Do some mods to my 02 trd v6.

I would like to do the following mods to my 02 trd v6. It is completely stock at the moment and would like to change that. I am just looking for opinions about the products and if you have any experience with them. Just want to do it right the first time and not have to mess around with all of. I do want to let you know first hand that I am 17 and still in high school for another year so budget is kinda a factor here. I will for sure post pics during the process.
Thank Tristan

3 in lift hoping i can run 17s with this one
http://toyteclifts.3dcartstores.com/BOSS-Suspension-System-for-955-04-Tacoma_p_784.html
I would like to not that I keep 600 pounds of sand in the back of my truck about 5 to 6 months out the year for the extra weight so if that would effect the lift please say.

4 of this wheels
http://www.fueloffroad.com/wheel.cfm?id=177

one arb deluxe bull bar
http://www.lowrangeoffroad.com/index.php/arb-bull-bar-95-04-tacoma-3423020.html

a arb locking front differential what spine do I want to use. Haven't been able to find out.
http://store.arbusa.com/ARB-Air-Locker-Toyota-75-Inch-Ifs-27-Spline-All-Ratios-RD90-P3563.aspx

a exhaust system that will give it a little growl not too loud but no old man one either. I dont know which one. Would love some suggestions.

making my own skid plates that will cover everything back to the transfer case.

these nerf bars
http://www.runningboardworld.com/n-...ota-tacoma-access-cab-6-ft-bed-1995-2004.aspx

last new tires
http://www.goodyear.com/en-US/tires...save&webprodid=354&productcode=31201902700000

Im sorry its so long but I wanted to put all the stuff in. Thanks for looking and reading.