Help with vsc module

My 2017 Tacoma started blowing tail lights and brake lights etc. Then it wouldn't shift out of park. Some how after tinkering it would shift. A month later it did it again now. Took it to my local mechanic he said it was the vsc or vtc module and only a Toyota dealership could fix it because it needed to be programmed. Is this true checking before I end up spending to many duckers in this.

 

Well I suppose I should introduce myself before I start asking questions.
This is my first truck I wanted something I could haul lumber and my charger wasn't cutting it..lol after much research I decided on the Tacoma. I didn't want a big truck but I wanted a durable truck. Lots of gravel in the south. I made the final payment and now I have to fix a part. I think they have timers on vehicle parts so u keep paying