1995 4X4 NOT WORKING

I got a 1995 tacoma 3.4 standard transmission 4x4 its got the pushbutton 4x4 on the shifter. When it started to act up it would go into 4x4 no problem but to get it to disengage i had to shut truck off. Now this morning it won't ingage at all i can hear the relay clicking under the dash checked fuse and it's good i was gonna take the motor off the back of the transfer case i took the 3 bolts out that hold it on but i can't get the motor off it wiggles back and forth but won't pull out of transfer case i even took a small pry bar to pry it out but no luck. I am new to owning a toyota love the truck but i need this fixed. Also i checked all vacuum hoses they all look good i took the switch out of transfer case to make sure ball wasn't stuck also done the same to the switch on the front diff actuator they were real good and free i don't know what to do next. Sorry for being long winded just trying to give all the info i can thanks