Upper control arm hitting coil when fully drooped

I have a 2019 Tacoma that I’m putting jba uca’s on. When I was putting them on I noticed the oem ones are rubbing pretty good on the coils(mostly when they at or almost full droop). The coils are stock and the shocks are Bilstien 5100s I just put fresh lower ball joints on and I do have a ready lift that Tacoma put on for me.It’s supposed to be a 3” lift. But my buddy has the exact same setup as me and sits an inch higher. And now my brand new jba’s are touching the coils as well but about an inch lower than the oem ones and when I jack the truck up all the way they hit the coil and pushes it inward about 1/4 of an inch.I checked to see if the coils are not sitting right but they seem to be in the groove. The only thing I can think of is if they put the bilstiens in the wrong position. Causing the upper control arm to droop too far. I’m new to this and have no clue if I’m even on the right track I measured my suspension the best I can under load and the right side sits almost 1/2 an inch higher.Toyota is no help on this situation they just want my money. Last week they wanted to put new tires on my truck because of a screw in the tread witch my local tire shop fixed it free of charge.

 

Coil sit and sag a different rates. Spacer lifts force ball joints into awful angles and often have varying results.

All spacer 3" lifts have upper arm contact with the coil on full droop.

 

I’m new to all this so I’m trying my best to figure all this out but could I raise my bilstiens to 2 inches and take the lift out of the front and could that solve it?