2018 Tacoma off road 4x4 liftkit

alright I have been reading and looking for about the past month about lift kits and suspension set ups for my 2018 Tacoma. its my first actual nice truck and I want it the way I envision it. I like the 3" in the front 2" in the back... or do you just go 3" all the way around. plus how good will everything hold up off-road (which I do at least 5 times a year). a lot of people say to get the suspension set up as well as the lift kit and seen some more people taking about adding to the leafs.. want it to look clean and ride good as well hold up in the dirt. I haven't even started to think about different size tires cause I am so anal about my stuff being perfect. cant wait to hear what y'all have to say!