Sad day

You're doing the right thing for both you and her. When my dad passed I spent a lot time with my mom. Also made it a point to have dinner with her and the grandkids at least once a week. Always made her smile seeing them.

I'm sure your dad is looking down with a big smile on his face full of pride.

 

Thank you so much!
I appreciate everyone’s response and thoughts.
We have had dinner every night except 1 night she kicked me out.
She has good neighbors so I hope she’s gonna do ok.
She works at school and so did he still, they should both had retired but no. They loved kids and I’ll be sure to remind her that she’s loved and he is missed.

I know dad is proud of me and I of him. He was my hero!
Very few disliked him and no one feared him.
He was a great man I miss him!

 

So I think it finally hit!
I just reread it again.
Still makes me weep!
And get your thoughts.
I miss him so much but am also so thankful to have had him for my dad!
More time would had been nice!
For me but maybe not so much for him.
He wouldn’t want to be in a bed naked with tubes and wires and people poking at him.
He went in his garage with his toys. And he had a nice garage and cool toys!

I can’t say how I appreciate every one here!
And to those who here that kept me looking forward from the start,
Thank you!
Jeff

 

Two weeks ago today was one of the worst days in my life!
I have not come to terms as to how big the hole left is but I know it’s big.
I miss dad and worry about mom!
But I am glad dad had a good life and did what he enjoyed.
He would not want to be bed ridden with tubes and wires and people poking at him.

Moms doing a little better this makes it a lot easier on me also.
I still weep and or cry but smile and laugh a little more when I speak or think of him.
Pretty happy I was privileged to have a dad like him and a mom also.
I’ve begun to realize how blessed I was to have them and appreciate what they have done for me!

Just wanted to thank you all for helping me!
I’m sure I’ll be back but I’m hoping our healing has started and our selflessness has diminished.

My thoughts for all those who shared a loss and shared their feelings and help!

I’ve reread the thread again.
Makes me feel sad but also kinda happy?
Guess I’ve accepted it but am sad he’s gone happy he was the man he was and glad others have great memories and legacy’s to Carryout.
Thank you all so much!

 

Always remember, you will be with him again one day.

 

Grew up with a rotery dial black and white tv.
6+ channels pending the day.
I’d have never thought I’d had gotten such sincere responses and wish’s from a Internet forum about Tacoma’s.

I do appreciate it!

 

Good to hear you and your mom are doing better.
Its not a forum, its a family.

Whenever you need to express how you are feeling or remember something awesome you wanna share, post up.
Also, I dont recall seeing a pic. If its not too personal, maybe post a pic of your father. Then we have a face to put to all of your memories.

 

I lost my dad when I was 18 - He was 44. I’m now 45.

I used to get sad when I thought of him. Now I smile - it’s a journey and it does get easier.

Hang in there.

 

Those would be the Moderators

 

My Dad!

Damm I miss him!

 

One of my favorite pictures of my dad was taken when he was about 30. He's in his mechanic uniform with a full head of hair and in front of the shop where he worked at the time. I keep that picture on my toolbox now. I don't think he's ever seen it, but I know it'll be the one Iook at when I miss him.

 

Ok funny dad story!

When I was little really not sure of age or if I actually remember it or dad just harassed me so much I think I remember it!

They were jumping this mud hole where we were cutting wood.
I thought I could do it also but the hole was bigger than my ability and splat I didn’t make it.
Jumped up and blamed the old man for pushing me. He swears he didn’t I still think he did because he always had that grin!

We would laugh I’d tell him that I still think he did it and he’d say I wish I had now!
I really hope he did because if not then I’m sure I deserved to be pushed in a mud puddle for the crap I did.

I do appreciate everyone’s help here! Been a member for 8 years TW has been a huge help with my Tacoma and I’m smitten with it and all tacos!
BUT!!!!
This has been a tough time for me as well as mom!
I can not say how much bigger your help with my loss has been compared to all I’ve learned here!

It was a lot easier to say sorry for your loss when you had not been thru it.

Thank you

 

So it’s still hard!
I may not weep as much but I’m still missing him as much.
Mom is about the same she tries to be strong but has a huge hole where dad was.
And so do I.
I try to remind her of the good things and that he wouldn’t want so much fussing over it and need to carry on without him.
She has already gotten rid of a lot of his cloths and personal stuff.
Guess people deal with it differently so I’ve been told.
I don’t understand and wouldn’t had gotten rid of anything yet.
I took most of his personal stuff, his cloths don’t fit but I kept some of the stuff he wore often.
Pretty odd some of what I kept but I just couldn’t let it go.
I’d never really carried a pocket knife but I have his with me always.
I can’t say I see mom everyday day but we talk morning and night, she’s gone back to work and I do 10 hr days. I wish we were closer it’s a hour each way.
We brought the granddaughter over Sunday and got mom to go out to eat. She had a good time and ate really well I was so glad to see her smile but it was sad as well seeing our granddaughter being sad talking about how she misses him and my mom telling her how much he loved her.
Seems odd I’m really sad but I’m glad others had the same feelings about dad!!!
Miss you and love you dad!

3 weeks and it seems like years
I think this has been the longest we’ve gone without speaking or seeing each other.

I appreciate everyone’s support and sincerity.
I know I put myself naked and vulnerable out to the world!

I thank you for being so kind!

 

Whew, the part about the Granddaughter put me to tears.
Again its good to hear that you and your Mom are getting through this.

 

I'm late seeing this thread but wanted to say everything you felt as you were going through this is completely normal. It will get easier for you. You won't weep as often, maybe never again at some point, but you'll always miss him.

My dad's been gone 21 years and I still miss him every day. But he's still with me, still guiding me with his legacy. When I'm faced with life's obstacles or choices, I think of how he handled them or how he would have and it makes things a little easier to deal with. You'll feel that also, I'm sure of it.

 

Yea I was struggling at dinner watching them.
Mom well she smiled with a few tears from both.
Thanks man!

 

Below is a good book that helped me through by making sense of it all.

https://m.barnesandnoble.com/p/when...MIs8C66c3X3gIVnv_jBx1Ljgb-EAQYASABEgKD__D_BwE

 

Thanks man I do this and will continue.
He could do anything me not so much but I guess now is the time find out.
Sorry for your loss. I can say I get what your feeling.