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Girlfriend advice

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by jodiddly33, Aug 1, 2010.

  1. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:34 PM
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    jodiddly33

    jodiddly33 [OP] Well-Known Member

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    Alright guys I need some help here. I've been dating this girl for more than 2 years now and she had smoked cigs a couple times before we started dating. I let her know that I can't be with someone that smokes and she promised me she wouldn't. Well she broke her promise the first time last year and i forgave her. She came over today and I could smell it on her and I flipped because I couldn't believe she broke her promise two times. I love her to death and she only smokes when she's really stressed (from her mom mostly) but I don't want her to get addicted. She said that it's her life and I can't make decisions for her. What do I do?
     
  2. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:36 PM
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    JimBeam

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    my guess...is that she smokes more than you think already

    you cant make someone quit...nor can you make someone want to quit

    gonna have to be her decision dude
     
  3. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:37 PM
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    Jigzor

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    Deal with it or end it. You don't have the tolerance, so there isn't much of a gray area.
     
  4. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:38 PM
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    dysfunctnlretard

    dysfunctnlretard Hi

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    Help her find an alternative to help cope with stress. Getting mad at her will only build resentment. Be on her team.
     
  5. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:38 PM
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    mws4ua

    mws4ua I'll try being nicer if you try being smarter.

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    Tell her it's the cigs or you. She'll make the choice. If she goes back on it again, leave her... b/c she's a liar.
     
  6. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:38 PM
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    Cars0n`

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    smoking is gross, but if they are not willing to work with u on it, either live with it or i guess you could break it off. it seems kinda dumb if you would break it off just over smoking tho especially after 2 years.
     
  7. Aug 1, 2010 at 3:40 PM
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    Yoytoda

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    yea it doesnt sound like its only been twice. i dont care how stressed people get smoking is the last thing that comes up in a nonsmokers head for stress release. Also, the fact that she promised then got defensive about it. "its my life bla bla bullshit" just shows she doesnt care what you think. Makes me wonder what else she is doing behind you back that she shouldnt
     
  8. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:08 PM
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    Shove Nicorette down her throat!
     
  9. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:21 PM
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    Jonah, What else has she lied to you about? What else will she do that you don't like because she's "stressed out"? Ask your self "would I put up with this if she was ugly and fat"? If the answer is no, move on. Love is not enough.
     
  10. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:23 PM
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    dysfunctnlretard

    dysfunctnlretard Hi

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    See. That's why girls don't like you. Your too rough. You gotta be gentle and stroke it just right.
     
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    I've gotta ditto this one!
     
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    If its a huge deal just leave her. Plenty of other girls out there. Plus being single isn't that bad, more money in your pocket :)
     
  13. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:26 PM
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    jdkeller How many words can be fit in this s

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    :laugh:
    Actually, a lot of girls like it rough. your just too sissy.
     
  14. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:31 PM
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    747 function > form

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    First, you can't control women, and you shouldn't want to (intentionally or otherwise).

    Second, my best advice would be to try making her life less stressful and, thereby, reduce her cigarette 'trigger'. You be the judge on what accomplishes that end....

    Third, don't post sh!t about gf's on the internet (good or bad, unless they're in on the posting)...they'll find out, and be pissed off at you for it (i.e., deception; lying by omission; etc.).

    Good luck, man!
     
  15. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:36 PM
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    So below we have two camps:

    First the touchy feely California view:
    Second the real life Alabama view:
    :D

    I am going with the Alabama camp.
     
  16. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:39 PM
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    747 function > form

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    ^ what about the Great Plains view (as expressed by one 747)? Reasonable, no?
     
  17. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:42 PM
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    Fired. Find a new one.
     
  18. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:42 PM
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    I agree. There are litterally billions of girls out there. Subtract the ones with aids in africa and the ones that are way out of your league and there are literally millions of girls out there for you. Smokes are so 1940s. Kick that hoe to the curb and get yourself a real lady.
     
  19. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:43 PM
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    Andrew H

    Andrew H What is this "search" you speak of?

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    just tell her to hit you up when shes stressing and you'll go down on her which will lead to sex afterwards. boom. problem solved.

    win win for both parties.
     
  20. Aug 1, 2010 at 4:46 PM
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    accept her as she is or end the relationship before it gets too serious.
     
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