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I guess all good things come to an end..

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by Kappes03, Oct 15, 2010.

  1. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:37 AM
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    Kappes03

    Kappes03 [OP] Legend of the UG

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    My girlfriend and I of 2 and a half years are parting ways. Combination of things with her trusting me, somewhat smothering, and a alot of pressure. I just couldn't do it anymore but did I make the right decision? I know I loved her but I don't know if I was in love with her. We talked about our future, house, marriage, etc often.

    Things that have steered me away is she would always ask "are you sure I am not just a comfort?" or "I love you more than you love me" And I hated those statements.

    I'm not one who talks a lot about my emotions. I have had a rough life growing up and I've learned to deal with them so I tend to keep things inside. It kills me to hurt her, but I just don't feel as happy as I could be.

    We are very different from each other. I am very outgoing, I make friends easily, I love sports, beer and just hanging out with my friends. She is very quiet, doesn't talk much around my other friends and not nearly as outgoing at all. And if I go out with some friends I would feel guilty cuz I didn't stay home with her, yet she doesn't want to go but still seems sad I left. Which by the way was once a week I would go out and be back by 1230 per her request.

    I just hope I made the right decision. It kills me that I hurt her and I promised I wouldn't. She's gonna stay with her mom this weekend and we'll figure out how we are splitting things which isn't too hard considering she has much more than me.

    Just wanted to get this out in the open and I know there are a lot of you that have been through what I am going through. I just don't want to second guess myself for breaking up with her. I know she hurts as do I. But I think I can get through this. Thanks for listening.

    -mike
     
  2. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:41 AM
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    go lay some pipe, you'll fel better
     
  3. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:43 AM
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    That shits rough man, I'm sorry to hear this. It sounds like you 2 are better off apart. It just doesn't feel that way because you've been together a while....time heals all wounds man...you'll be okay
     
  4. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:44 AM
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    on a positive note, at least now you'll have more money to spend on the truck
     
  5. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:45 AM
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    :laughing:
     
  6. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:47 AM
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    Seabass

    Seabass I need to go return some videotapes...

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    Put your nuts back on and go get some new poon. Nothing wrong with being a little selfish at 24 years old. Live life a little.. plenty of time to settle down later. If you're having doubts now, you just did yourself a favor instead of finding out after you got married. My rule - spend at least 3 years together (preferably living together) before you marry.
     
  7. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:55 AM
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    DeeKay21

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    Sorry to hear the news. Maybe some time apart will help you sort some stuff out. You might even want to get back with her. You know what they say....time makes the heart grow fonder.:cool: But this will be a good experience in the long run and I hope you learn a lot from it. Good luck, I've been there, trust me.
     
  8. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:55 AM
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    24 years old? i promise..every new chick gets better and better. you grow and develope what you like and dislike in a girlfriend. it is natural.

    i love a woman that i can drop into a crowded party, and she can hang with strangers. it creates balance. i dont want one that depends on me for social strength. no balance. puts the odds too much in my favor. i would get bored.
     
  9. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:56 AM
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    agreed :)
     
  10. Oct 15, 2010 at 10:58 AM
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    blackhawke88

    blackhawke88 wo ai ni bao bei ^_^

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    delete her off ur phone, facebook and delete/remove anything that can remind u of her...unless u still want to be friends, which will hurt her more than u know it
     
  11. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:01 AM
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    keep in mind. all the above advice is no good if you are really ugly and have no game ;)
     
  12. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:01 AM
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    blackhawke88 wo ai ni bao bei ^_^

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    ^ lol! in which case u fucked up by breaking up with her
     
  13. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:02 AM
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    Thats too bad. From a girls point a view :) I think you should just take some time apart. Two years is a long time to just end it. You might actually really like the fact your girl isnt way out going, for example. Usually if a girl is super friendly, it can come off as flirting to her guy. Just saying . . .
     
  14. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:04 AM
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    Thanks guys. Time will only tell. She even said we can't be friends which I understand
     
  15. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:06 AM
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    Yea I'm also hideous. Guess I'm fucked :(
     
  16. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:11 AM
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    Then at that point don't even attempt to try to contact her. Delete her off your phone/Facebook etc, just leave her alone and forget her. If she really cares she will attempt to contact you, just give it time don't try to rush these kind of things.... That only makes it worse.
     
  17. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:26 AM
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    Dude I am going through the same shit. Almost two years...girl is totally shy, and gets mad/sad when i hangout with my friends. MY best advice for the breakup..

    Like everyone said delete her completely. On facebook I even blocked her so its like I dont exist. Dont have to worry about them messaging you or lurking around looking at your new stuff. And another thing is find a new hobby, or get involved in an old one. Do anything to keep your mind off of it. Hangout with close friends. And find someone who you can talk to anytime. thats what I'm doing. And it still hurts but it always will.


    Oh and like someone said....LAY SOME PIPE!!!
     
  18. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:27 AM
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    Best advice on here.
     
  19. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:30 AM
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    blackhawke88

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    although I agree with this advice, the good feeling is only temporary, and when you're laying in bed alone again, she'll pop right back in ur mind. I still think about all my ex's, and i find it's easier to become friends with them down the road than to completely alienate them. But for now deleting her from your life will help out a lot.

    Drinking heavily wont really help out that well either because u'll do dumb shit when ur heart broken and drunk and feel even shittier with ur missing her and hung over.
     
  20. Oct 15, 2010 at 11:31 AM
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    sucks to hear Mike, things will get better. I'll see you in a few weeks and i'll bring some feel better juice especially for you.
     
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