does your gf know your pw's?

Over the past years, she has slowly crept her way in. She knows all of my bank stuff and is probably one of the only ones who uses my facebook. I keep e-mail for myself though....not that there is anything to hide, but just that little bit of privacy is nice.

 

Besides then if "they" ever take her, she has nothing they can use to get to you.

Either that or she turns out to be a super spy for the Canadian government (oh yea we exist) and then she has nothing!

 

good point, i would show her anything any time she wanted to see it but i'm not giving my gf my passwords

thats a flawed argument. Here's an example using religion (you dong have to believe in God to understand the analogy)

Why doesn't God show himself? because then people would no longer need faith. If God made his existence known then faith would disappear since people would no longer need faith. Why does that matter? because faith breeds hope. and faith and hope are sometimes all people have when they are facing trials and tribulations. sometimes faith and hope is the only thing that gets a cancer patient out of bed. faith and hope are what makes it possible for family members to get over the death of a loved one. So by showing himself, God would be taking away one of the primary aspects of being human. Like i said, this is just an example and you dont have to believe in God to get my point. My point being this....

by letting her "spy" on you you are allowing her to not trust you. she doesn't have to learn to trust you if she has access to every part of your life. then when it comes time for her to trust you, (show a little faith) she is unable to do that because she has not developed a trusting relationship with you. by demanding your passwords she is in fact pushing herself away from trust

 

My wife knows my passwords

 

What's hers is hers, what's yours is hers also.

I've got nothing to hide, I'm not sure if my wife knows all of my PW's but they are easy enough for her to figure out what they are.

 

oh, and I know hers too...

 

When we were dating...no, she didnt know mine. And i kept it that way. But..now that we are married, I figured its best she has access to the passwords just in case that bus finds me. But, she never even bothers to look unless Im already checking my email, shell just glance over my shoulder and ask if i just signed up for yet another porn site. haha

 

my husband and i have been together 6 yrs, he has his pws and i have mine, but he knows as well as i do if he ever wanted to check anything i do on the comp he is more than welcome to do so. we both have all of our accounts sign in names and pws wrote down and put away in case anything did ever happen to either of us and we had to get into our accounts. IMO if you love each other there has to be trust and everyone is titled to their own space.

 

its not so much that im worried about it, its more that i need to get used to having to think beyond me. Im still tryin to get used to doing that.

She never pushed for em, i just thought about it one day when i got an email about a friend that was KIA. I can see the need to keep that sense of privacy, but now that marraige tackled me, that sense is gone.

 

I have mine she has hers. Once she was snooping around in my email, I almost sent her packing. To explain before I started dating her I had been engaged, now on my own again, so I feel for years what was mine was for my daughter and would be wife, now I hardly see my little girl and my email is mine. I suppose it kinda changes you. Oh and no there wasn't anything bad in my email.

 

I use 1 password for just about everything and my wife uses 1 password for just about everything. But we don't go through each other's email or anything else. The main thing we know them for is online accounts (banking, 401k, CC, etc) I do the finances in the house but she still logs in to verify stuff.

A girlfriend.........I wouldn't let them know my passwords.

 

We're both aware of each other's passwords, but neither of us ever go into each others email/facebook accounts.

I look after our finances but we have separate bank accounts, so i do access her online banking on a regular basis to pay her bills for her and move money around, i don't really ever look at her day to day transactions.

We don't keep secrets from each other but i don't feel it's appropriate or respectful to go into her email or facebook accounts any more than it would be appropriate for her to go through my phone and read texts (had an ex do this once)

Trust is something that's earned and she has definitely earned my trust and respect.

 

No. She does not know my password(s). Nor does she need to. Nor I need to know hers.
She has her identity, I have mine. We agreed long ago that we are to be independent persons but at the same time share thoughts and certain things together. She needed a car, I helped her a bit with the agreement she is to repay me. She did (money btw).
I told her straight long ago, when you talk about us make sure it's "you and I, not we". Live your life, don't expect your partner to live it for you but rather be a part of it.
My .02