2.5" Rancho lift causing problems in my '97 Tacoma ExtCab 4x4...

So i have a 97 tacoma extra cab 4x4 that i baught with a 2.5" rancho lift with bilstein shocks. Now that i'm actually off roading it, everything in my front end is falling apart. I have replaced both upper ball joints and one lower. My CV boots are wearing abnormally fast and there is a noise that i beleive to be coming from where the CV goes into the front diff. Any cost effective suggestions to fix or minimize this destruction of my front end would be much appreciated.

My plan as of now is to take the lift off until i can afford to baja the f*** out of it.

Also recently i have aquired an oil leak that drips onto my steering piston-action-thing that moves tie rods... anyone else have this problem? rear main seal, pan gasket?

Thanks for reading and thanks for the help if you've got it!