LED Wiring relay problem - 04 Tacoma

Hi Folks - newbie looking for advice - 2004 Tacoma. So I'm trying to wire my LED light bar to go on/off with the reg hi beams. I am using a standard 4 prong relay. I have 86 as 12v dc power in, 85 as 12v dc power to lights. 30 is ground to lights/frame and 87 goes back to a dash mounted on/off toggle that is supplied from an "add a circuit" in the small 10amp fuse box beside the battery for the LH Hi beam. When I turn on the dash mounted lights to low beam, now problems, low beam. When I turn on the high beams with the reg hi beam switch, the LED go on, but when I turn the switch off, the LED stay on. The reg hi beams works fine. (the dash mounted toggle is only there as a primary shutoff to disable the system)
Anything I'm missing, perhaps the relay is fried in that it goes on but not off? However, I tryed the Add a circuit in the low beam fuse to check, and it goes on/off no problem. Any feedback appreciated.
Thx

 

correction:
30: 12 v DC from Battery
87: + power to LED
85: GROUND to frame
86: Switched power from hi beam fuse in engine fuse box

 

Yeah our lights are a little tricky. They are negatively switched. Meaning:



And here's how I wired mine:



pin 30 goes to battery.
Pin 87 goes to led bar.

Edit: my passenger H4 is blank due to the retrofit. So that's why I used those pins. But you can use whatever method, such as wire taps/splice connectors, you wish if you have stock headlights.

And in my pic I think I have the wire colors swapped. 85 i shoukdve made black and 86 red. But it doesn't matter at all on the color.