GF issues, suggestions?

i just got out of a relationship similar to yours... except i didnt live with her.... she always said i wasnt letting her see her friends she was starting to not make time for each of us... all kinds of crap... i got tired of it and said seeya... if shes not willing to make time for both of you, then why is it worth trying to keep a relationship? first thing id do is talk to her about it again... if she is still unwilling to change.... throw her out the window... if shes STILL unwilling... then its free game.... ok just kidding... id talk to her again though... if not... seeya...

 

havent read all the posts, but if no one has said it, stop being a BIATCH. quality time? not enough time for me? wth???? this is a good thing. seeing her too much will make you get tired of seeing her. she has a life and she has her priorities. dont try to come betweeen her and her familia. im on the same boat with my ole lady, but its the exact opposite. i see her everyday, thats plenty of us time i think. we go out occasionally. catch a flick or get some dinner. but we're comfy in our situation. we both see our parents on the weekends and hang out together in the afternoons. i work form 7-330 and she works from 8-like 6 or 7. so it works out great. ive been with my ole lady for 5 1/2 years and living together for like 4 1/2. trust me, its a good thing you dont see each other 24/7. good lcuk man oh and if shes blowing you off and is constantly going out. drop her ass.

 

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Yeah, I have vowed never to date a younger girl and I'm sticking to that. My current girlfriend is almost 26 and I'm 22, and there's good balance but also enough difference to make things interesting.

Like others have said, try talking to her about it and if things don't change, then GTFO of that relationship. If she's not willing to talk about it now, then she certainly won't later.

 

You're actually advising someone to marry? I call shenanigans.

 

RoyB, it sounds like both of you don't have time to share.

 

What do you mean?

 

Sounds like my relationship, but I have no problem with it. Wait until you have kids maybe not with this chick but this is what you'll have to look forward to. Talk about being tired all the time, between ball games and all the other activities who has time for "quality time". Quality time is appreciating spending the few hours together with someone after a long tiresome day. A quality relationship is knowing that person will be there for you when needed most and not being smothered to the point of not living your own individual lives. But thats just me.

Good luck with your situation, I hope it all turns out the best.

 

You're both working - different schedules. You have your "scheduled" activities with family/friends on Mon/Wed night but you are free on Saturday. She has her "scheduled" activities with friends on Saturday but is free on Mon/Wed.

It sounds like a conflict of schedules on both ends.

 

Exactly! Three kids keeps us always going in opposite directions. Sleep, ha, what's that? Quality time? How about just plain old time.

 

No kidding. If your getting some on a routine basis then I'd be happy. Go have fun with your buddies. Quality time imo = sack time.

 

Agree fwiw, my best friend is going through the same thing, kind of. He married his gf of 5 years this summer. He's 27 she's 21 now (was 20 at the time) I was talking to him this weekend and after only a couple months of being married they are both realizing they have nothing in common. It sucks but I've forseen it ending. She jsut turned 21, she wants to hang out with her friends more than anything. When she is with him she is always complianing that she's bored...it's getting old for both of them at this point. Whatever you do don't go down this road. Really consider the situation and what possible future you see with this girl. Sorry for the long post.

P.S. She cheated on him a couple of years ago and he told me before they got married that he would never fully trust her again. My opinion is he made a HUGE mistake and now he's at a crossroads. Sucks

 

It sounds like she's not in to your relationship. If she's putting her friends and family BEFORE you, you need to have a heart to heart with her and if she's not willing to change, end it.

My neighbor just went through something like that... His wife put everyone before him. He ended it. She said her family and friends came before her husband... sorry, but spouse/SO should come before others.

BUT not to say you have to spend every waking moment with your SO, but you do need to spend special/quality time with each other. Spending time with your significant other should be a priority for sometime during the week.

 

not sure how you would go about this but i would find a way to get rid of her and have her move out. apparently she is not "in to" this relationship as you are and she needs to grow up a little bit more and get away from mommy daddy and friends

 

you guys forget she is only 21.she still is a kid.im an old man(33). my priorities at 21 r different than 33.
ask yourself these ??????
do you see a future with her(marriage,kids)?
is she hot????lol