Sad day

Sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my dad 5 years ago and I think about him everyday. Remember to good times.

 

Same experience but I was 16 and just started driving and was riding shotgun in a '94 RX7 (a customer's of course) and the speedo read 120. Dad's a goofball.

 

So my dad bought me a 69 chevelle for my first car. It was rough but he got it for me at 14.
He also had a 68 with built 307 in the pasture that was wrecked.
We worked for over a year using his 68 to build my 69. My uncle painted it and dad and I did the rest.
I wish I had some pictures she was sweet. Mom wasn’t happy but dad always gave me that grin when we talked about it.
Yea I was a spoiled kid we had dirt bikes and snowmobiles.
He was an awesome dad wish we had more time.

 

Hang in there, Jeff. I've resisted posting here because I couldn't think of anything useful say that didn't sound cliche.
My dad's a mechanic by trade and lately as age has been catching up with him and i'm watching him struggle to do things that normally wouldn't make him skip a beat has been a constant reminder that his clock is winding down. A triple bypass a few years ago was the first instance that proved he was human and vulnerable as we all are. I often think about having to go through his garage after he passes and sort his tools. There's no one else in the family that would find use for them but me so naturally i'll be taking most of them but having a substantial tool collection myself, I'll have to keep an eye on not hoarding for sentimental value and letting some things go. It's hard to think about, but I know it's a reality I'll have to face sooner rather than later.
Nothing can prepare you for when the time comes wether you know about it beforehand or it just happens some day. You stay strong for those around you that need it and you lean on those close to you when you need strength. Even strangers can be a source of strength and inspiration in times like this.

Keep your chin up.
-Sergio

 

My Dad was very careful about it (one time... have a chuckle and that was was it) Never actually saw him speed ever again that I know of and ya 120 is a little goofball

 

Damm bud I’m there now I’ve seen him slowing down and also thought he was super human.
Was in no way prepared for this and I really struggle with his passing.
I appreciate everyone’s time and thoughts here and TW has always been rock for those who truly need it.
I thank you!

 

You are all awesome thank you for listening!
I feel better and I thank you!

 

He liked (likes) speed. He's driven Laguna Seca for a test session that one of his bosses set up.
I remember one year for father's day I met him at his church because they were having a breakfast for all the fathers. Knowing that parking is lousy on "event" days at his church, I rode my motorcycle. My dad haddn't ridden since '84 when my uncle was in an accident that landed him a coma for 4 days. So as everyone was going home, he has a huge smile on his face and says: "Let me ride your bike." Church attire: dress slacks, dress shoes, dress shirt and tie. I just tossed him the keys without saying anything and he gets on and starts it up and starts moving (no helmet). I stopped him just before he took off and put my helmet on his giant mellon which didn't fit him right and looked like a yamaka. He just shoots off with the biggest smile I'd seen. I drove his minivan to his house which I hoped is where he was going. Honestly I think he was doing it more to "show off" to the church folk, but that's the type of dude he is. These days I have to watch him more closely, but he still has that glimmer in his eye.

 

So it really doesn’t get easier?

 

It is obvious by what you have written (shared): You are a good son and I am sure your dad loved you and was very proud of you. No reason to carry any guilt. It is that simple. Waves of emotion will come and go. You are Human that is a good thing.

 

Probably picked a good group to share. Miss mine a lot, too. Since you wish for more time, I am betting you had some great ones. I did, and still feel the same way.

 

I know he was proud of me and I was proud of him! It was just unexpected. I would have loved to have more time.
It still hurts and your correct at times I weep over the happy times and miss him other times I weep due to being sad we won’t see each other again.

 

I am sorry for your loss how long has it been for you?
Good people are hard to forget!!!

 

You won’t see him, again? Don’t be so sure about that

 

So sorry for your loss !!!

I lost my Dad in my Sophomore year of Highschool in 1978 and then lost my Mom in 1985 after getting out of the Marines

 

2004, my friend. He taught me to play golf, and we did it together. Dad and I attended stock car/modified races also all over Michigan and Indiana when I was growing up - I was always the navigator. Of course, I was a smart ass teen. I left the state and started over after a decade of "rock and roll" wasted time. Moved across the country and started over, and won my respect back. We played golf again. He watched me race MY stock car. We went back and forth Texas to Michigan with their grandsons. I even worked for ANSI, and that is something not expected. It was getting be better and better, when my sister called me at work, and said he was gone. Went to the Dr. for routine check up, ended up in the hospital for open heart, and didn't come out. My jaw was dropped for weeks. Going home for his funeral actually brought me back - he had SO MANY friends, family, was so loved by all, I knew I was just damn lucky to have had him for so long.

So, put all the good stuff in your mind, and you can live off that. You have my condolences, because it will take a bit.

 

I was hoping it got easier but seems the better the relationship the longer it hurts.
I am sorry for your loss and can actually I get it!
It was easier to say when I had not actually had been thru it!

 

I wouldn't say it doesn't get easier. It will always suck and generate unpleasant emotions, but like others have said think of the good times. The good memories will make you happy, sad, cry, smile, feel confused, upset, confused, sad, happy.... it is a strange thing, but in my experience having lost my dad just over 4yrs ago, it is not as painful now when i feel sad about it. Like other things in life we get used to them. While this is something we would rather never get used to it will happen to some degree. Just know that when your head is a mess it will clear.

 

Man I am so sorry!
I’m not young and this has kinda set me back a bit. I still have mom but without dad I’m worried sick.
Again sorry about your loss man that’s hard.

 

That was a "short story", but I hope conveyed some of the impact. If you need friends, this is probably a good place. And I would start "collecting" all those things you loved, and put them in a mental pocket. Because then, it never goes away. And I don't know if you are a "dad" yet, but now you know what it means to a son. Just remember that. You will get better. The memories do, and you will eventually learn to savor them, instead of feeling deprived by them. Give it some time.