Bullying

Bullying is part of growing up. I'm only 23, but when I was in school and got into fights I was given 3 days of in school suspension. Now if you fight, you're automatically given 10 days out of school, possible law enforcement involvement and possible expulsion. Everyone is a pussy now. The school system is teaching kids to be pushovers.

 

I was bullied a lot in grade school. We had several kids that were big for their age and I made an easy target because I would not fight back. I completely disagree with the statement that kids need to "harden the fuck up." Why do KIDS need to use violence to solve their problems? Or use violence to just get left alone by the bullies? Kids should not feel threatened or afraid to go to school. In my opinion this is just another excuse for parents not parenting. "Oh it's not my fault your kid is getting bullied, he should be tougher and just fight back." No, your kid is at fault for bullying, and you need to do something about it. Because guess what? I'm not a kid anymore, I'm an ex-Army Ranger and now I'll fuck YOU up if your kid fucks with mine.

Sorry for being the first one to disagree in this thread, but bullying really hits home with me since I was bullied for so long and nothing was ever done about it. My parents tried, my dad ended up in jail for going to the bully's house, I ended up getting suspended because the bullies would stick together and lie about it. The bullies would wait for me on the way home from school and beat me up then, the school wouldn't do anything about it since it was off school property. I was a little guy, and I was scared to fight. Does that make me wrong?

 

Bullying just sucks all the way around...period. The sad part is how do you get rid of it?

It happens in all facets of life from elementary school to high school all the way to the work force, plenty of boss's bully their employees.

 

my little brother (9) punched a kid in the face at school because he kept calling him gay. My brother got suspended from school for 3 days and the other kids family is threatening to press charges.

This is why bullying is at an all time high, and it is sickening. Bullying at a young age can cause a kid to have self esteem issues for the rest of their life.

 

That sucks man. No one should have to deal with that. However, I think there are 2 different issues here. Physical and mental bullying. Physical bullying is something that can easily be addressed. Mental (talking shit, name calling, etc), not so much.

I have to agree with a lot of this thread though. This country is turning into a bunch of whiny wimps. I also dealt with being bullied in grade school and it wasn't fun. It ended after grade school because I quit putting up with bullshit and ended up bigger than most my age. The advice I got from my parents then was to ignore the comments, but if someone started a physical fight, kick their ass. Never start a fight, but don't let anyone push you around. They taught me the comments don't matter. Who cares about what they're saying?!?!

I don't see this kind of thinking out of anyone anymore. Now the cops are called for everything, everyone's child is an angel and would never do any wrong (shithead kids' parents), and everyone's kid is special, fragile, and deserving of a trophy (bullied kids parents).

How bout this?!?! START PARENTING! Ensure your kids aren't scumbags picking on the weak. And ensure they have thick enough skin to ignore comments, but make sure they never accept physical violence...EVER. What happened to the old sticks and stones saying? And what happened to parents who would backhand their kid when an adult from school told them their kid was being a shithead (like my parents did to me)?!?!

 

whats the G word?

 

Hmmm I think a few of you should re-read my earlier post. I said kids need to harden up. Not become violent with each other. I haven't condoned violent behaviour in my posts.

Here's a good example of how a kid needs to harden up;

"A kid called me gay today, I'm going to make a YouTube video where I hold up signs. People need to see how hurt I am. I need attention."

Or, you could choose to not let that hurt you... Realize that other kid is the one with the issue, not you. Who cares what other people say? That doesn't make it true.

 

Social media makes it worse, because now the kids can't just leave the bullying at school- it follows them home on their facebooks and all of that. Can't get away from it. I can only imagine how fucked up I'd be right now if I'd had a facebook or something like that back in my school days. I probably wouldn't be here right now, to be honest. I got bullied a lot in school, from people picking on me to people trying to put me in the hospital. I dealt with that shit every single waking day. Some of it still haunts me, and I've been out for almost three years. I can only imagine how much more fucked up I would be right now if the bullying came home with me. I wasn't the strongest guy, but I didn't fall over and cry, either. Most of the time, the insults and whatnot would roll off me like water on a duck, but sometimes they would stick. And it would hurt. I got into a couple good fights. Beat the shit out of my enemy, blah blah. I always stood my ground, oftentimes with a teacher or two backing me up.

I also think that bullying is far more prevalent today than it was X amount of years ago because of the change in acceptable parenting style. It's not good to beat/spank your kids any more according to the vast majority of people. Because of this lack of discipline, the kids are running wild. They think they can get away with anything and everything they want, because they are not being punished for doing wrong. Also, if a parent does try to discipline their child, they oftentimes can't resort to the traditional ways, because their child knows full well that if they go to school and say "Daddy hit me," or "Mommy Spanked me," or blah blah blah, that reports will be filed, etc. You can't even raise your own kids any more.

 

I think our world is too sensitive. Everything gets too much attention now because news travels so fast on the web. A handful of crazy kids who happen to have been picked on kill themselves and it's shown so many times on the news and social media that people think it's a horrible epidemic that needs to be solved. Kids are kids...some are pussies, and some are bullies. That's human nature!

Edit: Don't get me wrong, I'd hate to see a kid get absolutely tormented because he's a little different, but in general I think people are too sensitive.

 

I can still recall me telling my parents, "I'm gonna call social services and the cops on you!" Their response was one of two things. "I'd rather go to jail for spanking you, than to see you turn out to be a piece of shit," or "who do you think will show up when you call?" Both were cops.

Moral of the story is, "having a pair" and doing the right thing starts with parents at home. If you can't parent, don't have kids! Period! You're not supposed to be their buddy, you're supposed to be their parent!

 

name calling...nice

my post was tongue-in-cheek, and I wouldn't call you a bitch because I don't know your resemblance to female dogs.

however...if ever in Florida, look out for alligators. I hear they like both bitches and Canadians...

 

We had one bully in 3rd grade, he was a lot bigger than all of us and a year older.

Eventually we all learned that there was strength in numbers so when he picked on one of us the rest would come to that kid's aid.

 

Generally speaking I agree. However, it recently came out that the girl who picked up her friend in MA was lying

 

I raced BMX bikes as a kid 30 yrs ago. One day I had a rough go of it and threw my helmet on the ground. My dad marched me back to the car and told me if I ever act that way again he'll never bring me to race. He told me that other kid wants to win too and isn't going to give it to me..some days I'll win and some days I won't. If I don't like losing, go home and practice more.

I don't have kids but if I did that is how they would be raised. It is the same way I handle my niece and nephews now.

 

When I was a kid I had some tool at school start trying to bully me. My dad said son next time punch him in the face. He was much bigger but I did. We fought and both went to the principles office and were sent home for the day. Next day the kid came up to me and we became friends. Funny but that's how it went. Today kids are weak minded and coddled to much. Everything from no dodge ball to we don't keep score everyone is a winner. The weak liberal mindset is the problem. Back in my day boys were boys and girls were girls. Now they have boys as home coming queens. I don't get it. And I don't go for the political correctness crap that we have today either. The truth is the truth.

 

4 years ago my dart team played against another team. 4 of the 7 players showed up already having had a few beers and a little to smoke, which they continued to do. My team will have a couple of beers but not get sloppy. In all honesty, on paper we probably were better anyways as this was the summer league and has a lot fewer teams.

We beat them 10-1 and one of the guys was all mad saying we shouldn't be playing you guys waa waa. They only lost 6-5 to us the previous game when they took it serious. Plus if you can hardly stand up you're gonna have trouble throwing good darts. I told him it's a competitive game and we're not going to let you win..and that if you don't like losing, get better or just stay home and play tiddlywinks.

 

My friend coached Little League for many years and he stopped when the no score happened. His words to me were that he ethically couldn't lie to the kids anymore about that.

 

My post wasnt meant to be taken seriously either.. I guess the grumpy face made it seem like I was upset.