Dad

My dad passed April 26, 2024 he was in the Philippines which is where my mom and dad moved and have lived since I graduated high school. I met my dad when I was about 8 years old. He had just turned 80 years old the beginning of the month that he passed.

I think about him everyday. Some days, he is all that I think about. When I’m lucky, it’s good things, gratefulness, fond memories, but sometimes, it’s missing him dearly. I find myself lately, wishing I could share with him what I’ve been doing. Especially with work and personal mechanical achievements and problems. This is probably because I had a career change after 10 years pursuing a career that took 6 years of school after high school. I chose to pursue a career now that is what my dad worked in the majority of his working years, electrician.

I miss him so much and it’s also been so hard seeing my mom lose her best friend.

 

Hello,

yes he knew, which I’m glad. He mostly focused on how I need to make sure that I enjoy it and it does not keep me from living my life outside of work.

He had liver failure among other issues but the cancer had so spread everywhere.

 

I know how this feels. You might want to try writing your thoughts down. I will be doing various things around the home, I will have reminders that make me think of him. and I'll the things I wish I could tell him, share with him, etc. That is a way to still be with him again, even now.

 

It’s funny you say that. I had gotten away from writing for a good while since I did a lot of it for work. Recently, been getting back to it and it’s helped with getting thoughts down about my dad and family but also just generally getting my life back together and making forward motion. Like it’s been giving me momentum.

thanks for sharing. Who knew I’d find support like this in the Tacoma world forum. Little slice of good in the world.

 

So sorry to hear about your dad. for you.

 

Sorry to hear this and understand most all of it. Dad passed in 2013, a year after completing my masters degree. He never saw me get to my goal of working in Homeland Security.

The good thing in this is that you miss him. Shows the love and connection. 11 years later I wish my dad could see me using his tools in the woodworking. Faith tells us he can, so I think your dad knows.

Folklore says cardinals are the spirit of our loved ones who have passed. We have several that frequent our back yard. It's nice to think the biggest and brightest one is dad checking in.

I still have dad, mom, stepmother, and father in laws numbers in my phone. Keep being you, you'll get through.

 

I’ve read your reply several times over several weeks. I’ve come to appreciate it more each time.

I really appreciate it. Thank you.

 

I’m able to spend lots of time during work hours to keep in touch via video chat with my oldest brother. He lives overseas, back home. He works remotely two jobs during the same work hours.

Before my dad came into our picture, my brother was the dad figure for me and our other two brothers. Now he is raising two children with his wife.


Large parts we are just doing our own thing. Sometimes we joke, talk about old memories, projects, dreams, or he will listen to me complain about how shitty I might be feeling at the moment(s). I love that guy, and I love how we both loved our dad more than we ever realized we could. What a legend. Miss you old man.

One of the more sad things I didn’t like to see was how absent his own (blood) related people after he moved overseas with mom. Even when he was on his deathbed. I hope my loved ones never feel alone. I wish no one felt unloved like that.

dad was our pain in the ass, and vice versa.

 

You are most certainly welcome. It's nice to know that your own experiences can help others going through similar things. One day you will have that experience as well.

Even without the acknowledgement, not that I would expect it, I share my story (stories) where I think appropriate. I learned a while back that you never know who needs to here what you might have to say.

(Unless you're being a complete fool. Then no one wants to here it!)