Life improvement thread

Ya i think i've fucked up. Its gotten dramatically worse. At this point I'm downing almost an entire bottle of vodka a day. I know its bad and im trying to ween myself off of hard A and then off booze entirely but something keeps happening that fucks my life up. Im so stressed with my own shit but I also just tear pieces of myself off to help others to the point where I have nothing left. Like everytime im fully drunk my thoughts of ending it get worse. idk what to do

 

Have you tried attending AA?

Do you have a support system?

Why do you drink so much? Anything that triggers it?

 

I drunkenly hit post too early updated post has more

 

Hit up @RearViewMirror

https://www.tacomaworld.com/threads/sobriety-one-year-later-please-read.297089/

 

Whatever it is??.... it can't be that bad. I understand that we all eat shit sandwiches everyday for lunch. Hopefully we can all help each other, as many of us have or are going down the same path.

 

One thing my old man said that alway got me through is " When you think you have it bad, remember, someone has it worse".
Even if you often wonder who that someone could possibly be.
Quitting cold turkey can be dangerous. It's probably wise to consult a dr. at this point. See if they can't help you ween off.
Anxiety medication can help a lot with all the stress.
The body doesn't crave alcohol it craves the sugars in it. The alcohol part is all in the head.
Lots of sweets and anxiety meds helped me through. That and a drastic change in lifestyle.
I always worried about stupid little shit. Irritated, angry. Started telling myself if it's something I can change then change it. If it's something that's beyond my control then forget about it, it's useless to let it bother me.
I start forgetting how many years I've been sober and I take it as a good thing but still not a day goes by where I don't think about it.

 

Hobbies help, something you can really focus on. You like these trucks and this forum? Get a project truck or car. Or another hobby that suites you, I know it helped me through a lot. You realize a weekend went by without terrible thoughts so quickly, and you're rewarded with the progress of your hobby and your health.

 

Life hits hard and never lets up. Drinking only makes it worse by adding problems. (Divorce, car wrecks, fights, job loss, money issues.)

You can’t wait to stop “until things get better” because they never really get “better.”

 

A longtime sober person once said to me keep doing the sober thing and 1 of 2 things, maybe both, will happen.

Either it will get better

But even if it doesn't..even if it gets worse..you'll be able to handle it and be there for it.

Buried both my inlaws sober and so many friends, both from this and other things. But I would have been long gone if I kept my old ways up

 

PM me for my phone number if you need someone to talk to. I'll 100% be there without judgement. My family was destroyed by addiction and I don't wish that on anyone. You must place taking care of yourself above everything else, you're not going to be much help to others if you continue to sink.

 

In my experience everyone has to hit their own rock bottom before that light finally clicks and you admit defeat in being able to control your drinking. Every addict has that idea that they can control the addiction. I'm a supremely confident person who thinks of any type of failure, be it work or personal, is not acceptable.

Imagine my surprise when after 26 years of trying so hard to control my drinking I finally realized I'd failed. Not once or twice but thousands of times. That was my rock bottom. Well, that and a DUI. The day I woke up after the DUI my first thought was "Fuck this. I'm done drinking". You know when you know. Hopefully for @Azrael's Gaze he knows sooner rather then later.

 

This is very true.

Down here we call it a "come to jeebus" moment.

I had an alcoholic parent - the other parent thought they could be a bully/nasty jerk and get parent #1 to 'sober up'
Instead, it just turned my home into a



You cannot force someone to get sober
Everyone has to reach the point where they are willing to admit, to themselves, there is a problem - on their own, in their own time..
And until you admit there is a problem - you cannot begin to fix it
One step at a time..