Best lift and LED light bar??

3" Lift - Camburg/Eibach Coilovers, Camburg UCAs & Bilstein 5100 Rear.

 

So camburg 2.5" COs & uniball UCAs up front and just 5100 in the back.... interesting

Not sure I recommend that set-up, but that goes back to my point of everyone has a different opinion on what a good kit is. Sure seems overkill in the front or inadequate in the back. Doing what those COs are designed for I see those rear shocks baking real quick a fading out. Uneven match up IMO. In my experience the rear shocks get hot quicker than the fronts as it is.

 

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If you don't off road you can do blocks and spacers. I personally wont let any of my friends use blocks since we all go off road monthly.
Your two questions will depend on how much you want to spend. I like the Bilstein 5100s struts they give you lift and you can still use them off road. They're a cheapish, but good solution. If you think you will be bashing your truck on some trails then get a full coilover (fox, king, icon, ect.) and a Upper Control Arm (UCA). For the rear you can get an Add A Leaf(AAL) or a progressive AAL(wheelers, icon) or for more money a aftermarket leaf pack(all-pro, deaver, old man emu, ect.)
Check this link out too. It's the pros and cons about each type of lift.
http://www.tacomahq.com/66/tacoma-leveling-lift-kit/

Generally with LED light bars you get what you pay for. I have a GGLighting 50" curved it was $250 on sale. I went with them because of the life time warranty and the shop is in driving distance of where I live.