Having hard time moving on...

I recently went through break up after 2 years of dating. For the first little bit I was obsessed with trying to keep a friendship at the very least. But after seeing her just keep pushing away the more I tried to keep control, I said fuck it. I haven't talked to her in a good 3 weeks. I've also been talking to another girl (not just a random one) and we have had a blast. My ex has been trying to get in touch with me constantly now that I walked away completely. She even had her cousin spy on me . The one thing I kept telling myself when I was in the pile of shit phase was that "I am the only person who controls my happiness. My joy is not dependent on her or anyone else for that matter. Things can only be as bad as I let it be." Its hard, but necessary I suppose.

 

Your ex has what I like to call the 'abandoned toy syndrome".

 

I had an engagement fall apart because she was basically a run away bride. She had a history of panicing when ever she got close to marriage. I was her second ex fiancee. She is married now, but the poor guy she ended up marrying, wow. as of the monday before she got married, it was still called off. they had sent out announcements, then she freaked, and sent out cancelation notices. she actually went through with it.

I lost over $2,000 on the wedding ring. It sucks, but I really dont think she would be a good person to have as a wife whenever things get hard.

It sucks, but you just gotta find a way to distract yourself, even if its with another girl. That is really your best bet. Go find someone else. I left the state for about 7 months for work and I got completely consumed with other matters and it was the best thing for me.

 

It's a part of life, but you'll find some else. Spend time with family and friends. Maybe take a break from dateing.

 

I think we've all been there. What ever you do, don't take her back, she'll end up doing it again. Women are EVIL!!!!!

 

My ex-fiancee randomly freaked 4 times on me. PowerGuy...truer words have never been spoken

 

Ha x2 on what almost everybody here said,

This goes for everybody in general. ..." ain't no pain like from the opposite sex"

 

Like I and others have said only time heals.

No doubt about it, you are going to feel like crap for quite a while.

How long? I don't know, it depends on the person.

I was with my first real gf for 3 years. And I was crying like a bitch for 6 months to probably a year after.

And let me tell you, she was hot as hell. Let me repeat a fucking dime piece. As a matter a fact till this day I haven't been with one sexier than her. But, it's all good because I was 18 to 21 with her. Now I am 25 and have banged many more girls, and more importantly I learned a lot from her and other girls about the things I like and dislike in a woman.

And looking back now, I can clearly see what I couldn't see then, that she was not the right girl for me.
You'll get older and realize what you really want in a woman: Integrity, Loyalty, flexibility, attractiveness and of course a great attitude! etc..

Having a gf and being single both have there pros and cons.
You are young like me and many others here. Stay busy and the right girl will come along when you not looking for her, and when she does you might even miss being single.

Now it's time to drink, eat, and watch UFC 121!!

-Paul

 

Twice for me...

They ask why all men are assholes, or why all men have trust issues and shit?
It's because all men have had a woman in their life that's done that to them.

 

While I was going out with my gf she wasn't the only thing that was on my mind. I had school and work going on while I was dating her. For some reason it didn't hurt as much as my first break up, but I think that is pretty normal huh? If my ex was single I think she would have hard time not keeping in contact with me but now she is going out with a butt hole. lol

 

That sucks! Tow grand down the drain!

 

I am taking a longggggg break from dating.

 

Well, that is something I will have to think about. Part of me wants to accept her and the other part doesn't want to accept her. We will have to see if she even comes back. I will keep you guys posted. lol

 

When I went out with my first gf and she broke up with me I was crying like a little girl for the first couple months. The gf who recently broke up with me I didn't shed one tear. I was hurt, but I am not going to cry over it because that was going to push her away. After she broke up with me she asked if I was okay as in was I crying??? No, I didn't cry. It hurts but it's not worth crying over.

 

I hear ya, man. I still dream about my girl almost every night. It's really depressing. (she broke up with me a few weeks ago after dating for 3 years)

 

Go to a strip club ..feel some new tittayss ...move on...keep very busy ...If your busy all the time you wont have time to think about it....best of luck

 

^No thanks

 

x2 I have been single for a little over a year now... loved it. Did everything I have wanted to do while I was in the last relationship for 2.5 years. I am just now starting to get back in to the scene.

 

^ That is what I plan on doing.

 

Damn i am hung over...Anyway, I didn't mean cry in the literal sense.

You may not have cried but obviously this girl got to you.

My advise: never talk to her again. But, I'd get some new trim but stay single for a while until you grow a pair. No offense.


You need a girl who will do your and you off and let you her and go out with your buds an get come home and

her again then wake up and she better have breakfast on the table

because you know what, your and she knows her roll.

K im done

-Paul