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i want kids, she doesnt!

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by vtragweed, Sep 28, 2009.

  1. Sep 28, 2009 at 5:36 PM
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    vtragweed

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    my wife now told me that a year ago she wanted to have kids. we started talking about it this even and now she says she doesnt want kids. ive thought about cheating a few times, not really gonna lie. i consider myself a good looking guy and i feel i work hard for what i have and deserve better then a maybe at life. now i need opinions, divorce and find someone better, cheat and hope something works out?
     
  2. Sep 28, 2009 at 5:38 PM
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    98tacoma27

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    Whoa! That seems a little excessive. Have you asked why she doesn't want kids? Is this a sudden change?
     
  3. Sep 28, 2009 at 5:44 PM
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    yeah she works out all the time and her mom and dad split up when she was young i think shes afraid its gonna be us, and its been a change from 6-12 months ago
     
  4. Sep 28, 2009 at 5:56 PM
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    I'm 36 and my last girlfriend was 38, she has a 12 year old kid, she told me from the start, the kid was hard to recover from physically,and she will never have another one, she is tone,slim and does yoga every day, 2 weeks into our relationship she tells me she wants to have a baby with me. That my friends is the reason i am single again,..I think women worry about what kids do to their body, and it is hard for a woman to go through that and be able to bounce back to hot chick in a bikini mode fast enough. If you love her let her know, skinny or fat, preggers or not, she is your wife, don't cheat, and no, there is not a woman looking over my shoulder right now.
     
  5. Sep 28, 2009 at 5:58 PM
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  6. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:01 PM
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  7. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:01 PM
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    used to be slipping them into her cherrios and she thought i was just that good with the pull-out! if she only knew :D
     
  8. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:02 PM
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    hey man, dont cheat on your wife, maybe you need you need to ask her why she doenst want kids or what changed her mind so drastically from a year ago. and if that doesnt work, maybe you might wanna get marital counseling to see if you guys can come up with something. how long have you been married?
     
  9. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:04 PM
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    going on 1.5 months but been together since 05
     
  10. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:07 PM
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    ok well, maybe you might wanna wait a bit and see how things go. talk to her more as her husband and continue to love her. sow her your support and that you understand if she doenst want children right now, but tell her that you would liek to have children at a later time. just my opinion
     
  11. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:08 PM
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    You dont want my advice we have a 2year old and 4 month old triplets
     
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    grrr...
    are you thinking about cheating to produce a child or just to fullfill your sense of lust for skanks? 1,5 months is VERY soon to be thinking about adultery, maybe you should get an aunalment(sp?) cuz shit is just gonna get worse, and you aint getting any younger. so get a divorce and start again...
     
  15. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:13 PM
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    your advice doesnt count, get some sleep man
     
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    My suggestion would be to sit down and discuss why you want to have children, and why she doesn't. Discuss the ups and downs of both, maybe one of you will convince the other to see things their way. Ask her if she never wants to have children or if she's just not ready at this point in her life. If it's about what it will do to her body, then you could always adopt a child. While this may not be your biological child you can still love it as your own and perhaps save it from a bad life. :notsure:
     
  17. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:21 PM
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    maybe this came out wrong, its not that i wanna cheat, or have some child with some skank. i just feel im getting cheated here when shes always had her heart set on children, i know a woman's mind changes like the weather but shit, shouldnt a few months be enough time to think about this? :rolleyes:
     
  18. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:34 PM
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  19. Sep 28, 2009 at 6:40 PM
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    yeh man... dont cheat... 1.5 months is a very short time.. im not married never have been... but i know i will not want kids at only 1.5 months being married.... relax... love your wife... have fun... when the time comes... that will be the time.... your only 28... you still got a little while...

    good luck man!
     
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    If she is worried about losing her body.. my wife is always whining about getting "big" bc she is preggo.. until she was reading her baby book and saw that breast feeding burns alot of calories and helps in losing the baby weight.. plus she is super motivated to lose it all and get her body back..
     
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