wife; The Excellent wife by Martha Peace.