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I need to vent..you all are the only people around

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by atticus951, Jun 17, 2010.

  1. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:23 PM
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    atticus951

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    Okay...tough few days. I have been happily married for 20 (well would have been 20 years sat) to my wife Jenny. I come in tues and I couldnt find her. She wasnt home althouh her car was. I tried calling, no answer. I figure shes with one of her girlfriends. 10 o'clock comes. still nothing. I get ready for bed worrying myself to death. Surely nothing was wrong right? Taped to my mirror was a letter. It read

    Hank,

    I am so sorry, but I must leave. This everyday life is killing me. I need something exotic to spice up my otherwise dull existence. I hope you can forgive me in time, but this is my decision and there is nothing that you can do to change it. Time will heal this I'm sure.

    Jenny

    I don't know what to do. She was the love of my life. I have sacrificed so much to make this work. I thought by no means were we dull and boring. I would randomly take her on trips. I tried everything to keep it spontaneous. What do I do? :(
     
  2. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:25 PM
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    Blue

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    holy shit man i feel for you. I hope you move on and keep your chin up
     
  3. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:26 PM
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    Redfox1

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    whoa. that hurts. Good luck man.
     
  4. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:27 PM
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    chris4x4

    chris4x4 With sufficient thrust, pigs fly just fine. Moderator

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    WHOA! Thats pretty heavy. Console in friends, and Familly. Talk to people.
     
  5. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:28 PM
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    Sullyman

    Sullyman Crusty ole' conservative fart

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    Dude - there's nothing anyone will say to make the pain go away...only time can do that...but rest assured it will...I've got a retired USMC friend who's wife left him not long ago...he was devastated at first, but he's now lovin' life!
     
  6. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:29 PM
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    Wow...so sorry man :(
     
  7. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:29 PM
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    mick478

    mick478 He is The STig

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    i cant believe how greedy and selfish people are. you're sacrificing this that, making it work, and she just gives up? greedy and selfish.....
    I hope you get through this man, this sucks. maybe she will come back, and if she does, you should think twice about what she did to you, and the fact that she did it once, and can do it again. good luck man and hold that chin up. its gonna be a tough few days, weeks, but you will get through.
     
  8. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:29 PM
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    atticus951

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    Thats the thing. I havent talked to anyone in my family in ages. We had a big fallout over Jenny and I. How do I explain this to my kids? HOw does someone just walk away from 2 children?
     
  9. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:30 PM
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    ToucanV13

    ToucanV13 You think I was rollin out here naked?

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    Holy fuck bro! X2 to what Chris said
     
  10. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:30 PM
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    how old are your kids?
     
  11. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:31 PM
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    Snap... That's bogus dude...

    In light of her uncompassionate way of ending a seemingly good relationship, this saying comes to mind...

    "If you love something, set it free.
    If it comes back to you, it's yours.
    If it doesn't it never was..."

    * WHOA..! 2 kids..! You never mentioned that the 1st time around... Thats very selfish of her...

    :(
     
  12. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:31 PM
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  13. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:31 PM
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    Wait, just leaving you was bad enough, but she left 2 kids too?
     
  14. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:31 PM
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    AND SHE LEFT HER KIDS BEHIND???!!!
    wow.
     
  15. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:32 PM
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    chris4x4

    chris4x4 With sufficient thrust, pigs fly just fine. Moderator

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    I would suggest talking to a counseler. Then, seeing what they say. Kids being involved makes this 100x's worse, and more difficult to deal with. Cant explain why someone would do this. BUT, It happened....Now, You need to focus on the kids, and yourself. Talk to someone ASAP. Do let your mind wander and think too deeply into the "What happened/What If".
     
  16. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:32 PM
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    ToucanV13

    ToucanV13 You think I was rollin out here naked?

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    This is how people walk away from two kids and a loving partner

    Hope you get through this quick man. You don't think you could try calling your family? Either way, blood's thicker than water. Hopefully they would understand
     
  17. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:33 PM
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    X2 on everything he said!
     
  18. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:34 PM
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    Damn, man that sucks!
    Hope everything works out for you, and if she doesn't come back I hope you can find someone else to be with.
     
  19. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:34 PM
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    sorry but she sounds like a bitch. Like chris said try talking to a counsler
     
  20. Jun 17, 2010 at 9:35 PM
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    atticus951

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    What I just dont get is how she can leave them. If she want to leave me fine. Dont leave the children too. They are in texas with their aunt for a few weeks.
     
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